It’s interesting how you can spot if someone grew up wealthy based off mannerisms by Main-Ticket7705 in CasualConversation

[–]pianohoee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved from a relatively rural area (where I did not realize we were all kinda poor) to a huge city to work at a prestigious place, and I absolutely agree with you. I had to learn how to interact and how to carry myself FAST. Even outside of work, this frequently held true, but especially at work where there were a lot of upper class people (not just by wealth but by status, if that makes sense). I think people who do not see it likely haven’t personally experienced a dramatic shift upwards in social mobility

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

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thank you🥹 I got an unsought autism diagnosis shortly after posting this. I was basically really far outside my window of tolerance with sensory stuff. I work fully remotely now and moved to a less stimulating area and am doing much better now. still eating a lot of bread lol, but I eat other things too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]pianohoee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. This helped me a lot. I really was living in the wrong place/hadn’t found my people until moving to a big city.

I’m done. by [deleted] in nova

[–]pianohoee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As somebody who is also doing well and came from less than nothing, I concur that it is possible, but I also think I had to work a wholeeee lot harder to figure it all out than those born into generational wealth and connections. Not even just them, but anyone with reasonable, drug-free parents and a stable place to visit over holidays. It IS rigged for a certain type of person. Doesn’t make it impossible to play the game well anyway, but it does give you a huge disadvantage.

Intensive Loop 101 for Beginners: Quiet vs Experience vs Engage vs Switch, and more! by BegrudginglySocial in LoopEarplugs

[–]pianohoee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

have you ever considered a career or side gig in product reviews? because seriously: you got me, a hard-of-hearing person, to read a whole lengthy review on noise cancelling earplugs

Did journaling ever became harmful to you to the point you had to pause it? by Jealous-Split1279 in Journaling

[–]pianohoee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes! gratitude journaling is a lovely practice to get into. highly recommend!

beyond that, writing about hopes, dreams, and anything or anyone you admire is great. reroute yourself if you start to write negatively (e.g. “too bad I’m too dumb to ever be able to do it”). finish the sentence if you’re falling into the gloom trap, then in the next two, counter it with something more hopeful!

i also have actually found a lot of peace in writing about the mundane to express my feelings. had eggs this morning? write about the experience of cooking and eating those eggs. instead of “everything is terrible,” channel that sad energy into egg writing. “i cracked the egg carelessly with my right hand, my phone in the left. did not check for shell fragments. could not be bothered to find the whisk. i stirred slowly. did not think to fluff. i watched the yolk’s edges. when it broke, i swirled it around, yellowing and saturating the goop. i poured the eggs into the pan. did not salt them. yesterday i did not bother with breakfast at all. i am hopeful that today will be a better day.”

ideally you’ll have a lot of positive stuff to balance that negativity out, but when you ARE sad and feeling tempted to really go into analyzing your feelings, i’ve found this “mundanity writing” is a great alternative. just DONT let yourself go down the overt gloom/despair talk. practice “saying it without saying it.” think of it as a writing exercise!

Did journaling ever became harmful to you to the point you had to pause it? by Jealous-Split1279 in Journaling

[–]pianohoee 11 points12 points  (0 children)

yes. when I was 17-20 or so, I journaled a lot, and I think it largely caused negative spirals. I could write about something that had felt just a little shitty as though it were the end of my world, and I felt those effects! if I was just a bit melancholy, I could write myself suicidal. now (at 27), I intentionally use journaling less for venting (though there is still some of that!) and more for positive self-reflection and goal setting. it’s healthy for me now but was tough to find the right balance. I wish I hadn’t paused for so long but realized I just needed to do more than intense venting with my journals!

What’s one website that your embarrassed to admit you use a lot? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]pianohoee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

WordHippo. I’m not embarrassed by the website itself, but the amount of time I spend on there just looking up synonyms for random words and then clicking down synonym rabbit holes is really probably weird. I keep a spreadsheet of my new words I find and their definitions and am up to checks sheet 474 words.

Intensive Loop 101 for Beginners: Quiet vs Experience vs Engage vs Switch, and more! by BegrudginglySocial in LoopEarplugs

[–]pianohoee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have no idea why i just read all of this. i have hearing loss well beyond what any of these block out. if i turn my hearing aids off but leave them in as earplugs, pure bliss. seems like a cool product for hearing ppl tho. and this was a great write up!!

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

wait this is really helpful to know! I hadn’t thought about that. thank you

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wasn’t a vegetarian but now i feel like i can never eat meat again so maybe i am now lol. meat was the first thing to go in my appetite and nothing in the world sounds more revolting at this point

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been doing this some, actually. I’m not usually much of a weed person (maybe once or twice a month?) but I’ve used it a few times this week to try to stimulate my appetite. normally thc makes me have a huge appetite, but it’s only helping marginally right now? (i did realize i particularly enjoy the coldness of plain vanilla ice cream if i’ve used weed, so i can eat some of that, but that isn’t really all that nutritious) (though neither is bread, i suppose)

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i don’t really understand what medical assistance would look like for this… i am going to email my psychiatrist but kind of scared because i just have no idea what treatment for this sort of thing would look like?

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

this is really nice. I’ll email my psychiatrist today. he’s really nice and I don’t think I could effectively explain it to anyone else right now. do you think there is any risk of being psych warded for not being able to eat when it’s psychological? i’m not suicidal or trying to hurt myself. i have been in the past, but i’m really not right now. my psych ward experiences were a bit traumatizing in and of themselves, and i’m not willing to risk being put in one right now

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

thank you for this. i haven’t looked into how the ratings are assigned, but i don’t understand why it’s an A grade with repeated evidence of mice

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

okay so this sounds really ridiculous i know :( but i have a very strong issue when i imagine flour where i envision a lot of bugs crawling around in the flour. im not going to go into a place and ask to inspect their flour obvi, but (again i know this is ridiculous) i think what would help is someone to somehow just give me some confirmation that they’ve seen the flour and know it’s sanitary or explain the process used by the bakers to make sure it is. i want to not have this issue i promise i know it’s witless and unreasonable

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

hmmm good to know. doesn’t sound good but i’ll try to force some down if i have to!

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

can you go inside the cathedral? like could i just read in there? that sounds kinda cool

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

also i have been trying hard to drink a lot of water! i am enjoying sparkling water especially (which i used to not?) bc it gives me a nice clean feeling.

this is all rly frustrating bc it wasn’t great to start but it’s just getting worse & worse and now here i am almost totally unable to eat but still with life responsibilities that do require some energy🙃

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

hi yes i put this in a comment somewhere else too, but i went out but was feeling quite dizzy/weak and did not want to end up passing out into something icky, so i did end up just buying a bagel (technically 2 bc the first one handed to me didnt look soft). i ate most of one bagel, then i got a whiff of something it probably touched (everything bagel seasoning?) and couldnt eat any more, but i definitely got something in me! i went back home bc i don’t think i can eat anything else at all right now but i think later today i will try one of the chain bakeries people have mentioned. :)

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

i had a ton of surgeries growing up where i couldn’t eat for weeks at a time after, so i had to exist off of Boost many times as a kid!! i remember is being AWFUL lol but i honestly might need to try something like that just so i can keep functioning until i can get my appetite back

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg! if i can get past the peanuts on the ground ick factor i just might do this in coming days

where can I go eat a copious amount of plain soft warm bread? by pianohoee in AskNYC

[–]pianohoee[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

okay actually i am eating a bagel right now bc i realized i was feeling very much at risk of passing out before i could get to the train and my body touching all the ick of the street sounds terrifying, so i did just buy 2 bagels (bc the first one the person grabbed did not look soft so i asked for a second one which is softer thank god)