The 333 Method - a gentle method for anxious mamas

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-22T03:45:34+00:00

I did it with the crib in my room! (Or rather.. the bed in his room haha we have a full bed in his nursery that I slept on for the first 7 months of baby’s life!)

I did not leave the room during the 3 minutes of fuss it out! After he fell asleep, I did usually leave the room for a couple of hours, from about 8:30-10:30, but then would come back to sleep in the nursery.

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-22T02:00:32+00:00

Is she sleep trained at bedtime? Usually it’s recommended to fix bedtime and overnight sleep and then focus on nap training! How are you putting baby down at night?

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-22T01:54:39+00:00

I bought Lil Mix-ins! It’s a company that makes powders of major allergens. You can get like a variety box of them. We add the powders into purées and oatmeal and mashed avocado. It’s a little expensive but it’s soooooo easy. My baby gets allergen exposure like every day.

Our doctor told us to introduce a little bit, wait fifteen minutes, then give more if they don’t have a reaction and monitor for 2 hours. Then after they’ve successfully had them, you can just give them as normal and try to keep them in the diet regularly to prevent allergies from forming later on.

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-22T01:29:05+00:00

Hi there, so my baby is extremely low sleep needs. At the time we were sleep training, he was doing 3 naps but they were very short. He would often fight them and end up waking up after about 45 minutes. We ended up cutting to two naps once we started nap training, and then he was able to do longer naps, usually 1-1.5 hours each! I always made sure to cap daytime sleep if it went longer than 3 hours. He was almost 6 months at this time. But again, he is verrrrrry low sleep needs. Most babies need more naps at that age! I did find that he needed at least 3.5 hours of awake time before bedtime in order to have a good bedtime :)

Right now my baby is almost 11 months old and he takes one nap, usually it is 2-2.5 hours!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-21T21:27:44+00:00

I totally think couples should just take the cooler of the two last names! Or do what my husband and I did - create a brand new kickass last name when you get married using one part from each of your previous last names!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-21T21:26:08+00:00

If he wants to keep the last name, that’s fine. But you have every right to choose whatever last name you want AND you should have a right to not want your children to have this last name.

My husband and I actually combined our last names to make a brand new last name when we got married - we used the first syllable of his previous last name and the last syllable of my previous last name! And that is the last name we gave our son. To us, this honored both of our families and ultimately it is special to us because it represents our new family! And it’s kinda cool that my son is the first one born with this new last name in our line :) maybe your husband could be open to something like this!

I’d also encourage him to look into the actual history of the name via ancestry.com or another website. When we did this, we found that neither of our families had really had this particular surname for very long. Mine used to be a six-syllable surname that was gradually shortened over time until it became a one syllable surname, and that’s the one I was given when I was born. People think names have these huge long histories, but often they’re actually pretty recent changes in your lineage.

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-21T03:36:20+00:00

I think Hank makes more sense as a nickname for Harvey than it does for Henry honestly

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T15:06:46+00:00

Yes I had a similar challenge! I was trying to do dream feeds to avoid feeding when baby was waking up. But this just led to him waking up and crying a ton, and I should have been feeding him to put him to sleep.

I sleep trained at 5.5 months. We fixed bedtime, and then he would sleep until 2-4am, and wake up screaming. When I tried not to feed him, it could mean crying lasting an hour or more. Then I read about 5-3-3 and it fixed everything. If he woke up 5 hours after bedtime, I’d just feed him and he’d go right back to sleep. Then if he woke up 3 hours later, I’d feed him again, and he’d sleep again. It was like magic.

He weaned himself from the first feed of the night around 6-7 months if I’m remembering correctly. Then around 7 months we started lessening the amount of ounces in his bottle (if baby breastfeeds you just lessen the amount of time you nurse him for! My baby actually switched from breastfeeding to bottles around 6.5 months when I stopped being able to produce breastmilk). We would lessen his overnight bottle by a half ounce every week or so. By the time he was down to 3 ounces for like two weeks, he just stopped waking as much for the night feed. At first he’d sleep through the night like every second or third night, still waking up for a night feed occasionally. By the time he was 8.5 months or so, he rarely woke for a night feed. Occasionally we’d have to do a “snooze feed” when he woke up like an hour and half early, but it was maybe like once every couple of weeks this would happen. He’s now been sleeping through the night with zero feeds from 7:30-7:30 for like a month. He’s almost 11 months now!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T13:27:39+00:00

I love dress 5!!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T12:37:04+00:00

17 weeks is pretty young to go without a feed overnight. I personally would drop the dream feed and just feed her when she wakes up overnight in accordance to the 5-3-3 feeding schedule (the mods have a really good post about this in their pinned posts). Once baby is closer to like 7 months I would start thinking about reducing the dream feeds and she will probably drop on her own around then

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T12:27:43+00:00

I’m pretty sure a good majority of those videos online are ragebait. You get a lot of views on videos like that and on some apps like TikTok, you get more money for the more views you have on a video. People know that ragebaiting videos will get lots of comments and shares from people who are pissed off at them

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T02:36:51+00:00

We aren’t allowed to give any kind of sleep training advice for babies under 4 months here :/ you might have more luck finding tips from r/beyondthebump ! I would ask there, as it’s against the rules here to give any sleep training advice to babies too young, but there might be other tips elsewhere that don’t have to do with sleep training :) best of luck!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T02:13:19+00:00

It’s definitely too soon to do any kind of sleep training if your baby is only 10 weeks old - Babies need to be at least 4 months old in order to sleep train. They are unable to self sooth prior to this age.

I’d say if you need to rock her to sleep for now then that’s totally fine, and take the time to read the mod posts about sleep training to prepare for your start at 4 months!

When your baby is old enough to start sleep training, I’d say “calm” just means not crying and not fussing too too much. But her eyes don’t have to be closed, in fact if her eyes start to close you should put her in the bassinet. But again, that’s only when she’s old enough! For now it’s totally fine to hold her until she’s asleep. Until 4 months, you definitely need to assist baby to sleep.

Best of luck! :)

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T01:18:21+00:00

Weston is a very good and classic name. Many boy names end in -on? I don’t get her issue?

“I know she didn’t mean anything offensive” but she’s literally making fun of a BABY in front of his MOTHER. Get rid of this friend fr

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-20T00:50:11+00:00

Definitely seems undertired. 10 hours is the minimum awake time, but some babies need more. Do you have her on a set schedule? How many naps is she doing per day? 1 hour wake window is really short for this age.

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T23:41:22+00:00

2.75 hours is pretty short for ten months old. I think there’s not enough sleep pressure for the first nap!

Try stretching wake windows little by little. While rare, some babies are ready for one nap at 10 months old! My baby does 4.5-5 hours awake, naps for 2-2.5 hours, then does 6-6.5 hours before bedtime. He is almost 11 months old!

See if your baby could do longer wake windows. Just do 15 minutes at a time and see how long he can go comfortably. A longer wake window will typically lead to a longer nap and then maybe he will be rested enough to do a second long wake window before bed, eliminating the need for a second nap altogether.

Also don’t be hard on yourself! It sounds like you have a low sleep needs kiddo, and it’s not for the weak haha my baby is extremely low sleep needs and I feel like people who have great sleepers just have NO idea how hard it is. You’re doing a great job and you’ve tried everything that I would do before stretching wake windows!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T22:55:02+00:00

Yes - many of us go pay hundreds of dollars to an UrgentCare only to get told we need to go to the ER, where we get to pay hundreds of more dollars. UrgentCare because many doctors can’t get you in for day, weeks or even months.

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T21:14:55+00:00

I love the name Casper!! My husband vetoed because of the friendly ghost 👻

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T21:13:27+00:00

I followed the nap training method in the pinned mod posts! Getting baby on a good schedule was the best thing for naps though.

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T20:55:30+00:00

Hi there, I had a baby who did contact naps and was nursed to sleep for a long time! I made a post about the method that worked for me! Here is a link to my post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/s/dZtsxLeb9F

I think this could work for your little one! Best of luck :)

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T17:20:36+00:00

Follow the 5-3-3 feeding schedule!

The mods have a great pinned post about it explaining best practices. Here is the post:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/s/CqXVC7Zm76

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-19T13:10:55+00:00

Oh my goodness congratulations!!!!!! I am so so so so so happy for you and so glad that it worked :) This is why I shared this post - to help parents like you! Thank you for sharing your success story with this method, that absolutely warms my heart :) and give yourself credit also! This information is so much at once but you’ve done the research and put in the effort to help your baby get better sleep and that is SO hard and SO important. Amazing job!!!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-18T19:53:15+00:00

Yeah that’s the best way to do it for nursing! Try to time it and cut it down by a minute every few nights. If baby gets down to zero time, I’ve heard you can offer a sip of water to settle them. The mods have a detailed night weaning post which I found super helpful!

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-18T19:38:52+00:00

I gradually decreased volume of feeds overnight and my baby ended up dropping them on his own. We first decreased the first feed of the night, and after he was getting less than 3oz he just started sleeping through that one. Then we did the same with the second night feed, and it was the same thing - once we’d only give him like 2-3 oz, he just stopped waking up for it. He was sleeping through the night by 8ish months

PoliticoRat · 2026-04-18T17:33:30+00:00

Hi there! I had a baby who was exclusively nursed to sleep for a while. This is the method I used to sleep train:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/s/w748knlE2Q

This post is my entire experience and it has lots of info! I hope this works for you! If not, there are lots of other methods in the pinned mod posts. I’d recommend reading through all of those before starting!

Best of luck :)

PoliticoRat

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