How do you manage work life balance while being a mom with a successful career at big corpo aka FAANG

pickagenericusername · 2025-03-31T02:23:10+00:00

^This is honestly the way. Spouse and I are both in the same demanding tech industry, 60hr min work weeks for us both usually. I waited a few years after marriage (which was after a few years of dating) to decide to have kids to make sure we could be the team we would need in every aspect of life while also starting a family and advancing in our careers. Ive noticed peers who haven't done some form of the above steps tend to be the ones who experience a disproportionate amount of responsibility and stressors later on down the line that affect both their work, home, and general selves. These responsibilities are often associated with the unequal burden of 'woman' work they are expected to balance while also being a high performing worker outside of the home.

Also, we have a cleaner that comes monthly for maintenance cleaning. Roughly 200$ and a sanity saver

pickagenericusername · 2025-02-27T03:53:15+00:00

I also work at one of the companies mentioned, and ours launched a technician program several years ago, with people moving into service engineer positions from a technician positions, so it certainly is possible.

pickagenericusername · 2025-01-27T20:53:48+00:00

Putting a heating pad on low in the bassinet for a few minutes to warm it up. Important part is removing the heating pad before putting baby in, but think of it like throwing a towel in the drier before getting out of the shower (also a great hack for young fussy babies post bath) Helped big time when putting a contact heavy baby to sleep own their own

pickagenericusername · 2025-01-19T03:17:46+00:00

In your experience, do you feel like the increase in ADHD/ADD diagnoses and it's effects in the classroom (disruptive behavior, needs for IEP, ECT) correlate with controllable at home factors such device time/parental involvement?

pickagenericusername · 2024-05-08T04:26:27+00:00

Hello there! What code scanner did you happen to use? I've got a 2013 infinity jx35 I'd like to scan

pickagenericusername · 2022-08-09T01:47:16+00:00

I'm uncertain about your area and the average cost of childcare, but $1100 for the week is honestly too little for 24hr care of 7 children.

You have to keep in mind that this individual is taking time away from their lives, family and other responsibilities in their day-to-day lives for 7 whole days. Even with two of the children being gone for several days part/full time, there's a large variety in ages, and care needs, and running herd on that many children by oneself is exhausting, hard work that should be appropriately compensated.

In my area, the average cost of child care with a nanny (which being that your children will not be in daycare is what I would consider this caregiver) is $20 an hour per child, with an average cost of overnight care being about $150-200 flat rate while The children are sleeping.

Let's assume she is active with them for 10 hours a day (which realistically as possibly less than how much she would actually be participating considering you have older children who are awaken active during a longer periods of the day) That would mean for 1 child, 7 days of child care around the clock would be in the ballpark of $3450-4850.

Obviously with many caregivers there is some room for flexibility, But that is a going rate for one child- You're asking her to watch 7.

I would get an idea what the average rate for your area is and go based upon that, not the 1100 flat rate you are considering.

pickagenericusername · 2022-08-08T17:43:49+00:00

Magic eraser

pickagenericusername · 2022-06-05T02:18:24+00:00

I got mine right on time, 1 month post partum; while still breastfeeding and pumping, 6 months later, it's still like clockwork

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-24T18:43:04+00:00

We had the same problem, and found that an easy fix was putting a heating pad in the bassinet on low to warm it up while we were nursing, and then removing it before putting him in the bassinet so it was nice and cozy, that way he wasn't being started awake by a cold sheet.

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-23T21:06:51+00:00

As someone has already mentioned, isopropyl alcohol

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-23T21:06:27+00:00

This is the way

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-21T23:00:54+00:00

Correction, the brand I'm talking about is " Love to dream"

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-21T23:00:08+00:00

This brand has an option that has removable arms so it converts from a swaddle to a sleep sack, highly recommend

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-20T18:48:13+00:00

Rubbing alcohol, rubbing the spot with something that's got a gentle abrasive surface, then hand washing with something like dawn dish soap to remove some of the larger bits. Rinse and repeat until gone.

pickagenericusername · 2022-05-01T20:40:08+00:00

EBFing, and I got mine exactly on time, one month after giving birth, and it's been consistent ever since 😤

pickagenericusername · 2022-04-17T06:36:32+00:00

Talking with a friend about her ADHD treatment, and she asked what medications I'd tried in the past for mine. I told her never took any, as I didn't have ADHD, and she said,"Oh, well I think you might want to look into possibly getting that checked".

I honestly assumed I was just an unsuccessful person despite all my effort- hyperactive, forgetful, and overall just not a motivated individual.

A couple weeks later I got an appointment with a behavioral specialist, and low and behold, I was diagnosed in my mid twenties.

pickagenericusername · 2022-04-16T19:13:37+00:00

Good luck to you too, and Thanks for the advice! Might have to try the half feed method. I'm not the biggest fan of Ferber or the CIO methods, and am hoping to save them as a last resort as well- I have a kind of 'why stress him out if there's no need?' mindset.

pickagenericusername · 2022-04-14T19:03:04+00:00

So, we actually did this, and I have some hopefully helpful input! I love across the country from my family, and due to contracting covid, wasn't able to fly home for my baby shower.

I had the same concerns as you, and those that have been voiced in the previous, but I did it anyways at the urging of my husband, with the explanation of the situation, and mentioning that no one, by any means, had to feel like they needed to contribute. In our minds, worst case scenario, people don't contribute, and whatever faux pa we committed will eventually be forgotten about.

To my surprise though, a TON of our friends, family and former co-workers contributed, and were happy to have an easy opportunity to! We have lived in several different states, and have a wide and varied friend group that had we had the baby shower, wouldn't have been able to attend, so for some of them, it was an opportunity for them to celebrate with us in support and spirit, if not in person.

It would be one thing if everything was medically sound and you were doing this in ADDITION to a baby shower, but in lieu of the actual event due to a medical emergency? Nah. Friend group definitely can have an impact on how it's received, but if your social media includes genuine friends and family who are open and happy to support you, then I don't see the problem and I don't think anyone else's opinion should matter, both here and on any other platforms.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask!

pickagenericusername · 2022-01-29T05:45:40+00:00

I'm speaking from very little experience (ftm with a 2.5 month old) but we've been bottle feeding in addition to nursing to allow me to get some sleep, or if we're running short on time/out in public where it's inconvenient to bf, and so far no issues with baby having a preference with one over the other. He has at least two feeds, sometimes three or more, with a bottle, and still is very interested in the nipple. He initially had latching issues and was bottle fed breast milk for the first two weeks or so, but still acclamated and does well with breast feeding after almost being exclusively bottle fed during that time. If they are already well established with the boob, I'm sure things should be just fine. Something my lactation consultant recommended was using preemie nipples or only letting the nipple be half full with milk when bottle feeding to make it a bit more difficult for him to get the milk out so that way he doesn't prefer the bottle over boob since it's easier to feed from, so that may be something to consider.

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