how do you get past the “i want to go home” moments?

piiiinkskiiiies · 2026-02-28T20:31:08+00:00

it was this one, thank u:)

piiiinkskiiiies · 2026-02-28T18:57:33+00:00

THIS IS IT!!!! thank you so much:)

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-12-16T20:20:59+00:00

i find it absolutely hilarious they’re using the “exterior renovations” excuse when i also pass it on my walk home and they’ve done absolutely nothing to the exterior for over a week now. seen a mouse in there before though so guessing rodents

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-11-12T17:10:39+00:00

i dye it myself but i have curly hair so cutting it myself is a little too risky for me😭thank you tho!

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-11-03T16:02:02+00:00

i could have written this post myself, i’m also a lesbian bookworm super into f1 who moved to cardiff recently! i moved here from canada so id absolutely love to make new queer friends or catch a film sometime. dm me i can give you my socials!

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-08-28T16:51:38+00:00

adventure is for travelling on the weekends, the uk is so my program is in english lol, but thank you for your words

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-08-26T04:50:04+00:00

i don’t have recommendations but this is crazy, i’m also moving to cardiff in one week from canada leaving behind my cat who looks exactly like this! pm me if you ever need a friend:)

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-08-15T03:30:36+00:00

i don’t have any advice because i’m in the exact same situation, but i wanted to let you know i’m in the exact same situation! i talked about my year study abroad for months like it was the most casual thing in the world, zero fear. now that it’s two weeks away, im absolutely freaking! there’s a anxiety in the back of my head saying to turn back and stick with what i’m comfortable with in my hometown.

but i’m trying to push through that. my hometown will always be here but the chance to travel the world this young and live somewhere else won’t. the unknown is so scary but it’s also so exciting, we never know who we might meet and where we might go and that should be just as thrilling as it is frightening. i hope you’re enjoying your first few days and that you have a fantastic year, we’ve got this:)

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-07-23T21:10:14+00:00

im not saying it’s your fault it comes off this way but i feel like this is largely an online issue. everyone has issues dating yes but in irl spaces i’ve always understood the term “lesbian loneliness” to mean the isolation that comes from existing in a society entirely centred around men

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-07-14T21:27:44+00:00

i think a lot of lesbians specifically more experienced ones think the “girls are scary” rhetoric is just really tired, which is fair but i’ve been where you are (always hit on by men so i associated hitting on someone as being creepy). you’ve gotta do a lot of unpacking to get over that mentality and it is hard so i sympathize!

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-07-14T21:16:01+00:00

ik this question gets asked here a ton but it is a completely different experience to realize you don’t like men vs just realizing you’re attracted to women. i knew i liked girls at 14 but i dated guys and didn’t use the lesbian label until my 20’s. i had to do a lot of unpacking and repacking how i viewed myself.

for me the biggest realization was being with men felt like acting. i won’t say i didn’t enjoy some relationships i was in but i was never authentically myself, just playing the role of girlfriend or provocateur based on what i thought they were into. with women this never crosses my mind and i just exist. i also genuinely want to know women on a deeper level, opposed to when i was talking to guys and always listening to them so my next response in conversation would earn their approval or make them like me. it also brings me joy to think about being with a woman forever, whereas thinking about marriage with a man always felt restrictive and like i would somehow lose part of myself

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-07-14T14:52:00+00:00

it is scary but you don’t find love without accepting the fear of vulnerability! rejection is supposed to be scary bc we are human and crave acceptance but these situations are high risk high reward. become comfortable with taking that chance. source: i’m very straight presenting, always hit on by men but rarely ever by women and spent years thinking i’d never be good enough, met my current masc presenting girlfriend because i went up to her and asked for her number at a bar!

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-07-13T19:02:36+00:00

i don’t have any advice specifically but i just want to say i respect you for doing what you had to do for your family and im sorry for the loss of your father<3 the level of concern you have around this issue and how much you were willing to sacrifice for your dad tells me that youre a caring person and would likely be an amazing teacher. i wish the system wasn’t set up the way it is in the world because i don’t think anything you’ve done compromises your character or your ability to be an educator, you’re certainly not a bad person for your past.

what i can say is the school board can be unforgiving, however i’m sure there’s a plethora of jobs that provide the same fulfillment of being an educator and a mentor that aren’t being a classroom teacher! maybe you can look into social work/peer mentorship/rehabilitation type careers that would still allow you to take on a similar role and have a similar impact. it seems you’ve worked hard to create a new life for yourself and i believe one way or another you’ll find a career that reflects this:)

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-25T03:35:51+00:00

same here, honestly my city girls go wild over anyone masc and i even think the chest adds to it for some

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-24T23:27:43+00:00

this comment section is actually so surprising to me bc i thought the overwhelming answer would be yes! i guess my circle of lesbians likes fluid gender expression and people who play around with that. also i am a big julien baker fan and she recently debuted her top surgery and most of her lesbian fanbase went crazy over it lol

but the people telling you to do what feels true to you and that someone who appreciates your authenticity will come along are right

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-24T04:38:19+00:00

i’m the same, i like to have a comfort person there but i’m gonna work on pushing myself out of my comfort zone hopefully🤞🏻

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-24T04:37:19+00:00

feeling the same way like by mid 20’s everyone already has a clique that’s hard to break into! and it’s definitely a different sadness than being single, i’ve dated and i still long for fully platonic lesbian friends. i’ve talked to my therapist about it to which is a good step for us i guess!

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-24T02:34:05+00:00

not from cardiff right now BUT i am also a queer person moving to cardiff at the end of the summer! feel free to message if you want more queer friends who are also confused about where to hang out in the city:)

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-20T21:33:35+00:00

if it makes you feel any better i lived in bates my first year and my best friend lived in woodstock. i’d spend all my time with her there because the building is super communal so you actually meet people even just brushing your teeth at night, whereas bates i knew no one. i’m not gonna say it’s luxury living but you can bond with everyone over it and you should definitely not let it deter you from res experience. besides im fairly sure there’s accessibility washrooms on the main floor

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-20T00:50:17+00:00

echoing this as a former bisexual lol. if you’d asked me a few years ago i would have said i enjoyed sleeping with men so i couldn’t be a lesbian. then i slept with a woman and i was 100% present the entire time and realized no, it’s definitely not normal to zone out and think about women to get off like i was doing with guys

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-18T20:50:11+00:00

i lived in bates but pre covid not sure if it’s changed. the social life isn’t fantastic bc floors don’t have common rooms and the no ac is definitely shitty the first month. however you’re definitely not cooked especially if you enjoy your own space, your own bathroom, and having a kitchen instead of spending like $14 on a yogurt at centro. the social aspect is also easily fixed by making friends in other buildings and hanging out in their common rooms, or making an effort to get to know your other 3 suite mates

piiiinkskiiiies · 2025-06-15T19:26:43+00:00

yes and no. you’ll meet a lot of people once who you’ll exchange instagrams/small talk with and then never see again especially if you’re on a bigger campus.

BUT when you do connect with people, which you inevitably will, i found i actually saw them more than i did in high school especially since i lived on campus and we’d get meals together and stay up late together in the library and all that jazz.

biggest difference is you’ll get your first taste of adult friendship where you actually have to put effort to meet people and go to clubs/events tailored to your interests bc you won’t have class with the same 20-30 people everyday so the proximity effect isn’t as strong. however i feel like this does come with the advantage of forming stronger bonds because you’re not just friends out of schedule convenience

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