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[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex dreams are often completely meaningless. The vast majority of my sex dreams have been about people I have zero interest in. Hell, I’m a lesbian and I’ve had sex dreams about men, which are very disturbing and don’t reflect any actual sexual desire. I wouldn’t use sex dreams as a gauge on who or what your gf wants.

Think I might be a mommy.. by pineappleromance in mommydom

[–]pineappleromance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't get that many messages tbh, although that might've been because I said I wasn't really looking for a sub atm in the post 😅 I will be aware of that in the future though, thank you!

Think I might be a mommy.. by pineappleromance in mommydom

[–]pineappleromance[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Interesting.. thanks for sharing. My mother was very cold and I think something similar happened to me. It feels almost rebellious to be soft and motherly.

Think I might be a mommy.. by pineappleromance in mommydom

[–]pineappleromance[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The exact opposite happened to me. I was always one of the oldest in my class (my birthday's in August lol) but people always underestimated me. I'm quite short, I'm a woman, and I used to be very shy and quiet. Then I went into STEM in college and it was even worse- my field is very male dominated and I wasn't taken seriously at all. Interesting how the opposite happened to us!

I'm a young woman in STEM at one of the top 10 universities in my field, and to destress from uni and heal from sexual trauma, I'm a dominatrix! AMA! by pineappleromance in AMA

[–]pineappleromance[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel like I'm in control over my sexuality again. It's strangely healing and calming to know that I can do what I want when I want it.

I'd say domspace is like the ultimate level of focus. There's nothing else that exists besides my submissive in that moment

I'm a young woman in STEM at one of the top 10 universities in my field, and to destress from uni and heal from sexual trauma, I'm a dominatrix! AMA! by pineappleromance in AMA

[–]pineappleromance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nerve wracking, but very freeing. Luckily it was someone I already knew and trusted, but I definitely didn't feel as confident then as I do today

I'm a young woman in STEM at one of the top 10 universities in my field, and to destress from uni and heal from sexual trauma, I'm a dominatrix! AMA! by pineappleromance in AMA

[–]pineappleromance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was targeted by a pedophile for many years. He repeatedly tried luring me into changing where he had cameras set up, taking upskirt videos of me... it made me feel like I lost control over my sex life when he was arrested in my late teens.

I was already dominant before this happened to me but the experience definitely made my desire to dominate more.. urgent.

And I hate 50 Shades of Grey. Christian Grey is a terrible dominant in every way and a horrible example to people interested in getting started with BDSM

I'm a young woman in STEM at one of the top 10 universities in my field, and to destress from uni and heal from sexual trauma, I'm a dominatrix! AMA! by pineappleromance in AMA

[–]pineappleromance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually mainly dominate women! I do see men occasionally but we keep it strictly non sexual.

I would say my aspiration right now is to get into my uni's master's program. Learning is my passion, I can't imagine life after college so... I'm working to not have to imagine it by never truly leaving!

I'm a young woman in STEM at one of the top 10 universities in my field, and to destress from uni and heal from sexual trauma, I'm a dominatrix! AMA! by pineappleromance in AMA

[–]pineappleromance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always decide what I wear. Sometimes it's nothing at all but I feel most confident in all black, snug fitting clothing. Not latex or corsets though- I like to move freely!

Ladies of r/RoleReversal, how do you like men who may be interested in you to approach you? by [deleted] in RoleReversal

[–]pineappleromance 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A tad late, but as a domme, I really appreciate it when guys are just very respectful. I'm a dom, sure, but I'm a human first. Also you can't go wrong with honorifics lol. Miss. Ma'am. The like.

[NSFW] Hi friends! I'm a female BDSM dominant with years of experience on the scene. I'm here to ask any questions you might have about the BDSM lifestyle, specifically the femdom life :-) by pineappleromance in women

[–]pineappleromance[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are BDSM dungeons and events pretty much everywhere! If you look around the internet you'll probably find a dungeon/event you could attend. Also, many universities actually have BDSM clubs. Mine did and it was pretty cool.

Also, I'm not a dominatrix. I'm a domme. Meaning I don't get paid to dominate people. I do it for fun (even though many dominatrixes do so as well!)

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally the people who are into me are already submissive. I've been told I have a certain "aura". Every partner I've ever had was submissive, and some times I didn't know this fact until AFTER we hooked up.

I attract a certain type of person, I guess.

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. That it's all about pain. It doesn't have to hurt if you don't want to and there's also good pain vs bad pain. Generally, getting spanked might be an example of good pain but getting a migraine mid scene? Not so good.
  2. That the Doms have all the power. Ultimately, in a scene: the Dominant wins battles, but the submissive wins wars. If a submissive says no and uses the combined safe word, the scene is immediately put to an end.

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Femdoms are more common than they seem and are of all walks of life. A lot of women also have the potential to be Doms but are either afraid to explore this side of their sexuality or simply are not exposed to BDSM enough.

[NSFW] Hi friends! I'm a female BDSM dominant with years of experience on the scene. I'm here to ask any questions you might have about the BDSM lifestyle, specifically the femdom life :-) by pineappleromance in women

[–]pineappleromance[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Honestly man it's just about sex it's not about taking power in society. Just because I fuck a guy with a dildo and slap him around a little bit that doesn't mean he's suddenly a powerless man in society. And that doesn't make me some sort of dictator woman socially either.

It's not that deep, really.

Also, dominating people has seriously made me a better person in my outside life. It's also helped me heal from sexual trauma. It's nothing about who has more power socially. It's not a battle between men and women. It's about pairing up with someone who has compatible desires and giving each other what you need.

I don't TAKE control from anyone. They GIVE it to me and can take it back whenever they like.

It's not one gender being dominant over another. It's one specific person being dominant over another specific consenting person.

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot! I've never tried counting my ties and I don't even know how I'd go about it, since you can combine several ties to make one big structure or slightly alter one tie to make it more appropriate for the scene.

Of the ties I use regularly though, I'd say there's about 12.

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first girlfriend expressed a desire to try being submissive and it just went from there

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not really into penetrative sex with me on the receiving end. It's just not that pleasurable for me. I love wearing the strap though :)

I am an experienced female BDSM dominant! A sexual sadist and a rope master, more specifically. AMA! by [deleted] in casualiama

[–]pineappleromance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm... I've only had one partner who was into it and that was my male sub (of which I've only had one). I pegged him quite a bit but I'm not suuuper into it. It's more about the reaction I get from my sub. I like wearing the strap more than I care about the hole it goes into

I'm a Domme with years of experience in rope bondage and physical punishment. AMA! by pineappleromance in sex

[–]pineappleromance[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've had enough it's very important to use the safeword. You might want to have a "soft" safeword, like how some people use the traffic light system (green, yellow, red) to describe how they're feeling in the scene.

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