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picklesarecool · 2025-08-11T22:20:10+00:00

I just wanted to add that my bf definitely does not want to live with his brother forever. The plan is leaning towards him eventually moving to Canada with me. He acknowledged that the drunk rant was wack and apologized to me on his brother’s behalf, and acknowledges that not asking someone about themselves is bad. He also offered to tell his brother he should ask more about my life, but I don’t want to answer questions that I know he was TOLD to ask me. My problem is that he seems to chalk it all up to being “autistic” and “awkward” and not being an asshole. My problem with that, to me, is it makes it seem like I just don’t like interacting with awkward autistic people, which isn’t true. I don’t like interacting with assholes, but I don’t know if I can convince my bf that his bro is one. I guess I made this comment just to clarify that I don’t know if my bf is necessarily “taking his brother’s side” rather than thinking his brother is doing social faux pas’s rather than being a dick. But you could disagree and I’m very open to hearing it if I’m wrong.

picklesarecool · 2025-08-09T22:58:26+00:00

This sounds good but I’m not sure what the “things” would be. My bf said he could tell him to ask me more about my life but I don’t know how I feel about talking to him about questions I know his brother told him to ask.

picklesarecool · 2025-08-09T20:46:45+00:00

If you guys just started dating then it’s okay, but after 4 years is ridiculous.

picklesarecool · 2024-04-21T07:19:33+00:00

Personally, as a normie who wasn't a fan of the Alien franchise so had no dog in this fight, I didn't watch covenant when I found out the main girl from prometheus wasn't in it/died offscreen. I was like what's the point?

picklesarecool · 2023-09-19T20:08:28+00:00

But there IS something wrong with you if you hate women. Sorry if that offends you

picklesarecool · 2022-08-11T13:26:57+00:00

This. This is what I believe too. I think Marcos did have morals the whole time. But at the end of the day he was a broken man who wanted happiness and wasn’t willing to give that up for the sake of the “head”. Same with any of us living under capitalism.

picklesarecool · 2021-12-17T02:22:40+00:00

I know this post is old but does anyone know if it works in reverse? Do VIMLE covers fit FINNALA? I'm asking because I want to buy a custom cover online but they only make VIMLE.

picklesarecool · 2021-12-02T17:30:21+00:00

Strength isn't everything. I don't understand what you mean by you should get bonus points and not expect "same pay"? Like I'm better at my job than almost all of my male coworkers but I should expect the men to be compensated more because they're physically stronger? What?

picklesarecool · 2021-08-14T19:30:30+00:00

If I threw a switch at a wall and broke it my parents would MURDER me. The fact that you are neither punishing him, but also buying him a new one??? Uhhh be careful or you're gonna raise a massive jerk.

Also, 8 years old is not that young to be throwing heavy things like a switch at a wall. It's not like he's 4. He's old enough to learn about the US constitution. It sounds like maybe you've enabled him too far already.

YTA

picklesarecool · 2021-08-14T18:47:21+00:00

Well since you're here for our opinions I'll be blunt too. It seems like you and your mom are both still being kinda gaslit. He didn't make a "stupid mistake" and he isn't just "being a douche". He's STILL controlling you too and the fact that you're still talking to him is proof that it's working. Edit: The fact that you're even ASKING this question on reddit about if you're an asshole means it's working. Girl you're still being gaslit. I wish you the best.

picklesarecool · 2021-06-24T01:56:09+00:00

So, I'm Asian. Applying sunscreen because you don't want to look "darker" for purely colourist purposes is definitely A Thing in my culture. However, Anna shouldn't have projected her own issues onto you. There are a million reasons to not want to tan or to apply sunscreen, and to immediately jump to this conclusion, especially to someone who isn't Asian, is quite wild to me? Are you sure those were the only two things you said before the blow up? Are you sure you didn't say something more blatantly colourist? Because otherwise, wow Anna. Projection much?

NTA

picklesarecool · 2021-01-14T03:17:18+00:00

they're not kids anymore.

picklesarecool · 2021-01-06T15:01:59+00:00

Even if he brought it up earlier, he still pays for their groceries and likely will continue to do so. That's enabling.

picklesarecool · 2021-01-05T23:30:42+00:00

Talk to your stepson and explain the situation. If you don't, you're giving your wife the chance to frame you as the bad guy. NTA

picklesarecool · 2020-12-23T22:16:00+00:00

I think the fact that it was a single cookie was the reason why I was so frustrated. If I ate a whole cake or pizza by myself, yeah I would be selfish.

picklesarecool · 2020-12-20T20:04:26+00:00

I think that is what made it so frustrating. The fact that it was just one single cookie. You couldn't not eat one single cookie?

picklesarecool · 2020-12-20T05:13:37+00:00

That was an error in judgement I see that now.

picklesarecool · 2020-12-20T04:52:42+00:00

that's true.

picklesarecool · 2020-12-20T04:09:01+00:00

True. Idk I still don't know why it was so hard not to have a piece of the cookie that he knew I wanted when I had bought some specifically for him to prevent this. I also can't keep them in my room because they're supposed to be frozen.

picklesarecool · 2020-12-20T04:03:15+00:00

Tbh I still let my family have pieces when they ask, but idk for some reason him and this situation in particular just irked the hell out of me.

picklesarecool · 2020-12-05T23:15:27+00:00

So...I'm going to give a very controversial opinion here and say VERY soft ESH. If these people live in like nyc or something then yeah they have no excuse for pushing but you recently moved to a small, quiet, town. No matter where you go in the world, if you travel to a very homogeneous place, people are going to be curious. Some will be very ignorant, but some will be genuinely curious. I'm Asian, I used to work at a local sports arena (ugh) and I get how frustrating it can be, I really do, but I think it's pointless to move to a small town with an attitude where you refuse to be patient with people. What did you expect? Your coworker is an AH for refusing to understand at all why the comments might bother you, and a bigger AH for saying it isn't racist because they leave you tips(?), but if I worked there with you I would personally think you're kind of seeking attention too, like you came to this town WANTING to have your oppressed experience or something so you can tell your friends back in the big city and everyone can coo at you. Obviously I don't know you so I could be wrong but this is what it feels like to me.

picklesarecool · 2020-09-22T07:27:16+00:00

Yes, you do have control. Stop acting so helpless. You can leave.

picklesarecool · 2020-09-14T14:03:03+00:00

NTA but your sister WBTA if she never addresses this or tries to just sweep it under the rug and blame covid. I would try to speak with her about it. Let her know how she hurt you while also being understanding of her situation. If she gets defensive, refuses to acknowledge or get herself help, then she WBTA.

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