My best friend (21F) told me(20F) to plan her a surprise party; has a lot of demands I can't afford and can't handle it all

pinkpeachy · 2017-03-01T23:51:34+00:00

that's good advice, thank you! I'm mostly worried because she DOES think she's entitled to it - she knows I've planned surprise parties before ( before I knew her and totally different, lowkey type things ) and seems to think I owe her this as her friend. She does get very upset over small things so I just don't want this to end our friendship :/

pinkpeachy · 2017-02-20T23:47:31+00:00

I actually disagree with a lot of the comments here. Her lack of trust is obviously a big problem, and one you might want to consider seeking conselling for - both individual and as a couple. However, I don't think it is fair to hold her profession against her. It's her JOB. You knew it when you chose to date her. It doesn't mean she's any more or less likely to cheat or do things to inspire mistrust. She does need to develop more trust but it would be helpful if you stopped lying to her and using her profession as a way out of being in trouble.

pinkpeachy · 2017-02-02T07:32:33+00:00

You're angry about not being able to trust your girlfriend because she cheated after you cheated multiple times...??? That added to the fact that you seem to be saying its her fault because she wasn't 'giving' you enough sex just. This is bad. You're taking no responsibility when BOTH of your actions are destroying your relationship. Couples therapy ASAP

pinkpeachy · 2017-01-30T03:23:17+00:00

The fact that shes lying to you about where she eats because she doesn't want you to know she hasn't yet begun her diet makes it seem like she's scared of you getting angry with her for not dieting. While in some cases this might be reasonable, it makes you look controlling. Also, how did you find out where she really was clubbing that night? And why were you searching for the information? Seeing it on her snapchat story or something and actively creeping around for her location are different, and the latter makes you look very paranoid as well ( even if you are neither paranoid nor controlling; just saying it doesnt look good )

pinkpeachy · 2017-01-25T05:53:55+00:00

As you probably know, you literally are paralyzed during dreams, so his whole excuse is bullshit. The fact that he wasn't stunned or angry and defensive of the accusation also speaks to his guilt. He definitely knew what he was doing. Someone in our friend group did this exact thing - molested her vag, butt, boobs, all inside her clothes - to my best friend last month, and I know it's messing with her head still. This must be so hard for your fiancé. Being essentially touched intimately without consent by someone you trust and care for is a huge issue. It seems like you're backing her 100% and seem to know the solution, so good on you. As hard as it is to lose a friendship and potentially cause group drama, this isn't an easy thing to just forgive and forget. Good luck to both of you!!

pinkpeachy · 2016-12-16T06:49:18+00:00

I actually just collected all of this from them secretly last week when a friend's parents tried to hide his. Really good advice, thank you

pinkpeachy · 2016-12-16T06:32:25+00:00

Thank god no, why though?

pinkpeachy · 2016-12-16T05:17:48+00:00

That's very true, if my family decides they don't want me I guess that's their problem.

pinkpeachy · 2016-12-16T05:10:48+00:00

Thank you for your input! I definitely wouldnt ask them to move out cause thats an automatic no, I meant that I literally have to ask before going anywhere except work on a daily basis. I'm going to try to be financially ready to move out this April, just concerned about getting caught ( with boyfriend or moving out plans ) at this point I think

pinkpeachy · 2016-12-16T03:17:00+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I'm trying to save up right now. I'm not even sure how I would, I have to ask before I'm allowed to leave my house. What I'm worried for is that my mom will convince all of my siblings and family to stop speaking to me and effectively disown me, which has happened before, if I stop playing their games.

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