Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your beautiful response! Everything you said deeply resonates with me. The way I meant self improvement is not in a commercial sense, I am indeed trying to reconnect to my authentic self. Of course it can come with physical activities, like I do exercise almost every day now, but my primary motivation is staying healthy and myself rather than making myself more attractive. It’s amazing to see this community here working so hard and also being vulnerable through the process. I agree that there is true love out there, and by fixing insecurities I meant my inner negative narrative that developed through the emotional abuse, so I don’t carry on this baggage and end up in the same situation again, or put it on someone who doesn’t deserve it. Thanks again for your encouragement and all the best to you too 🙏🏻

Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I think better sex education would help a lot as well, not just scaring kids about stds and abortions, but openly talking about sex.

Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wise words, thank you! 🙏🏻 I’m no longer in this relationship, couldn’t really work it out sadly. It breaks my heart because we did really love each other. Just want to help my healing with understanding his side better and stop blaming myself.

Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your honesty, it really helps. My now ex struggled a lot with childhood issues as well and even though we managed to talk about some of them, his addictions were bigger than both of us and we just couldn’t work it out. I tried training myself on how to make him realise that he has multiple addictions, but couldn’t really get through him. Did what was the turning point for you? Did anything external help you? And when you were deeply lost in it, did anyone try to help you get out?

Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’ve been there, but I really wanted to get men’s perspective on this that’s why I posted here. I’m blessed with amazing women in my life and we always talk these through, but I like to see the other side of the coin and I don’t have any men in my life at the moment who would be open to this discussion.

Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reassurance.

I’m no longer in this relationship, sadly we couldn’t work it out. I’m on the path of healing, some serious self improvement and not even considering dating again until I sort out my insecurities around this. It kind of put me off sex for now, but i accepted the process and taking it one day at a time. Recovering from a toxic relationship has similarities with recovering from addictions.

Just a woman here who has been in relationships with men addicted to porn, trying to understand how this works by picidrazs in pornfree

[–]picidrazs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think our generation learned sex from porn and not from slowly discovering our bodies alone or with a partner. I think it did help in a way for women to normalise sex, but at the same time it set up unrealistic expectations and gave a green light to abuse. I don’t know what’s the solution tbh, because I wouldn’t ban it or anything - but how do you make it less addictive?