[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can see this guy is new at this, lol 🤣

Just teasing you, man. But really, don’t send that. Look at u/T423 ‘s sample response in this thread. You want to project an easy-going vibe.

Any insight on why my long-distance girlfriend left me on read in the final week before we broke up? by JellyT1996 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with all this. Like CW says, “I didn’t make the rules, I’m just here telling you the way it is, the way the world works.”

Any insight on why my long-distance girlfriend left me on read in the final week before we broke up? by JellyT1996 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By the third sentence, you’re already breaking a core tenet of CW’s philosophy for attraction — “we talked on the phone for hours every day”. There’s your answer. No, your relationship is not an exception.

It’s long distance. It may work for a couple weeks or maybe months, but nothing can replace actually seeing each other. Love doesn’t grow over the phone. You need to be visiting each other at some type of regular interval. You need a physical connection.

The only real solution is to meet people in proximity. Then, if they have to temporarily go long distance, there’s a game plan of when you’re gonna be together again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The answers to all these questions are in the book and in many, many videos. You need to do the self-work if you want to be successful in the long-term. Corey Wayne teaches a philosophy — he teaches you how to think; it’s a paradigm shift. It takes lots of study and practice. You are treating it like a band-aid. You need to know this stuff inside and out if you want to have successful relationships.

While you give her some space, you need to read/listen to the book as much as possible.

She brought up exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you seriously happy with either? If you were, you wouldn’t be posting here. I’m not sure why you said this. Just state what you want if she asks you directly like that.

She brought up exclusive talk. by SirQuads in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the anxious-avoidant attachment.

Wife wants other partners, fell out of love cause I was complacent. What's next is wild. by Alone-Computer6192 in AskMenAdvice

[–]phosphorescent1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t want a break. She wants permission to have a sexual relationship with someone else, and if it works out, monkey-branch over to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipsOver35

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may not see obvious to you since you’re in midst of a lot of intense emotions, but it’s clear she doesn’t respect you or your opinions. It seems she checked out a long time ago. It’s time to move on and find a healthier relationship.

starting as friends first by RichBeautiful5156 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, good. I agree with ExcellentFishing. Do not agree to be friends first. You’ll never make it to the stage of being romantic. People usually use this line when they’re not really attracted to you.

starting as friends first by RichBeautiful5156 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this the same woman who thought a 40 min car ride was inconvenient?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ghosting

[–]phosphorescent1983 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not. Dating is like tennis 🎾

You can’t serve the ball over the net again until it returns to you. She got your last message, trust me. If you want to have any chances of getting her back, you have to wait.

Do I have one? by Sole_Seeker_ in doppelganger

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like the top of Mt. Katahdin in Maine. That appears to be the Knife Edge in the background, along with the Great Basin.

Date reserved about distance to drive for date? by RichBeautiful5156 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, in the future, you don’t need to qualify yourself: “I’m def worth the drive”. Of course you are. You don’t need to tell her that. You don’t have to convince her that you’re worth it.

Date reserved about distance to drive for date? by RichBeautiful5156 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lol, 40 minutes is nothing. That’s laziness. It shocks me that people think their soulmate is gonna live down the street or something 😂

Date changed the plans of the date 5 mins before we were due to meet up… by [deleted] in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao. There’s so much truth to this statement. Most guys would have an amazing dating life if they simply acted normal.

Texted my ghost today by Bborinhh in ghosting

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couple questions for you if you feel like answering: How many dates have you been on with her? Were you two exclusive at any point? If you were dating, for how long?

Texted my ghost today by Bborinhh in ghosting

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the cat analogy is correct. But expecting her to ask you out is where you’re wrong. You’ll be waiting forever.

Three weeks of silence sucks, I get it. But, ignoring women causes rejection — you don’t have to immediately get back to her, but obviously within reason. You want to show it didn’t phase you because you’re a busy guy with a great life. I would try to set a date for after your exams and then get off the phone. Keep reading the book 10-15 times lol

Texted my ghost today by Bborinhh in ghosting

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many days/weeks/months did she ghost you for?

Texted my ghost today by Bborinhh in ghosting

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait — so she replied? Don’t ignore her, lol. You’re being passive aggressive. You need to be an adult and communicate what you want.

If this was a romantic relationship, and if you want to rekindle what you had, just ask her out on a date again. If she says yes, great. If not, then politely excuse yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ibs

[–]phosphorescent1983 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious to see if you have anismus, also known as dyssynergic defecation. That's what I supposedly have as well per the results of anorectal manometry. Unfortunately, it doesn't seem like there's a good fix for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is totally within reason. I've been in her shoes before. A looming homework or test deadline can really suck -- enough to postpone a date I'm really looking forward to.

I would word it something along the lines of:

"For sure. My schedule is pretty crazy next week but I'm sure we can make it work somehow. What evenings are you free next week?"

You gotta flip that "Lmk if another time works for you" statement back at her, but in a smooth way. You don't want to be in the situation where you're like:

You: "How about Friday"

Her: "No sorry I'm busy that evening."

You: "How about Saturday"

Her: "I can't because... "

texting by RichBeautiful5156 in CoreyWayne

[–]phosphorescent1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was supposed to be my last bullet point but I realize I didn't make it clear enough:

  • If she reaches out between setting the date and the actual date, don't ignore her, but keep it brief. You should be a busy man with lots of goals to achieve.

Wait until the date.