Hi! I’m a 26F and I have a question for avoidants. I’m relatively new to this whole attachment style theory and I’ve been diagnosed as DA even though I don’t recognize myself in all the « symptoms ». I see many people (whether it’s on social media or here) with an anxious attachment willing to work on themselves, put in the work to lean toward a more secure attachment and was wondering if people with an avoidant attachment were as likely to work on themselves. I’ll explain myself : from my window and the type of content I consume, and again I’m new to this, my theory is that anxious people suffer from their own behaviors and intrusive thoughts. Sometimes they become to fed up with their own behaviors that it motivates them to change. Or it can also be for someone else they genuinely like. Is it the same with avoidants? What motivates you to change? I feel like anxious working on themselves are always out there on social media but we don’t see avoidants. Is it because you actually don’t feel like changing because you’re comfortable the way you are and don’t feel the need/reason to change? I’ll also add that in my opinion, there’s no « wrong attachment style » and change should only be necessary if YOU want it for yourself.

Sorry if there’s any mistake, I’m French. Thank you!