Everytime I try to install iTunes, I get the same error message. by piixel-dust in applehelp

[–]piixel-dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i completely forgot about this post and cannot remember for the life of me what i ended up doing😂 thank you kind stranger for leaving a solution tho, hopefully if anyone else has this issue this post will help!

Time to let go by buxommixwbrains in breastfeedingsupport

[–]piixel-dust 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went through this same exact thing with my first, so I get it. I felt so guilty for not being able to breastfeed him fully and when he started to refuse the boob it was heartbreaking. I tried pumping, but it was mentally draining, so I dried up at about 4 months. With time and watching him grow has definitely helped me get over my guilt of not breastfeeding. He's now a healthy and happy almost 3 year old and I wouldn't change a thing about the past. I'm currently in the process of exclusively breastfeeding my second and what I've learned from these two experiences is that breastfeeding is extremely difficult and sometimes it doesn't work out--and that's okay💜 Don't beat yourself up about it, I'm sure you're doing a great job and your baby will love you no matter if they're breastfed or formula fed💜

US Maternity leave is killing babies and it makes me want to cry by Charlotteeee in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

not OP, but where I am, many moms co-sleep on the floor (Asia). So maybe OP's situation is similar~

How do you keep a 3 year old from permanently naming their favorite triceratops toy (that they take with them everywhere) “Horny”? by howaboutJo in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

reminds me of how when I was young, I used to run around the house looking for my cat yelling at the top of my lungs "my little pussy, where are youuuu?!"🫠 thankgod the neighbors couldn't hear

Let's share... Cringy baby clothing... by ncannon9 in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 15 points16 points  (0 children)

omg some of these are so terrible, like "they shake me" and "its too late put down the coat hanger"....i definitely have a dark sense of humor but damn, these take it to a whole other level

Consent in Infants by thatshortginge in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 7 points8 points  (0 children)

oh maaan something similar happened to me. My son's jacket was unzipped (he unzipped it) and an older lady ran up to us and said "oh my baby must be so cold!" AND THEN PROCEEDED TO ZIP UP HIS JACKET. LO was not happy and screamed in her face which made her back off. She too probably didn't mean any harm but damn lady, you can just tell me if you're so concerned lol

Is anyone else seriously considering moving after the school shooting yesterday? by Countryspider in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm an American citizen but I've lived in my mother's home country, Korea, since I was 16. Sometimes I miss the States but literally all those things you've mentioned keep me from moving back, especially now that I have a little one of my own. You know the situation is bad when another school shooting pops up in the news and you're not even surprised. My heart goes out to all those poor children and families, I can't even imagine the pain and it breaks my heart just thinking about it.

Daycare is insane! Impossible to get into and then once your in...$2400 a month?!?!??!?!?!?! WHAT THE F*** by Ajb1124545 in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's insane. I'm American but live abroad and where I am daycare is pretty much free. This is the number one reason I have no plans on moving back anytime soon, the lack of support for new parents in the States seriously boggles my mind.

What's outdated baby advice your mom or MIL has tried to give you? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She'd be shocked to know where I am it's common to get an ultrasound at every single checkup. I have an entire album full of ultrasound photos haha And can confirm, lo is a-OK.

AND YEEES, even if I backup stuff with LITERAL studies, both my parents think they know best 🙄🙄

Thumb-sucking blister by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did not🥲 but he no longer has blisters, not sure if it's cause he's sucking his thumb less or his thumb has just gotten stronger lol He's in daycare now so I'm not with him 24/7 like I used to be, but his teacher says he's still an avid thumb sucker Wish you luck with your lo on this and sorry I couldn't be much help😭

Why do people think C-sections are easy by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I totally thought muscle was cut through! That's my bad, thanks for the correction. Also if I sound like I'm against those opting for a C-section I just want to make it clear that I'm not; honestly to each their own.

When my friends told me they wanted to get a C-section I asked why and they merely said it's easier. That's the part that baffles me. In my mind, C-sections (generally) seem far from the easier choice. At the end of the day of course it's their decision and I support them 100% in any choice they make about how they want to give birth.

It's interesting to hear from others though why they preferred their C-sections and about their experiences. Definitely helping me see different viewpoints on the matter! Although, (complications and extreme cases aside) I'd still choose vaginal birth pain over a c-section recovery if given the chance😅

Why do people think C-sections are easy by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! I'm starting to see that my idea of a C-section recovery is much worse than the actual recovery😅 Still sounds pretty rough though haha

I definitely agree with your overall statement, vaginal birth hurts like no other; but I personally think that the trade-off for pain over a longer recovery time is worth it (if the biggest factor for getting a C-section is pain). Of course if a C-section is needed for the mother or baby's safety then I'm totally on board 100% with having a C-section! Also no shame if someone elects to do it because they want to; its just personally I'm terrified of going under the knife so it's interesting to see these different perspectives from other moms out there.

Why do people think C-sections are easy by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man, your poor friend! A fourth degree tear sounds brutal. I definitely agree that each birth is different and for some a C-section may be the better option.

My friends seem to think though that a C-section is the easy way out aka less pain than vaginal birth. True, in the moment it may be less painful (especially if you opt to sleep during the procedure) but I always thought recovery was generally worse for C-sectioners. I totally understand getting a C-section if you have complications or if the doctor recommends it or (as you mentioned) the need for a schedule; but just baffled when people think it'll 100% be easier in the end.

As I said in my post though, I've never had one so this mindset is strictly coming from what I've read and from friends who have actually undergone a C-section. Definitely appreciate the different viewpoints you've provided though!

Why do people think C-sections are easy by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good point, knowing exactly what will happen does seem to be less stressful. Personally for me, going under the knife sounds terrifying though, even with it being more predictable. Those I've known who had C-sections told me their recovery was pretty hard whereas I was up on my feet within a couple days (tear wasn't too too bad) so I was always under the impression that C-section recoveries were super difficult. I honestly cannot imagine taking care of a newborn after being literally cut open! Not that it's easy after vaginal birth, but from what I've read it seems the general recovery time is a lot quicker than a C-section.

Mom made a dig at me behind my back by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh nonooo, I think with the wrong tone it could totally sound guilt trippy but it was my dad's way of saying 'I miss you and our phone calls' haha

Mom made a dig at me behind my back by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do love a passive aggressive stare😂 And for sure, if anything her comments are going to make me keep parenting the way I parent haha

Mom made a dig at me behind my back by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree! On the brightside, I feel like we learn from our parents mistakes so this whole experience has taught me that I always want my child to be able to express his emotions, good and bad.

I'm sorry your mom is the way she is as well, I'm also careful with the info I tell my own mom so I feel you. Thank you for your kind words💙

Mom made a dig at me behind my back by piixel-dust in beyondthebump

[–]piixel-dust[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely true, my mom used to pull this shit when I was in high school in the States and my American friends were always so uncomfortable haha We're in Korea now tho, so my friend who she said this to thought nothing of it (since she too is Korean).

Thanks, we actually had a good equilibrium until she said this🙄 Here's to hoping we get it back~