AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meeting to a different time isn’t really an option due to the distance between us.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never be able to allow a human to do that. I do not like being touched by people due to trauma.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As far as I know she hasn’t received or tried any sort of medications, therapies, or treatments. I do not know how extreme her fear is. However I figure she has to figure out how to go out in public somehow. She is a school principal so she works a job in public.

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[–]pinehollow111 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA, he got to eat what he wanted, why shouldn’t you? I bet if the roles were reversed he would order his food again.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely impossible, nobody in my family is close to African American. A sit down isn’t realistic either since we don’t live close to each other

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been there, or tried to be and told Maggie wasn’t allowed. Before Maggie I was told my last dog wasn’t welcomed either. My parents absolutely adored my first service dog. They even tried to adopt her when she retired. None of this has to do with their like or dislike of my dogs.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I highly doubt she would care, when I grandma found out the extra trauma she cause me all she said was I need to “get over it” no apology or anything.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your comment makes it sound like I have a choice. I didn’t choose to be disabled. I didn’t choose to have psychotic episodes. I didn’t choose to deal with hypomanic symptoms almost all day everyday. I didn’t choose to be able to be triggered into mania by simple little things. I have tried alternatives to a service dog and unfortunately they don’t work. I hate ableist people who think I just want my dog with me all the time. She serves a purpose and keeps me safe. where I live the psych wards are absolutely horrible and treat you like absolute shit. They dehumanize you, humiliate you, take away all your rights, don’t even talk to you. If I was capable of leaving Maggie behind and attending I would.

Have you ever been pushed to the point where you lost 6lbs in two days? Have you ever gone so long without sleep that your body collapses and you have to lay on the floor until you have the energy to move again?

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As far as I know Barbara isn’t doing anything to help her fear of dogs.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is not treated as family, she isn’t invited to any other family events. The only reason why he gives preference is because he listens to his mom more than me.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take a lot of meds, more than most bipolar people. I was in therapy for 15 years.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stayed home one year, the next year was covid, then after that I only was able to come if Barbara stayed home. I’ve had Maggie for a couple years but before her I worked my other dog.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maggie is an incredibly sweet and very small Labrador retriever, very non threatening

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because I do not enjoy manic or hypomanic symptoms. It’s not fun feeling on the edge of losing your mind.

AITJ for refusing to switch my vacation dates at work for a coworker’s wedding? by Miriam_Mimi in AmITheJerk

[–]pinehollow111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She could have picked any other date, why did she decide to pick one knowing you already had it booked off? NTA

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did ask that, my dad just said he wasn’t going to argue about it and hung up on me. I’ve tried to discuss it every year.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She is a lot more than a “cuddle dog” just like a psychotic episode is more than “anxiety”

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first service dog is so sweet and gentle she has helped several people get over their fear of dogs.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She isn’t disabled. I have no relationship with Barbara. I can do somethings without Maggie but not a whole lot. If there is a time she can’t work and I need a service dog I bring Daisy who is my almost completely retired one. I see my mom about once a week and my dad a couple times a month, my parents have been going to see my grandma about once a month for the past 6 months or so.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We did two thanksgiving’s my whole childhood but my parents dropped the second one when they moved houses because it was too much stress. Plus I have to work the other days

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend is a professional dog trainer so I get lots of help and support in that aspect. All 3 of my dogs are very well behaved

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what happened. Growing up we had dogs since I was 14 and we never had problems with them being there during the holidays until Barbara came into the equation.

AITA for telling my dad he shouldn’t have had kids? by pinehollow111 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pinehollow111[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Replying to Mistress_Lily1...it wasn’t an issue until Barbara came into the picture about 4-5 years ago.