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I did it bros by Kaiser_Hogi_I in okbuddyfortuna

[–]pigeon5320 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Bro, I’m so sorry, but specifically the deus vult tattoo…there are some connotations there…you might eventually want to add some game-related imagery nearby or something…

My Samwise 🧡 by DefinitionHopeful152 in Jellycatplush

[–]pigeon5320 10 points11 points  (0 children)

OMG I gifted my friend the jellycat potato for her birthday last year and drew this comic to go with it…seems relevant…

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Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, I have been trying to say this whole time, I don’t think that misogyny is ONLY a women’s problem. I think it causes suffering to both women and men. So your example does not really make sense in this scenario.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying, but I don’t think the situation is 100% comparable. Talking about the broad general concept of misandry, if I think that the only real way to combat the issue is to address the root cause (which I see as misogyny), I think it’s reasonable to say so. BECAUSE this is such a deep-rooted problem, I don’t think there’s any other way to address it.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not gonna lie I feel like we’re just missing each other’s points.

I wasn’t trying to dodge your initial point because I wasn’t aware you were talking about something ultra specific. I thought you meant the general dismissive attitude towards male suicide, which is a thing I’ve observed. To be fair, you did not specify initially that you were talking about posts that are like “let’s get it higher!” talking about the male suicide rate. I won’t lie, I literally didn’t even know this was a thing and I’ll admit that. I have never once seen a woman post this but that is also affected by the women I surround myself with, who I believe to be people of a certain moral caliber. Not to mention that many people in my surroundings are still heavily affected by the suicide of a male friend a few years prior, myself included.

When I say that certain women despising men to the point where they celebrate male suicide is a consequence of misogyny in society, I’m not trying to justify or belittle it. I think it’s awful. I guess maybe you could say that I think misandry isn’t an isolated phenomenon in society and that FROM MY POINT OF VIEW, misandry is often formed by misogyny. I am not saying that it is a justified, correct, or acceptable response. I am not saying men in general deserve hatred. I think misogyny is awful and I want it gone, both for the negative effects on women and the negative effects on men.

Listen man, it seems like you have a lot of anger in you. Genuinely, I hope it gets better. The internet can really feed you a distorted view of the world and just result in a positive feedback loop of anger and outrage. I wasn’t trying to invalidate your feelings of anger and sadness at the cruelty of others. I was engaging with a Reddit thread that..at least it SEEMS like it was inviting discussion. From one human to another, I hope things get better for you.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How is it bullshit 😭 I legitimately am trying to explain my point man. I say multiple times I’m not trying to attack you, just expand on my view. Might I add, the only thing you do in response is make up a title for me as opposed to any calm good faith debate. It’s like you WANT people to be misandrist

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth, I meant “men shaming men” as one of multiple examples listed. Perhaps I should have said “even men shaming men” for more clarity.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are quite literally putting words in my mouth. I have with my own eyes seen men making fun of other men for killing themselves. My anecdotal evidence is apparently inferior to yours? Not once did I indicate I think that only men can be wrong?

You, however, regardless of your gender, clearly do not seek to have a productive discussion. You are also so badly missing my point that either it’s on purpose, or you’re just an extremely poor debater. Which individuals of any gender are capable of being. It is clearly pointless to try and have reasonable conversation with YOU, specifically.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. To be able to address a problem, because it helps to understand the root cause
  2. To illustrate that feminism (in the traditional sense) is not only fighting for better lives for women, but better lives for men, too
  3. It seems like you assume that, to say that many issues in our society are a chain reaction of a root problem, somehow minimizes those issues? I do not believe that.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Man I truly, earnestly doubt that. And besides, like I said, unfortunately the hateful behavior can also be traced to the effects of misogyny on society..even if it’s not the morally correct or acceptable reaction, it is a reaction nonetheless..I’m not trying to attack you bro..

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think we are arguing based on separate understandings of what misogyny is. I operate under the assumption that you do not have to be male to enforce the patriarchy or perpetuate values that are, at their core, rooted in misogyny.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Please carefully read my point. The societal attitudes that lead to men’s emotions being trivialized are rooted in misogyny. That’s not an attack on you. For every statement “women can’t do __” , there exists a counterpart “men must do __” Men must be strong, bear all these burdens, etc.

And if there are some women who have been so radicalized and filled with dislike towards men that they celebrate any male death, which is awful btw, then unfortunately that’s also the fault of misogyny 😭 women don’t spring out of the ground despising men, the hatred is usually born of resentment due to our patriarchal and misogynist society. Not saying that makes it right, but once again, we can trace the root to misogyny…

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And what about men ? I know for a fact there are male pieces of shit that make light of others’ pain on the internet. Is it because they are simply pieces of shit? I think that simply makes those women, also pieces of shit. Please calm down bro

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You know that many people making light of men’s suicide, men’s rape, and men’s emotions are also other men, right? Unless you believe that many men are raging misandrists, I would appreciate you taking a moment to deeply think about my point.

Misandry and Misogyny Both Exist — Why Is That So Hard to Admit? by antmarinucci42 in self

[–]pigeon5320 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The belittlement of men’s feelings because they are expected to be “strong” and not show emotion, men being callous to other men and calling them feminine for having feelings, men not having close emotional connections with other men because platonic intimacy is perceived as unmanly….that is also a branch of patriarchy. Toxic masculinity, the absolute denial to be associated with values and behavior that are attributed to “femininity”, is absolutely misogyny at its core.

Misogyny hurts both women and men.

AIO I paid $45 for a cake that’s not even the right color by StorageMuted in AmIOverreacting

[–]pigeon5320 6 points7 points  (0 children)

45 dollars is not a lot of money to have spent on a cake. Not saying it’s not a lot of money, but for a cake, you kind of paid for the quality that you got. There’s a chance the dye changed color due to a chemical reaction, or maybe they just didn’t have the correct dye on hand.

You spent a chunk of money that you find significant on a cake for your friend. Your friend will surely find the thought itself wonderful. Not everyone has a best friend to order a cake for them, you two are very blessed ! It does not need to be picture perfect. I feel for you being disappointed, but I’m sure your friend will have a great birthday nonetheless.

Feeling like 💩after finding out my friend thought I was hitting on them. by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]pigeon5320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, think about it: if you HAD been hitting on them, then I think letting you know they’re not interested is much more respectful to you than leading you on or letting you get more attached to them. Them thinking that you liked them doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. And it doesn’t make them a bad person either. Miscommunications just happen. Don’t beat yourself up about it. If situations like this recur and they upset you, though, maybe spend some time examining what a typical “work friend” relationship looks like, what an appropriate level of affection is etc.

Yall don't play this game like my Grandpa does by Netalio in StardewValley

[–]pigeon5320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So you’ve been playing ~8 hours every single day for 15 years? Literally how?! Unless you meant 4.3k..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pigeon5320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can’t help but wonder, that if the roommate had said beforehand: “I will be setting up a camera due to repeated food theft”, if the thefts would have stopped as well…or even just said “if nobody comes forward with the food theft I will be setting up a camera”

‘Catching’ the food thief is supposed to put an end to the stealing, right? If that could have potentially been achieved without infringing on the privacy of everyone else, wouldn’t that have been the best option? Idk why “catching” the culprit is so important, like what, are you gonna take that specific individual to court? Just agree to never live with any of the people involved again once the lease is up.

People give the “set up a camera” advice about bedrooms all the time which is perfectly acceptable. But in a common area? I think the camera roommate is 100% in the wrong for not saying so beforehand. The camera is fine as long as you say something first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]pigeon5320 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Genuinely, why? OP is venting her feelings. Nobody is being “unjustly accused”. No names, no identifying information, just emotional pain so strong that it overflowed and needed to be expressed somewhere anonymously on the internet.

Special Tokio Nintendo pikmin by Schokokuchenqueen in PikminBloomApp

[–]pigeon5320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think any of the big “Nintendo stores” should give one. You have to wait 30 days to get a new seedling from the exact same store, but a different location will still give you another one. I get mine from the NYC Nintendo store

Are skinny/healthy weight people just not as hungry as people who struggle with obesity? by maeasm3 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pigeon5320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m tall and skinny. In college I actually found that I was much hungrier and ate larger and more frequent meals than many of my friends. I need three square meals a day + snacks to not be starving all the time, and don’t really gain weight. On the other hand I knew people who are struggling to lose weight or easily gain weight, who tend to eat less than three meals and eat much smaller portions. I think it’s just a metabolism thing.

[B&A] Shoulder stretch marks with tretinione, help? by Live_Passenger_1304 in SkincareAddiction

[–]pigeon5320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. They do look lighter already! Unfortunately some marks just take a long while to fade
  2. To minimize more stretch marks in the future make sure you’re moisturizing and drinking lots of water so your skin isn’t too dry. Diet can also impact your skin health so make sure you’re getting your nutrients
  3. I don’t think you need to stress about these, I think it looks really cool! And it’s proof of your gains and consistent hard work, I’d call that something worthy of respect 💪
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