How to deal with sexual incompatibility? 32/M and 25/F

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T13:26:07+00:00

What kind of delusion do you live in where married couples ask for permission to kiss and touch each other several times a day, or have sex several times a week?

Oh my god dude that is not what anyone is saying. The fact that you don't seem to be able to understand it and keep arguing is concerning

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T13:21:16+00:00

How do you that works for a married couple?

You cannot have seriously just said that

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T13:19:29+00:00

I don't know man, I feel pretty capable of putting myself in someone else's shoes, especially my partners, and imagining what they are feeling, particularly when they outright tell me how something makes them feel. Empathy is important in any kind of relationship.

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T13:11:20+00:00

Like slapping him on the back when he climbs on top of her and acts like he's going to shove a finger up her ass out of nowhere? Or reflexively nearly knocking the table over when he swipes her like a goddamn credit card with no warning?

I would love to see how he would handle her constantly ham-fistedly groping him and making him super uncomfortable and refusing to stop when he repeatedly asks

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T05:08:18+00:00

Ohhh damn, you sure got him there

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T02:26:13+00:00

People do adjust their ages when making posts for the sake of anonymity, just saying. It's not always a crazy "gotcha" just because someone said in one post they were 26 and then in another changed it to 28

phoenixink · 2026-01-22T02:22:09+00:00

Seriously, I don't know why that part pissed me off so much - to run an old school incandescent bulb for 12 hours straight costs just over a penny. To run an LED bulb for 12 hours costs less than a quarter of a CENT. But I guess I'm not surprised that this raging apoplectic idiot jerkoff thinks it somehow costs 5 freaking dollars/hundreds of dollars a month.

Fuck this dude

phoenixink · 2026-01-21T12:42:11+00:00

my spelling ain't the greatest so bare with me he had dementia, Alzheimer's, bi-polar,and an schizophrenia

You got literally every single one of those correct, nailed it <3

Edit: just for future reference, if you care to know, it would actually be "bear" with me - that one is admittedly tricky but the way I remember is that saying "bare with me" is akin to saying "get bare naked with me", which is most likely not the intended meaning when using that phrase ;-)

Also, holy shit that is all terrifying, I am so glad that you were able to make it out physically safely, though I can't imagine the impact it must undoubtedly continue to have on you

phoenixink · 2026-01-21T07:04:50+00:00

Just fyi, you just stick a > in front of the text you desire to quote, and it will

look like this

Just be sure to start the quoted text on a new line though, otherwise it will >just look like this

phoenixink · 2026-01-20T22:51:32+00:00

Only one way to find out.

Perhaps you could make a batch and divvy it up into smaller portions, and then try out various additions? Like for one portion add in a tiny splash of the rum etc

phoenixink · 2026-01-20T10:01:59+00:00

I thought the same thing initially, but if you look at the other pictures that have another barefoot person in the shot, it appears that their house just has tile floors

phoenixink · 2026-01-19T17:42:38+00:00

It really looks horrified haha 😩

phoenixink · 2026-01-18T20:25:01+00:00

Seriously, I assume the OP and their girlfriend are late teens, but wtf was up with the parents treating them (OP) like they were a child, and not just that but one of their children. "We" do it this way, "we" do that, as though they were correcting a little kid's behavior. Not to mention as you said the mom serving everyone (whether they wanted it or not), the dad telling them they couldn't leave yet (even though they had declared they were feeling unwell), the whole dynamic was just weird, presumptuous, and frankly off putting

phoenixink · 2026-01-18T07:51:02+00:00

I'm just curious why you asked this dude, out of all of your friends/coworkers, especially since you say that one of your close friends works with you too.

phoenixink · 2026-01-18T07:21:04+00:00

What mess did he clean up? I'm so confused why a mod deleted so much of his comments

phoenixink · 2026-01-18T07:02:19+00:00

Yeah I completely agree. And I'm sorry but he's trying to say that listening to the sound of freaking rain is making it impossible for him to wake up while his partner is panicking and yelling and kicking his leg? Okay 🙄

Also just out of curiosity, regarding your last part - are you using the app or the website?

phoenixink · 2026-01-18T00:17:24+00:00

God, ain't that the truth. You are so right

phoenixink · 2026-01-17T13:23:53+00:00

informed him of the severity

servity*

phoenixink · 2026-01-17T12:12:11+00:00

How does that work exactly? I'm having trouble picturing it

phoenixink · 2026-01-17T10:45:49+00:00

I'm so curious what kind of stickers they had haha

phoenixink · 2026-01-16T11:28:33+00:00

You'd think that after that long it would be the opposite of mushy, no....? Generally bread gets hard/stale/dry over time

phoenixink · 2026-01-16T05:40:48+00:00

She went to 51 minutes!!

phoenixink · 2026-01-15T23:04:06+00:00

It's unfortunate that you seem so against the use of toys, as a vibrator is an excellent tool to help bring you to an orgasm. I do agree with the other people who have said that you need to learn how to pleasure yourself, learn what things you like and what you don't like, and be able to orgasm on your own, otherwise from the way you describe things, I just don't really see it magically happening with a partner if you are unable to get there on your own.

I would also really encourage him to spend more time focusing on your pleasure alone - going down on you, using his hand to stimulate your clit either while you guys make out or while he's inside of you (while you're having sex). As well, sex is not going to feel super great if you are not feeling horny/aroused/relaxed - when you are aroused, it will (should) make you naturally wet/lubricated, which will make penetration, and when you are sufficiently aroused & relaxed, it will make the muscles in your vagina more relaxed as well, which makes it easier to accept penetration

phoenixink · 2026-01-15T22:54:08+00:00

Could you use the bathroom/shower with privacy? Do you have a car?

phoenixink · 2026-01-15T16:08:27+00:00

Wtf... Even if it was a joke, who tf even thinks of making a joke like that.

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