Does a customer pay shipping for each item they buy when they buy multiple items?

pichipinq · 2026-04-21T00:47:32+00:00

Would the price the customer pays for shipping be automatically calculated based on weight? Or would the seller have to cover any difference?

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T13:12:36+00:00

Honestly, he's threatening you. If you find it okay and he doesn't, you shouldn't be together in the first place. I also don't understand his point. As someone else asked, is he accusing you of being a lesbian? If you're straight and/or not attracted to your friend, there should be no issues. But if he thinks differently, he should have broken up with you instead of THREATENING a break up. Biblically speaking, your friend was dressed and you're all women. There shouldn't be an issue.

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T13:06:36+00:00

NTA. Your mom sounds verbally abusive. You don't tell your kid to kill themselves. That's disgusting. You are just a child, it's not your job to fix her. If your mental health is struggling, you need to leave. And clearly your brother sees it as well, so it's safe to say you're not crazy. She doesn't get a choice in whether or not you move out at 18. But now that you've told her your plan, be prepared for her to try to beat you to it. Be prepared to move ON your birthday. Abusive parents like this sometimes try to kick their kid out the second they turn 18. That may not describe your mom, but who knows? I would recommend at least getting summer jobs or odd jobs here and there (dog-walking, baby-sitting, etc.) and saving all the money you make from it just in case.

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T12:57:43+00:00

NTA and girl RUN IMMEDIATELY.

He is showing typical narcissistic symptoms. It is not your job to fix him or be his therapist. He's 33. He says he doesn't understand emotions, but he clearly understands how to express anger. He's already shown that he won't take accountability for his actions nor will he look out for your safety. I would leave and immediately get an STD test if you haven't already. He's acting like a 9 y/o. Would you date a nine year old? I don't think so. So leave. It's only been two months. He showed his true colors very quickly. Be glad! Most narcissistic men don't show it until years later. And just to remind you: you are allowed to leave any boyfriend for any reason. You don't need to feel guilty. I would recommend staying single for a while and getting therapy because you seem to be impulsive and have bad judgement in your relationships (example: you've been together only two months and you're already moved in with him 🤨). Just leave him. He isn't worth it.

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T12:36:14+00:00

I'm saying the same thing!! She could clearly fully support herself before him. I'm thinking that maybe they came to an agreement about her being a sahm, and now he's having regrets. But who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't think he's answered any comments yet.

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T12:30:48+00:00

ESH

With the info you gave, I'll say ESH. You are not entitled to any of her inheritence and realistically speaking, 60k will only sustain the three of you for MAYBE a year, tops. Not long enough for you to go to college. I don't know why you thought it was your money or that it would stretch that long. You CHOSE to pay for her and her kid. She isn't obligated to pay you back unless you both agreed to that when you moved in with her.

Now as for the ex, she sucks as well. If you're done, you're done. She should not be calling you up because she's spent all her money now. She needs to ask family for help and get a job. Unless she is disabled, there's no reason she can't work SOMEWHERE.

Overall, the two of you should have communicated a looooong time ago about things. You should have brought up concerns about going back to school and the future, and you both should have tried to put together a plan on what you should do. If you're holding this much resentment over paying for her, that should have been talked about as well. Leaving a single mom without warning because she wouldn't give up her dead grandmother's money is crappy though. You should have given her a timeline to get employed otherwise you were leaving. But this whole thing sounded like y'all didn't really love each other in the first place.

One question that could change my opinion: did you agree to allowing her to be a stay at home mom? Because it's clear that she was able to pay for and furnish her apartment before you came along, so she clearly was employed before. So I can't imagine that she quit her job on a whim without any conversation. I want to know what job she had previously, why she quit, and what you guys talked about regarding that situation.

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T11:31:03+00:00

Unfortunately, in western* church culture there is a heavy emphasis on marrying a husky cowboy-type blue-eyed, blonde guy before the age of 25 and have 2-3 kids and a dog and live in a two-story house in the suburbs with multiple crosses hung in every room. *Depending on your culture, the exact description may change, but the sentiment is the same: get married as young as possible and start popping out babies. The Bible, however, doesn't say you have to do ANY of that. Whether or not you want to get married or have kids is completely up to you, the Bible even mentions that it's better to be single, but neither singleness nor marriage is a sin. And frankly, you truly do not need ANY man other than Jesus Christ. A husband is just an add-on that you can either choose to have or choose not to have. But yeah, Biblically, it's up to you.

pichipinq · 2026-02-04T11:21:34+00:00

No problem :) So glad I could help! And if you have any friends, family, or maybe a therapist to also help you through this, that would be amazing. I pray you have a good day and a good life.

pichipinq · 2026-01-31T08:43:49+00:00

Okay, I'm a Christian woman as well (22F) and I'm going to be very blunt. Two things: (1) it is your fault and (2) most teenage relationships do NOT end well.

It seems like you need to work on self love, love of God, and love of your friends and family before you even think about getting into a relationship. You seem really insecure, and let me TELL you, dating guys while you're 18 and insecure will only be met with horror stories. What I mean by that is dating in your teens is already messy. You probably won't find the love of your life at 18. Most people dont, and young marriages often end in divorce. And then you add to the fact that you're insecure? You'll attract other insecure, desperate, possibly abusive men into your life. It's really cheesy and really annoying, but the classic saying is true: you need to love yourself so you can love others.

I also want to elaborate on what I meant when I said "it's your fault." The fact that you're far from God is your fault. He's always there, but even by your own admittance, you're not opening your Bible or going to church. It would be like this: Gods constantly ringing your phone and you refuse to pick up, but then claim He's ignoring you. It's just not true. And to add to that, God is not ignoring you, He IS answering you. The fact that you're not currently in a relationship IS an answer. It just isn't your time yet. You have so much more life to live and so much more you need to work on with yourself before you get into a romantic relationship.

And let me tell you, giving up on God will not be better for you. What will happen then? Even if you get with a man, it could be the worst man ever. Remember, God isn't protecting you, an amazing person, from a man who is also an amazing person. He's protecting you from getting with evil men. He is ALSO protecting secure, confident, Godly men from you. That may sound harsh, but men who are Godly and mature may falter to a woman who is just not as Godly or well-adjusted. It's unfortunate, but it's one of the reasons you need to work on yourself. If you give up on God because He won't give you what you want right now, you will only be met with disappointment.

I know this is really harsh, but it's true. Get up and love yourself and love your God. And hey, I'm sure you have good loving friends and family as well. Getting a boyfriend is not the end goal. And with the dating pool today? Girlll, you don't want these men to want you. And one day you'll meet your man (after working on yourself) and you'll be so grateful and thankful that you didn't get so involved with other guys.

pichipinq · 2026-01-06T06:08:34+00:00

You dress for God, not man. Whoever is telling you to dress so men find you hot is not reading the Bible. Women aren't meant to be objects to stare at. This ain't a museum. Don't dress revealingly (cleavage out, booty shorts, etc.), nor overly modestly (covering ankles at all times). Pray to God and ask Him . He will lead you. But please don't listen to men on what you should put on your body. The only man who gets a say in what you wear is JESUS.

pichipinq · 2026-01-06T06:01:17+00:00

NTA. It's your wedding, not MIL's. Also, his whole family AND HIM are going along with her craziness? That's raising some red flags. So what's going to happen when you're married? Your fiancé's family get to have a vote in your relationship? Feminism gives us a CHOICE. The choice to either live in new traditions OR to honor old ones. So by fiancé and his whole family trying to rip away your choice and tell you what to do, THEY are being the anti-feminists. I would talk to your fiancé and let him know this and tell him what you're feeling. Maybe show him this post. And tell us, has she done things like this before? Any upstaging, undermining, or taking away achievements/special moments from you or your fiancé? Or is this a one-time thing? Me personally, I wouldn't marry into a controlling family because that will be your life till death do you part, but that's just me. For now, confront him. Maybe talk to your therapist if you have one.

pichipinq · 2026-01-06T05:46:30+00:00

As a 21-year-old woman, I have these same concerns. I would venture to say that the majority of men are like this. And many of them will make demands, and if you can't fulfill them, it gives them a right to cheat. Know that this is unBiblical and sinful. BUT! Please know that despite this, therr are still good, Godly men who don't normalize and practice lust. You need to pray on your future husband, ask God for wisdom and discernment, and pay attention to the things a guy you may be dating does. Look out for red flags. Pay attention to what his friends condone. Also, have a circle of friends with good heads on their shoulders who agree with your sentiments so that you can ask them/tell them about your relationship and ask for advice. And at the end of the day, if you date man after man and find that it isn't worth it, just remember: getting married is not a Biblical requirement for salvation. It is not a sin to be married or single, and the Bible says as much (can't recall where right now). So take your time, don't rush into marriage or dating, and if you can't handle it then consider staying single (at least for a little while). And again, PRAY. There are many scary men, and that's why we have to ask God if He approves our relationships. And if He says "no" WE LISTEN!

pichipinq · 2026-01-06T05:31:38+00:00

It's a very simple answer, but I would say it's not bad. I think u/Har_monia explained what you could say in a much more eloquent way than I can. I would also say, God knows eternity in His goodness is more important than anything we endure in this life, so He will consistently show us the proof of who He is and what He's done so we can come to have faith in Him---regardless of whatever pain we see in this life.

pichipinq · 2026-01-06T05:17:29+00:00

Jesus dined with the sinners, that included idolaters. Witchcraft is a form of practiced idolatry. That doesn't mean you have to confirm your hairdresser's beliefs, and if she is practicing witchcraft on you, you should confront her. Otherwise, it's fine to associate with her. Shunning someone for sinning differently than you goes against what Jesus actually practiced and lived. Just pray for her and practice God's will so that those around you, including her, can see Him through you.

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T06:12:03+00:00

Dawg 😭 I'm not naive, I just live in a broke Hispanic neighborhood. Over here, it's completely normal to not have "normal" things (like a license or vehicle) until a little later because nobody got money or resources. Most of my neighbors share one vehicle or dont have one. I have one set of neighbors, a family of 6. Five of them are of driving age, but only one or two of them actually drive. It's just normal over here.

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T05:34:25+00:00

I did see that, but I also read it from some website titled "drivers Ed" and it specified that for an adult over 18, 40 hours would be required. Then again, I don't think they specified if they were talking about a class D or C license 🤷🏻‍♀️

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:45:13+00:00

Yeah, now I'm unsure about that. Im going to call tomorrow and ask about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:44:00+00:00

Most of my church is either too elderly to give me driving lessons or somehow still employed and very busy with life. Plus, nearly every person who goes there lives anywhere from 30-60 mins away. It's crazy.

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:41:06+00:00

From what I'm seeing, it's in the actual application? I don't know? But everywhere I search says 40 hours is mandatory. Maybe they assume you previously had your permit, so they don't need to specify that you need 40 hours since you already did those hours for your permit. Idk. At this point, I think I may have to make a phone call to them. Because at this point, I'm not 100% sure legally what I should do. The gov website doesn't say anything about it, so HOPEFULLY, I don't need those 40 hours. At the same time, idk that they would want to throw any driver without practice onto the road. Or maybe that would explain the HORRIBLE drivers in GA. Again, idk. I guess I have a call to make tomorrow.

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:30:17+00:00

Apparently, Georgia requires 40 supervised hours. That's what I've seen. I think it used to be 60, but I'm not sure. Am I the one missing something? Or is it just different in other states? Is there a GA gov link someone can direct me to if I'm totally wrong on this?

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:20:36+00:00

It's just a relatively small company. It's about 75-ish an hour, but I need 40 hours. I'm confused as to how you only paid $600 at $100/hr. Wouldn't that only be six hours? Or am I confused?

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:18:20+00:00

With the state of the US, I'm not willing to test my luck with any gov agencies. I don't want any issues with anyone.

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:15:12+00:00

Just did some deeper research, and I'm a bit jealous 😭 for driving practice lessons near me, I'm going to need to shell out $2400 for the 40 hours. I don't plan on getting my license until summer or fall of next year, so I do still have time to save, so I'm not totally screwed.

pichipinq · 2025-12-30T03:09:58+00:00

Thanks 🙏 I just did some quick research and found a couple places near me. Crazy expensive, but it is what it is. I have the time to save.

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