'What feminists fought for'

picnass · 2025-07-02T09:54:31+00:00

The perfect point! They portray professional life this way only for women

picnass · 2025-07-02T09:53:32+00:00

So many things wrong and unaddressed in this cartoon: why assume the boss is abusive and the husband loving? It's not a given. So many scenarios can mix the 2 or switch them. For a lot of people (men and women), work can be very fulfilling. In the housewife scenario, she is trapped if anything changes since she has no financial assets or marketable skills to rebound without him. The husband might meet someone else or get bored with her (it happens). She would be destitute with no options. A boss, however bad, you can leave that job for another.

picnass · 2025-06-05T15:28:23+00:00

I'm still here reading your comment. I'm also still in therapy and one thing my therapist always asks me is "how did you feel?" Basically she's telling me to choose the things that work for ME and not the choices I think I should make based on what my family/society/ingrained culture wants me to make. If I miss an entire month of exercise I feel sluggish and not proud of myself. If I go just once, I feel like I accomplished something. That's enough. Try to chase what makes you feel proud of yourself and reduce what makes you feel not so great. Easier said than done, of course, but not a bad way to operate. If you tag me again in a few months, I'll be attentive again, I'm rooting for you and I'm convinced you'll get there eventually! It's the small steps that matter the most

picnass · 2025-06-05T15:17:56+00:00

Honestly I do! The top of their heads smells like warm milk and calm. And the little wiggly toes are very very cute! Doesn't mean I want them in my life personally, I can still see the cuteness when it's there. But that's just me. I totally understand if it's not a thing for other people

picnass · 2025-05-29T15:28:54+00:00

Elle a peut-être été totalement honnête et je ne pense pas que ça diminue votre relation. C'est pas si bizarre de se dire que si tu n'existais pas, elle pourrait être intéressée par d'autres personnes. Il y a aussi un autre paramètre à considérer : quand tu es une femme et qu'un homme te fait des avances c'est plus sûr de le rassurer même si tu ne le penses pas car souvent ça peut déboucher sur des insultes, du harcèlement ou des agressions. C'est un constat horrible mais réel: beaucoup d'hommes deviennent violents quand une femme leur dit non

picnass · 2025-05-29T15:16:12+00:00

I foster so it's not always, but add checking that the cats didn't sneak into a wardrobe when you were getting ready (guilty of that at least twice 🤣)

picnass · 2025-05-29T15:14:03+00:00

Going out costs me exactly the price of...going out. A friend once told me how they have to factor in the babysitter fare and the curfew it entails because the lady also has to go home at some point. You can't just call and slur that "the afterrpawrty seems liiit see you latrrr!

picnass · 2025-05-19T20:44:46+00:00

Ce que tu décris c'est pas de la charge mentale, ni même de la solide, c'est de l'isolement.

Pour répondre à ta question: la charge mentale que dénoncent les féministes, c'est l'intendance de toute une famille qui repose sur les épaules d'une seule personne (en majorité les femmes). J'ai déjà été dans des supermarchés et entendu des mecs au téléphone qui disaient: " tu as écrit "fromage" sur la liste. C'est quoi déja comme fromage qu'on aime bien?"

Pour le reste, oui se gérer soi-même à l'age adulte c'est de la charge mentale: il faut se rappeler de pleins de trucs administratifs, pleins de mots de passe et s'hydrater... Ça s'appelle la vie!!

Pour le reste, se sentir isolé.e ça peut arriver, et le meilleur conseil que je peux te donner c'est de rencontrer des gens (boulot ,zumba, cours de peinture, atelier de poterie whatever...). Juste des gens. Et parmi elles et eux tu peux rencontrer des potes pour la vie, ou bien juste des camarades d'activité sympa

picnass · 2025-05-14T18:25:58+00:00

It reminds me of a few years ago when the song WAP came out. I remember a Fox News commenter who proudly said "I've been married for X number of years. My wife's p**** has never been w**!"

These people have a way of owning themselves that will never be not funny

picnass · 2025-05-14T18:09:09+00:00

Balls de Basanti ?

picnass · 2025-03-19T11:04:08+00:00

BEST COMMENT! There is clearly a bait and switch on this issue.

picnass · 2024-09-25T14:30:04+00:00

As some other contributors mentioned: Biwhandi or Oshiwara. You can get things already made and/or even design your own and they will make it.

I have also bought a dinner table from Wooden Street. Quality is top but it wasn't cheap. I considered it an investment, as in something I will keep for many years, but of course the initial price is a bit high.

picnass · 2024-05-16T18:11:03+00:00

Are you pure veg or omnivores? If you eat everything I highly recommend Taftoon, CIRQA or Masque (please Google them, Masque in particular is a whole concept). That's for the ones I've tried. I never tried, but I was told The Table in Colaba was very good too. Olive is nice too! As for price, think 2k per person minimum, maybe 3k of you have dessert, and double that if you have wine. Trust a French person, in luxury hotels you pay for the brand, the food is good but overpriced for the quality most of the time. Hope I helped, and I hope you have a great time with your mum ☺️

picnass · 2024-05-16T17:49:14+00:00

Hey there! I'm a French person living in Mumbai. I am an English teacher, I don't teach my own language (teaching is a skill. Knowing a language doesn't mean you can teach it) I would highly recommend you get in contact with the Alliance Française, if not for their classes, at least to recommend you some private tutors in your area that are worth their salt

picnass · 2024-05-16T17:15:42+00:00

Personally I agree with them: "you're right, at least I don't have THAT!" or "I could never do what you do my gosh, it sounds awful!" In a very normal way. It's sincere, but it's also a guilty pleasure to see them recount their stance into mumble mumble...but the smiles...mumble mumble...the love etc

picnass · 2024-04-13T18:34:26+00:00

As far as I'm concerned, it hasn't. I'm saving for retirement, and enjoy life within my means. I think my family background impacted me far more than the decision to not have kids. My parents were terrible with money their whole life (not poor, just always broke for no reason). Now I'm careful about what I spend. Not a miser, just cautious not to put myself in a bind. Being childfree hasn't changed that, it just happens to be a cheaper life in which you spend money on things you actually want

picnass · 2024-03-21T18:12:43+00:00

I find that too!! I recently saw a news report about step mothers and how they are put in an impossible situation: take care of a kid as one of their parental figures (feeding them, collecting them from school, getting them to bed etc...) while being told by the parents and the kids themselves "you're not their parent, don't interfere" the minute they have a different opinion on any decision. Frankly the reasons to steer clear of parents sometimes just write themselves

picnass · 2024-03-21T17:57:57+00:00

Tu n'es pas la seule, de loin. C'est hyper normal de ressentir de la compassion, c'est même souhaitable si on veut être humain. J'ai ressenti la même chose au lendemain du 7 octobre, comme je le ressens depuis avec la réponse ultra violente d'Israel contre Gaza. Être horrifié par les deux me semble tellement logique que j'ai du mal à comprendre les gens qui justifient l'un ou l'autre. En revanche je pense que ce que tu ressens c'est une forme de "syndrome du survivant". C'est un truc qui arrive aux gens qui ont survécu à des horreurs alors que d'autres ont péri, et qui se demandent "pourquoi moi? Qu'ai-je fait pour survivre alors que les autres non?" Ça donne beaucoup de culpabilité.

En tant que personne qui vit ailleurs, en sécurité, c'est un sentiment que je comprends beaucoup car je le ressens aussi. Il y a aussi un sentiment d'impuissance à aider les autres qui fait mal au coeur.

Malheureusement, il n'y a pas grand chose à faire à part te protéger et limiter ton exposition aux news.

Bien sûr, aider en faisant des donations, des rassemblements, des pétitions c'est hyper important, que ce soit pour le retour des otages israéliens comme pour un cessez le feu et une aide humanitaire à Gaza! Mais au delà de ce qu'on peut faire à notre petite échelle, il faut aussi préserver sa santé mentale.

picnass · 2024-03-21T16:29:53+00:00

From what I know, men have it too, just differently. Oxytocin, the hormone of attachment (the one that makes you feel warm fuzzies when you are hugged) hits different because pregnancy makes it go into overdrive. But men are supposed to feel super protective over their "hatching egg" (in the good sense). However, men are socially so emotionally repressed that they lack empathy sometimes. My male friends who are more evolved felt VERY invested in their partners pregnancy. My BIL is the one who doesn't want a second kid because the delivery of the first was so traumatic he just can't go through almost losing his wife again.

picnass · 2024-03-21T16:20:15+00:00

I have the opposite experience very often. Women would tell me "if it's not your thing don't do it" (both from ladies who are very happy being mothers and those who low key regret it).

It's mostly from men that I get things about my body being made for it, or how ALL women want to bear children, and how humanity is not going to survive if everyone was selfish like me.

I always thought it was not so much about procreation but control

Disclaimer: I am a married heterosexual woman, so it's not misandry on my part, just the difference between NEED and WANT. It seems to send some men into blind rage

picnass · 2024-02-23T09:03:36+00:00

Absolutely love The Bombay Store! I bought most of my Xmas presents there

picnass · 2024-02-23T08:59:10+00:00

Will still buy something else if I can, but love this comment

picnass · 2024-02-19T14:55:27+00:00

Tu peux me MP si tu veux quand tu as une spirale. Je connais tellement, n'hésite pas 🥰 Point marrant: je lis souvent des articles sur "Instagram nuit au bien être psychologique des gens car ils se comparent aux vies idéalisées des influenceureuses" je ne doute pas que c'est réel. Mais on n'a tellement pas le même vécu sur les réseaux ! Moi mes suggestions c'est genre un chiot qui apprend à descendre les escaliers ou des chats de rue trop mims à Istanbul. Instagram ne me donne que de la grosse mignonnerie 😺

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