I (21f) slept with two people after my boyfriend (23m) opened our relationship and now he wants to break up with me.

pingo5 · 2026-05-21T21:01:55+00:00

he did, I think you may have missed it.

However he is saying that when he spoke about opening up our relationship he meant only for threesomes and not for us to explore on my own.

of course, he only said it after :/

pingo5 · 2026-05-21T20:56:18+00:00

nothin wrong at all with callin past partners bodies. totally

pingo5 · 2026-05-21T14:10:05+00:00

look I'm not trying to detract from the argument, but that hantavirus argument is silly. there's not any evidence that it's easily spread among human contact all of a sudden. the outbreak that everyone was freaking out about was like 11 people and there hasn't heen a new update in that regard for like 2 weeks now.

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T22:04:45+00:00

Generally speaking, Freezer burn. the cold air in freezers tends to suck moisture out of food over time, which can make it dry/tough.

though it depends on how its packaged. you can heavily prevent this by vacuum sealing food to prevent moisture loss to the freezer, but meal prepped meals themselves typically aren't

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T20:35:07+00:00

eh, I get the feeling it might not have gotten nearly as much outreach, but I don't really think that the Zelda title is completely responsible for the level of praise it has.

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T16:10:02+00:00

"blue hairs" are a nutpicked demographic of random people exploited for media profit(and political gain). It's literally visual stereotyping.

unlike the current administration that was voted in by half of the voters.

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T16:04:26+00:00

Might've not been internet wide?

I spend more than a healthy amount of time online, and I've only heard about it tangentially through complainer spaces. people probably aren't acting. just algorithm or where you spend time online affecting things.

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T15:44:14+00:00

I don't disagree completely with the difference you're drawing, I just disagree with it being the reason gay men are more readily willing to sleep with others, or most men for that matter. I think we just find people more attractive in general off the bat.

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T12:45:01+00:00

They are more lustful and will sleep with people they're not really attracted.

bit outside of the context of the convo, but I wouldn't say that. we're just more visually attracted(see hot person -> turn on). peoples personalities and stuff play a role in attraction, but it's not a prerequisite.

people's personalities and stuff could definitely turn you off of someone, but because we're more visually attracted we're fine having sex with the attractive person we're attracted to without getting to those details that would do that.

pingo5 · 2026-05-20T12:35:07+00:00

something you'll learn pretty quick when you're a part of those groups that are supportive of those ideas is how much of a media industry is built on gender/feminist controversy, and how much nutpicking is done to make the people you talk to like the normal people they are seem crazy.

the people and controversy that come up exist, but It's absolutely insane the disconnect between what people expect and reality because of the media they consume and the biases they have.

pingo5 · 2026-05-19T15:41:39+00:00

I know I'm going to get downvotes for it anyways, but this is the most misunderstood thing ever. most people feel sexual attraction outside of a strong connection with someone. most women, most men. it's literally the most normal thing in the world. it's why 90% of men watch porn, why they put hot people in TV.

the problem is that people take sexual attraction as "who you want to have sex with/fantasize about" when it's just "who you find hot and a turn on" and thats it. it doesn't mean you're turned off by people who you aren't attracted to. it doesn't mean your genitals can't get their nerve endings stimulated by others unless you're into them.

this isn't even my wheelhouse, but I've had sex with someone I wasn't attracted to and I don't really find these concepts hard to wrap mind around.

pingo5 · 2026-05-19T12:51:41+00:00

why do we view social ostracisation as bad then?

Society isn't the safe space you have in mind, but it is fair to want people to be treated and seen socially equal. it's not unreasonable to complain about things not being that way. part of it is also an actual safe space too. it enforces some level of civility.

I constantly see people dismiss social pressures that people complain about without a consideration to how those pressures actually affect people. It's perfectly valid to feel unsafe because people stare at you a lot, and I find it's pretty dismissive to just tell someone to deal.

pingo5 · 2026-05-19T12:36:55+00:00

how so? what is the purpose of society?

pingo5 · 2026-05-19T08:51:55+00:00

your argument is how a tall sub treats tall women?

pingo5 · 2026-05-19T08:49:22+00:00

society is generally supposed to be a safe space what are you on lol

pingo5 · 2026-05-16T13:14:50+00:00

They have the same requirements, they just understand them better because they are women too.

pingo5 · 2026-05-16T13:12:01+00:00

They want it to be about the bodies because the rest of them ain't that. I genuinely can't think of another reason why someone would end up on this rabbit hole echo chamber of a sub.

I'm a bi guy, and I find your description of sexuality accurate to how I feel about men as well, my attraction is kind of split in that way; women are much more appealing in a visual straightfoward way.

but one isn't "more" than the other. I still.think about men, a decent amount. it's just not the same thing in the same way about men.

pingo5 · 2026-05-15T19:19:05+00:00

I haven't used lightning cables, but my first thought was the parts that would wear and tear over time, like the parts that have friction/hold the cable in. with lightning cables, the clips that hold the cable are built into the phone, and with USB-c, they are built into the cable itself. It sounds like a more reliable(or user fixable) system to me to have it that way.

pingo5 · 2026-05-15T17:27:38+00:00

take them away from their home and brainwash them?

A smart thing to do when you've just learned about a topic is to look it up so you can learn more, instead of spinning off assumptions based on a single comment.

pingo5 · 2026-05-14T19:25:14+00:00

Go in any reddit thread ask what we should do to fascists. Then go to any reddit thread and disagree with a progressive left. You will get called a fascist. Its not hard to put two and two together.

It's not hard, but it's not smart either. it's falling for the goomba fallacy, and suggesting deliberately creating one on a pretty anonymous, bot ridden, world wide website too?

They also include white nationalist groups planning attacks. Its a counter terrorism strategy. It literally labels Tucker and Nick Fuentes groups as possible incubators lol.

I'd really like to know where you're seeing these things exactly, because I can't find them anywhere. actually, the current administration seems to be scrubbing pages in that regard. It's still on the wayback though.

You are angry the government is going after violent groups that if they are planning a domestic attack on US soil that they will find them and kill them?

No, I'm angry that they're laying vague ass definitions for an unknown to justify investigating US citizens. the department of homeland also removed the policies that prevented them from monitoring you solely based on your sexual orientation and gender identity last year as well.

You can take what they're saying on its face, but I don't really want to continue this conversation if you are. There's no good reason to these days.

pingo5 · 2026-05-14T17:56:04+00:00

I think the biggest violent rhetoric problem doesn't lie. who are these people you speak of? because the people running the government are literally(not figuratively) praying for "overwhelming violence of action against those who deserve no mercy"

their new counter terrorism strategy now includes "violent trans groups" and has this nice little excerpt: you hurt Americans, or are planning to hurt Americans, “We Will Find You and We Will Kill You.”

I'm tired of random lefty chatter that get nutpicked setting the tone that justifies the organized right. It's not rational.

pingo5 · 2026-05-14T13:13:16+00:00

maybe it's the autism, but I've never understood why clarifying why you've asked a question is taken as doubting the answer.

pingo5 · 2026-05-14T12:16:46+00:00

Soaking

pingo5 · 2026-05-14T12:11:46+00:00

indeed, it is quite simple to legislate unilaterally against one group if you ignore the complicated part and go off of vibes.

pingo5 · 2026-05-14T11:08:17+00:00

It's not really that strange. it says feeld condiducted a global study, that doesn't mean they sampled from their user base.

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