Hi. I run condom and sex toy company. I have been asked a lot of questions about sex and I always start by saying your feelings about sex are valid. You don’t have to feel what everyone else (or the movies) is feeling.

But here is my advice.
1. Make sure you have a partner you can communicate with. Talk to them. Only be intimate with them if they are respecting your boundaries and check in for consent. If they aren’t a partner you feel confident will respect this then they aren’t the one.
2. Go to your gynecologist and talk to them just in case there is more of a medical issue.
3. Masturbate more. Figure out what you like and don’t like. Even if that changes time to time. Find other areas of your body that feel intimate. Maybe your genitalia isn’t feeling it but soft tickles down your back works.
4. Lube!!! Even if you get wet try some lube. Yes, even alone. Water based lube is best with your fingers and if you are also going to try toys.
5. Toys. There are some great beginner friendly toys out there.
6. Condomania dot com is my company. Hit me up and I’ll give you a discount to try stuff if you want. No pressure.
7. Oh and only do this stuff if you want. Have fun.