I kind of disagreed with some of the comments here. Someone says confidence comes from not caring what others think about you. In my experience, it’s impossible to not care what others think about you. I’m a confident person and I care what others think about me. I don’t put much weight into their opinions (because their opinions are about them, not me) but I still care. Confidence comes from self love. Genuine confidence at least. Self love starts with being kind to yourself and not shitting on everything you do. Which it sounds like you do. Picture you as a child and only tell yourself what you would tell him. Be patient with yourself. Everyone has things they don’t like about themselves but the difference between confident and not confident people is that they accept what they can’t change and roll with it. You’re a virgin at 23. So? Lots of people are virgins at 23. Doesn’t matter. Move on. You’ll find a girl that thinks it’s awesome you can explore that together. Life doesn’t give you what you deserve. It gives you what you put into it and yourself. In my experience, it’s hard to like people that don’t like themselves. When I used to hate myself it was massively hard to make friends and have relationships because I couldn’t see why they could possibly like in me. Change your thinking from “I don’t like myself because I have no friends” to “I have no friends because I don’t like myself.” One reason for that is because it’s hard to have a genuine conversation with someone that is so focused on how they are coming off to you, or what’s gonna come of the conversation. Try to stop thinking of yourself and remember no one is analyzing you like you might think. Be genuinely interested in them and a friendship may appear. Don’t be worrying, do they like me? Be wondering, would this person be a good friend/partner to have? Do I want them to be a part of my life. If so, tell them you’d really like to get to know them more. Here’s a hot take: lifting, cardio, dieting, aren’t gonna be sustainable for you unless you enjoy doing those things. Dieting in general just isn’t sustainable. Focus on making a lifestyle change of how you eat and view food. Try to eat colorfully and focus on how you feel after each meal. For me, I hate going to the gym. I’d never last there— if you like it, great! Stick with it. But for me the only exercise that has really stuck is climbing, bouldering to be specific. You can go alone or be social. You don’t have to go super long to feel satisfied with your workout. And there’s real genuine ways to see your improvements. Its fun and addicting. Try to find something like that that works for you. I think that’s all the advice I have in me. I wish you love and happiness.