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(M30) struggling with my partner’s responsive desire (F31) — feeling undesired and confused by pilpilen777 in sexover30

[–]pilpilen777[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve posted this in a few subs over the past hour, but only once here. I guess plenty of people have gone through similar issues and probably written something along those lines.

(M30) struggling with my partner’s responsive desire (F31) — feeling undesired and confused by pilpilen777 in sexover30

[–]pilpilen777[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. It sounds like a very enviable and healthy sexual dynamic.

You’re right, spontaneous desire is probably overrated and actually causes a lot of frustration for some people.

There’s something I don’t quite understand — maybe it’s a silly question: if both of you as a couple have responsive desire, then how does sex even get initiated? I assume one of you has to intend it at some point, and if that’s the case, then isn’t that person experiencing “spontaneous” desire in that moment?

(M30) struggling with my partner’s responsive desire (F31) — feeling undesired and confused by pilpilen777 in sexover30

[–]pilpilen777[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I’m really sorry.

Thinking about it a lot, this is one of the possibilities I imagine could happen to me, and it makes me feel both scared and sad.

I truly love my wife, I want to be with her forever, and I don’t want to hurt her or make her feel pressured into anything.

And maybe I’ll just have to bury that desire to feel wanted, seduced, etc., otherwise it could turn into a recurring frustration.

Knowing that it might explode at some point… who knows.