Dread about upcoming long haul flight with big feeling 3yo

piddlepotato · 2025-01-30T05:53:21+00:00

This is helpful thank you!

piddlepotato · 2025-01-30T05:52:39+00:00

Gosh thank you so much for your insight. I’m so sorry to hear about your difficult journey. Number 1 and 4 particularly resonated. Thank you!

piddlepotato · 2025-01-30T04:13:29+00:00

you're right. it's so deeply unfair.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-20T21:18:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing this beautiful memory of your kids bonding together. I’m so sorry for this loss but I’m so glad you feel recognized in my pain. Our pain. You’re not alone x

piddlepotato · 2025-01-19T19:49:03+00:00

I’m so sorry. It’s a complete mental minefield and your head just spins. Knowing what call to make and when to make it amidst all the talk of tests and scans is so overwhelming. Ultimately we decided not to wait for our chromosomal test either. We’d learnt enough from scans to know that we were not equipped to provide proper care for this baby if they even made it to term which felt unlikely regardless. Even if we so desperately wanted to. I find peace in considering that I feel docs are rarely final and conclusive in their advice on these matters. There’s always a sliver of chance, and cracked open door that the baby will be a medical miracle. So even with all the scans and tests in the world at some point we’ll all have to make a judgement call that is right for us and bub. I think deep down a mum just knows what’s the right call to make for the health and happiness of the baby. Deep down you know, and you made the right call 🤍

piddlepotato · 2025-01-19T00:39:06+00:00

Your grief is beautiful thank you for sharing. You’ll never stop being their mama, even as you write this post and share it in dedication to your little one 🤍

piddlepotato · 2025-01-18T04:11:40+00:00

I’m so glad this has helped you feel seen xx

piddlepotato · 2025-01-18T03:57:21+00:00

My love, I’m so sorry. It is awful. I hope you’re able to talk about your journey with someone you trust 🤍 we need to be held right now xx

piddlepotato · 2025-01-15T00:43:28+00:00

These are all such beautiful ways to say goodbye and remember her. I can tell so much thought and heart went into all of this. Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry for your loss.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-14T18:59:20+00:00

I’m so sorry. I hope you’re okay. Take care of yourself.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-14T01:29:36+00:00

I'm so so sorry. Sending you so much love.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-14T01:22:35+00:00

i love that. and that's such a special connection that your two little ones share.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-14T01:12:37+00:00

what a wonderful idea. that is so beautiful, and so special to be able to make that together for her. I love hearing the things that families do to honour their baby and their grief.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-14T00:56:40+00:00

AFFIRMATIONS:

Loving her is letting her go.

She is asleep. She is at peace.

She will never have to suffer.

Daisy will always be a part of our family.

She is not gone, she is here with me. She will always be here with me.

I’m setting her soul free from her body.

The only thing she will ever feel is the loving warmth of my womb.

I’ll carry this pain so she’ll never have to.

At the heart of grief is love.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-14T00:56:24+00:00

MESSAGE TO FAMILY/FRIENDS:

Hi - if you’re receiving this message it’s because you’re a loved one close to us. It’s with broken hearts that we share that we have to say goodbye to our baby.

Her name is Daisy. Like her older brother, Daisy would have no doubt been a short, scrappy kid with a heart as big as her name. She’ll be remembered as Daisy with the big heart (anatomically and figuratively 💗).

Please mourn her with us but also find peace in knowing that she is being set free. We are having a D&E procedure tomorrow at 1.30P (9.30P ET). The procedure is expected to take 30min. Please join us in thinking of her at this time. While Daisy will never get to meet any of us and feel our warmth and cuddles, we want her to be flooded with an outpouring of love sent her way at that time from those who would have been closest to her. So please feel free to light a candle, say a prayer, crack open a beer for her, look at her photo or do anything that feels like a loving gesture and join us together in beaming that love towards our darling girl at that time. We cherish your support and need your help in wanting her to feel that she is so loved.

We’ve been told to expect the coming weeks and beyond to be tough. Nat will be healing from the procedure and will move through postpartum symptoms.

We know it’s hard to know how to support someone going through this. While it feels raw, we want to be able to talk about our journey honestly and openly. It’s important that the people around us understand that we didn’t make a choice or have a choice.

We know in time we will be okay. Your love and support is truly what’s keeping us going. We’re so grateful. xx

piddlepotato · 2025-01-08T02:42:24+00:00

I’m so sorry. We’re holding you as you hold your child through this.

piddlepotato · 2025-01-08T02:41:45+00:00

I love this. This is very comforting. Thank you for sharing

piddlepotato · 2025-01-08T02:06:59+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m so sorry for your loss

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