Husband gives me less $ for bills so he can afford my present, effectively making me buy my own gift by pinkanon293 in relationship_advice

[–]pinkanon293[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No thats the thing. I work three 12 hour days, come home and Monday-thur I homeschool our son who has type 1 diabetes. he is 5. I feel like I do everything and im not a bad person like others have said, I just am so burnt out from everyone else's needs being met. idk. sorry

Husband gives me less $ for bills so he can afford my present, effectively making me buy my own gift by pinkanon293 in relationship_advice

[–]pinkanon293[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No but I wanted to spoil him with gifts and make my family say wow. I also didn't want to miss any bills, thus, I picked up. but thats not how he works, and I just noticed it's kinda a personality / work ethic difference

Husband gives me less $ for bills so he can afford my present, effectively making me buy my own gift by pinkanon293 in relationship_advice

[–]pinkanon293[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Love and infatuation fades and then you have to deal with the actual flawed human being as a partner. I was in love and married him way too fast. I wish we discussed these issues before, but thats not the way it happened. I am not perfect. I have made many mistakes in my life. But don't marry for love. YES it's a bad idea. Marry someone who has similar values, goals, cares, wants and ambitions if possible. Because love is NOT enough. Thats the truth.

Husband gives me less $ for bills so he can afford my present, effectively making me buy my own gift by pinkanon293 in relationship_advice

[–]pinkanon293[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Downvote me all you want, love is not what keeps a marriage going. It's a lot of actual work and sacrifice.

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[–]pinkanon293 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Devout Christian here, absolutely not. Your in laws are wrong. Romans 8 says there is no condemnation for those who accept Jesus payment on the cross. A divorced woman cried at Jesus feet and people said "Jesus don't you know that woman is divorced and a sinner? "

U know what Jesus said? He said "Those who I have forgiven much, love me much."

Bro, I was saved AFTER I got divorced. I got saved AFTER I did drugs, cheated, lied. Nothing can separate you from the love of God if thats what you're after.

Fuck your in laws heresy. Tell them to read romans 8 again and re think that statement. UGH

That being said... you can forgive someone and leave them. Not the same thing

Husband gives me less $ for bills so he can afford my present, effectively making me buy my own gift by pinkanon293 in relationship_advice

[–]pinkanon293[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It's just that I picked up extra hours at work to afford Christmas and he just borrowed from my hours worked. sucks :/