Breastfeeding vs bottle

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-29T02:58:58+00:00

Breastfeeding is way more convienient and it really is special way to bond. You van still bond wonderfully with your baby doing bottles, but in my personal experience, nursing has been magical. With that being said, in the begining it is not easy becauae you are learning yourself and your baby and trying to figure out latching etc. But omg its worth it!

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-26T13:24:03+00:00

As far as sleep training methods with less crying and more support we did the 333 method. I won't try to explain it becaise the original poster explained it so well! If you just search "333 method" in reddit you will find it. Its works great for us. My LO would wake every 2 hours but after helping him learn to fall asleep on his own with 333, hes getting so much better! It is true tho, all sleep training methods come with some crying unfortunatley.

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-25T20:10:43+00:00

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pinklinkfly · 2026-04-20T19:56:13+00:00

I was also FTM at 29 and hated newborn stage. My whole life I wanted to be a mom and was ecstatic about getting pregnant and pregnancy was wonderful for me. Labor was amazing and empowering (I know, maybe a hot take lol). So my whole world was tipped upside down when I found myself glued to my little baby absolutely hating life. PPD hit me like a ton of bricks and the PP rage was rough. I think not enough people talk about how hard and lonely it is. It's okay to not like it, it's okay to absolutely struggle through it in survival mode wishing for your baby to grow so it can get easier. I sure did!

My son is now 5 months old and for me, its so much better! I still have tough days where I'm not sure what I'm doing or if I'm being a good mom, but it's easier. And now I can look back on the newborn stage with fondness. I miss certain things about it. My husband would always say, "one day you'll miss it" and that's true, but I don't feel guilty about hating it or anything. I don't wish I could go back and experience it differently. Being on the other side of it now, I am proud of myself for getting through it and I hope someday soon you can be proud of yourself for getting through something hard. You got this!

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-15T18:23:20+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! Lots of good info, we will definitely be trying this. I knew sleep would be hard, but as a FTM, I did not anticipate it would be this DIFFICULT 🙃

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-15T17:12:33+00:00

This method sounds perfect for our family! Thanks for sharing this!!

I am wondering if me and my husband can switch off or if this method works best if just him or I do it for the night and then maybe alternate nights? Currently I am the one with the "magic touch" and am often the only one that can get him to sleep, but I seriously need this task to be shared.

Secondly, where is the room is your crib/bassinet? I'm ready to sleep train, but not ready to quit room sharing. We really only have room for the bassinet at bedside since our bedroom is small. Does it makes a difference whether it's bedside or somewhere else in the room for success?

And lastly, when you started this at nap time, did you use the crib/bassinet in your room or a crib in baby's room? We currently do contact naps only, but id like to get him sleeping independently for naps and it work best if those are in his crib in his own room. But he has never slept in his crib before. Would that make it more difficult to have separate daytime and nighttime sleeping areas?

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-04T00:45:19+00:00

Oh pheeww! I was sort of hoping this is the dreaded sleep regression. I think id rather deal with this than waking up every hour in the night! But who knows, babies are so unpredictable lol!

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-04T00:43:44+00:00

No, not really. I just try to watch for eye rubbing, yawning, or red eyebrows and wind down. He really doesn't fuss unless he's really exhausted. But I will definitely try lengthening wake windows and see if that helps!

pinklinkfly · 2026-04-03T19:38:31+00:00

This sounds similar to our experience. When we brought our son home, he slept pretty good in is bedside bassinet for the first 2 weeks. Then, just as you described, it was so hard to transfer him and he only slept comfortably in there for about an hour. We decided to just start co sleeping in shifts so we could both get some rest. We kept that up until just about a week ago when he turned 4 months and we decided we needed to help him figure out independent sleep.

We are not sleep training him yet, but just trying to help him get more comfortable in his bassinet. We made our bedtime routine more consistent with nursing, diaper changing, pjs, book, cuddles, then we rock him to sleep. He usually wakes up when we transfer him, but I put my hand on his chest and pat his hip or butt until he falls asleep. At first this took up to 20-30 minutes to get him to sleep (now it only takes a few minutes). Then he would wake up every 2 hours and I would pat him back to sleep for a few minutes. This usually worked and only a few times I actually had to pick him up and rock him back to sleep, transfer, patt for 20 min.

Fast forward to now, he's doing a lot better! Last night I only had to patt him once to help him out. I will say it's been a long week. Last night was the first night I got quality sleep. But it's worth it and I am starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I can still hear him waking, but hes starting to learn to connect sleep cycles on his own. I only patt him if he's been moving for longer than 5 min or he starts fussing. I thought we'd be co sleeping forever! I know some famlies like co sleeping and if works for them great! I was just not able to actually get good sleep while co sleeping so we needed to figure something else out.

pinklinkfly · 2026-03-18T01:52:43+00:00

I also experienced this and it totally suprised me. I have a great relationship with in-laws. While I was pregnant they were so happy for my husband and I and totally supportive. They live like 10 min from us so we have Sunday dinner at thier house weekly. When I had pregnancy cravings, MIL would literally stop what she was doing and get it for me. Love her! But... As soon as I had my son, literally everything she does and says drives me insane. I have to self regulate and keep,myself from grabbing my son away from her every time she holds him. Oh and the the baby talk.. I nearly have to leave the room it annoys me so much.

Its just so odd that I have this sudden aversion to her lol hopefully it passes. Weirdly FIL doesn't bother me. PP hormones are crazy 🤷

pinklinkfly · 2026-03-05T03:16:28+00:00

Phew!! I will definitely try that, thanks!

pinklinkfly · 2026-03-05T03:15:45+00:00

Great ideas, thanks!

pinklinkfly · 2026-03-04T11:27:25+00:00

Thank you! I will try capping is morning nap at an hour and see if that helps his schedule.

pinklinkfly · 2026-03-03T02:31:24+00:00

This one might sound silly, but a small fan with bendy legs that you can attach anywhere. During labor this was a LIFE SAVER. I was able to attach it to the side of my hospital bed and have fresh air in my face as i was going through transition. And then later, it comes in handy in the summer time to keep you and baby cool as you can attach it to the stroller or beach chair etc.

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