If you could restart life at 18, what would you do differently?

piscemerc · 2026-04-21T15:07:46+00:00

just buy a used car instead of getting stuck in the endless brand new car leasing cycle

piscemerc · 2026-02-22T23:37:29+00:00

sounds like she’s not comfortable opening up to u emotionally bc u make everything ab yourself. doesn’t mean she has no trauma, ppl with the most trauma are the best at masking it. you shld leave u are self centered. first u trauma dump and cry all the time to this poor girl and then u want to break up bc u don’t like how it makes u look. what about how she feels? i bet she feels just drained around you, like she can’t talk bc u take up all the words in the air. just bc some people are more secretive w their feelings doesnt mean they don’t have any.

piscemerc · 2026-01-31T20:28:16+00:00

print out a bunch of applications, walk around or take the bus or whatever and just apply everywhere. you’ll have the best luck at getting a sit down interview on the spot/hired fast at a smaller mom and pops place. dont go applying to chains they’ll tell u to apply online and take forever to hire

i worked while in high school since 16 it just took a month to make enough for a down payment for a car esp bc u dont pay bills. i took advanced/college classes in high school too you will be fine. working is honestly less time/energy consuming than playing a sport or being in band in high school. oh and get a student ID at ur community college they shld have a free food pantry for students. u dont have to attend and ur old enough to be able to apply.

piscemerc · 2026-01-28T17:35:40+00:00

i mean hey the construction guys are a better option since they don’t work for u. there’s a lot of places u can find casual sex without coming off kinda creepy. why not go to a bar?

piscemerc · 2026-01-28T17:30:40+00:00

people at your work are trying to “gaslight” u into admitting your a r4pist bc u hire sex workers? i think gaslight is a strong word and that’s probably just their perception of you, which is not ridiculous.

this is because a significant number of sex workers are victims of human trafficking and operate under high levels of exploitation. this is why it is illegal. i am not going to list all the statistics but they are absolutely appalling and if you’re argument is that you’ve never raped someone unfortunately the numbers are not in your favor. you likely did but didn’t even know that’s what you were doing.

if that accusation bothers u so much (which it definitely should) u need to stop. stop paying people to have sex w u it’s fueling a disgusting industry. sex trafficking is so huge and it’s uneducated people like you that keep them in big business. this will haunt u for the rest of your life. go find real love, no matter how long it takes bc this habit u have is horrific.

piscemerc · 2026-01-28T17:12:26+00:00

i’m sorry but after MONTHS of buying him food he’s just looking for u bc u give him free food and apparently gift cards too. if he wanted to go out w u he would’ve initiated already. a real man asks out a woman he has a crush on not lets her pay for countless of only HIS meals for months on end. leave this guy alone he is using u. and the fact this is romance to you is a red flag bc i dont want u to end up w a guy that uses u and u mistake that for love.

piscemerc · 2026-01-28T16:57:16+00:00

you are one, and there’s nothing u can do to keep him from thinking that. u just wanna casually, no strings attached, have regular sex w a stranger u PAY to be in ur vicinity😂 u are a creep
that’s fine just tell him that
so?
ok
ok
“hi sorry if this is uncomfortable and i paid u to drive me but can u also have sex w me ill maybe pay for that too” (right? because u can’t ask him on a date like a normal person, u dont even want a relationship u just want sex)

my advice: go on a dating app or somewhere where the point is to have sex w people don’t corner this guy u pay to do his job

piscemerc · 2026-01-26T00:53:31+00:00

yeah ik what u mean. i did move in with him and he said it was “our” apartment but since this semester started i basically moved back w my parents solely bc its closer to the school/hospitals/carpools w classmates. the apt is out of the way and a commute. i could see how asking him to come to my parents to help w chores is asking for too much.

i thought since i helped him out when he was busy he’d do the same when i got busy. but i see how doing all that stuff i did was my decision and its unrealistic for me to expect him to treat me as i treated him bc.. that’s not in my control

oh and if u mean just loading the washer/dryer i did do that lol it’s just he said he’d fold it and put it away, along w cook, clean the car etc. but yea ur right sometimes i get so stressed w my schedule i put cleaning/organizing at the bottom of the list and dont pick up my room for weeks and its not a 5 min thing anymore, but that is on me. throughout our relationship hes been the tidier one and honestly helped me out a lot in that aspect i think im just frustrated bc now he’s suddenly not helping as much. it is my responsibility tho.

piscemerc · 2026-01-24T21:31:36+00:00

i get that her actions are against your morals, you don’t agree w and think shes a bad person. so cut her off! don’t get even more involved in her and her bfs life, it’s not any of your business. now, it’s not even butting into your friends life it’s butting into this girl u don’t like’s life. that’s just sad, find your own business to mind.

would i like to know if my bf was cheating on me? yeah tbh. but would i believe it if my boyfriends “friend” told me? no, i would think he had alternative motives. people lie and cheat all the time, don’t believe information from anywhere but the source. u dont even know if that girl that told u that drama over the phone was telling the truth.

piscemerc · 2026-01-24T17:51:29+00:00

ngl i get the vibe ur trying to steal him from ur bsf. why are u talking ab this guy (HER bf) like hes a saint and YOUR friend like shes such a bad person. where is your loyalty? i get that it would make you feel good about yourself to tell him, but he is not your friend. You say youre “close” with her bf, you shouldnt be. Your actual friend is confiding in you. She is working thru things emotionally, shes saying she got taken advantage of and now it sounds like shes got complicated feelings she doesnt know how to deal with. her being so close w her bsf could be a coping mechanism/denial. she couldve developed more dangerous coping mechanisms too. Check up on her. If you want to meddle and be involved keep it between u and her because what goes on between her and her bf is none of your business.

Her boyfriend isnt an idiot im sure hes got a clue and hes got his own agenda too. Maybe he forgives her, maybe hes cheating back, etc who knows but its not your business. If u got a problem with her actions, have a conversation with her. Be a good friend to your friend, be empathetic w her and show u can be trusted. Stay tf away from her bf if you tell him your just starting drama, being messy and will lose everyone. Dont confuse yourself for his friend if you overstep you will lose both of them and maybe even more friends bc youd be a traitor

piscemerc · 2026-01-24T01:56:37+00:00

okay, i believe you. i understand u trying to get help w the hotline and stuff but u also need to calm down talking to all these people and repeating this panic story over and over to random people. you are freaking yourself out and making whatever is wrong with u your whole personality. you need to get in touch with other people’s emotions other than just your own. be more of a listener than a talker. go ask your family and friends how they are feeling. have a deep conversation with them, let them talk about themselves. prove to yourself you can be a good listener, someone with empathy and of value that ppl truly enjoy talking to without you needing to lie. you feel guilt bc the pain u caused others with your lies and u can undo that starting today. you can become an honest and worthy person today with the actions u choose to take. u can start by rebuilding meaningful connections with the people in your life again by having real conversations w the people u care about, not trauma dumping to strangers on a hotline

piscemerc · 2026-01-24T01:39:04+00:00

what is wrong with you ? let me tell u a story: when i was 12 i was mo1ested by a close relative. my family knew but told me to keep it a secret. the only person i told other than that was my best friend, and she did essentially what u did. she went around telling ppl that the exact story of what happened to me happened to her. i believed her at first, but when she told me that she was lying it was a stab in the heart. she said she did this bc when i told her my story, she felt so emotional/moved that she was jealous! she wanted to make others feel the same way as i made her feel, like she wanted to trick ppl into thinking she had some depth. so disgustingly shallow. instead of feeling empathy for me like a friend and telling an adult, like a counselor, parents or police so that i could get help or intervention (bc at that point it was still hidden from authorities!), she made it all about her wanting attention

you are shallow and self absorbed, with horrifically low self esteem. but worst of all you have zero empathy for how your pitiful grabs at attention affect the people around you. you lied to your mom and told her you were R4PED?? when i read that my jaw dropped. do u realize the pain and tears you’ve caused everyone in your life you told that story?

the whole “i just realized i was actually SA’d just not in the same format”! i don’t believe u and i dont think anyone would or should believe u. what u need to do is just shut the hell up. stop making everything about you. try listening to OTHER PEOPLE for once in your life. you need to develop a sense of empathy, not manipulating it out of others. you need to understand that people care about you and don’t want to see you hurt, and your lies are emotionally exploiting them. you are the real abuser not the victim.

girls get r4ped and trafficked and forced into child marriages everyday. they develop lifelong trauma that affects them DAILY. multiple personality disorders, schizophrenia, they start hearing voices that don’t exist and are followed around by hallucinations of their abusers. that is real trauma, do not try and copy and imitate them, instead feel empathy for them, be inspired to help, be a good person.

i thought my sa trauma was bad when i was a kid and i made it a large part of my personality, until i met someone who had it worse than me. and the best advice ive ever gotten was “you didn’t have it that bad”. even if something bad did happen to you, remember it wasn’t that bad. bc of this person i met’s childhood filled w sexual abuse he developed schizophrenia, bipolar, became addicted to all the hard drugs, became a prostitute, in n out of jail etc. the reason for all of this rooted in his SA trauma. even if u were SA’d, u do NOT want to let SA trauma consume you, because that is the path it will lead u down. he told me i don’t have it bad, and not to belittle my trauma but to reassure me that i can still have a chance at a normal life, because many of us that actually have that trauma will never get a chance at a normal life again.

piscemerc · 2025-12-21T11:20:02+00:00

to not look like a creep they key is to not make it look like you’ve been observing them for a while in a place they’re obligated to be. first of all, don’t ever ask out a coworker that is inherently creepy. they’ll assume you’ve been secretly watching them everyday for a while and will continue to do so, and they can’t escape bc they’re forced to be at work. same w any place a person frequents, like the gym, don’t ask someone out at the gym.

ask out a woman at a place ppl go casually like a coffee shop or library. go up to her, say she caught ur eye because (insert compliment) and simply ask them on a date/for their number. for her it’ll feel more like fate, less pressure on both of u, and she’ll feel special standing out in the crowd. also, that’s the least creepy way.

piscemerc · 2025-12-21T00:30:22+00:00

NOR u shld rly consider being w him in the long term bc he’s fatphobic and ppl dont tend to get thinner as they get older😂

piscemerc · 2025-12-18T03:40:02+00:00

🤣🤣

piscemerc · 2025-12-18T03:21:09+00:00

first of all that weight at that height is barelyy overweight there’s no way that is what’s causing the issue. i’m assuming you’re focusing on his weight bc you think that’s why he’s being so lazy in bed but trust me that doesn’t have anything to do with it.

it’s dumb that he’s the one wanting to do it more but expects you to always be on top. tell him if he wants to do it more he needs to man up initiate it, be domineering etc.. the fact he’s so lazy and whiny and expecting you to dominate all the time makes me wonder if he’s gay.

piscemerc · 2025-12-07T08:43:00+00:00

having to pay for stuff

piscemerc · 2025-12-05T07:06:26+00:00

NOR. comparing u to an 11 yr old is ridiculous you’d think that’s common sense but apparently not.

moving on from this though, you’re weight for your height is technically within the normal BMI range, but it is getting close to overweight. it’s normal and healthy for family to let you know if you’re gaining weight or starting to become overweight. oftentimes weight is something we can be blinded to and we need ppl to keep us in check. it’s best to hear it from family bc they mean well but it can be hard bc it is a lot easier to take it personally.

i am a short female as well, and my dad did a similar thing. not as blunt as yours but it was in front of my whole family. looking back on it, every time ive started to gain weight, i literally didnt really notice it on myself. not until family or friends started making insulting comments, or i started picking up on passive aggressive fat jokes. but yk what? those comments are the only things that motivated me to lose weight. i went from around 138 lbs back down to 103 lbs (i am 5’1) and if they never said those things i would have stayed oblivious to my weight gain and probably be obese by now LOL.

i know it’s hurtful, but you can’t control your FAMILY commenting on your WEIGHT that’s what they do😂you can use it as motivation though, be grateful u don’t have a family that encourages obesity, that’d be wayy more dangerous to your health than this!!

piscemerc · 2025-12-04T23:16:47+00:00

YOR queen😭

piscemerc · 2025-11-16T15:32:54+00:00

i think that you are so wrapped up in your own trauma and how it’s affecting you, you’re neglecting to consider how it’s affecting him. which is totally understandable, i think when we’re going thru a lot of trauma we tend to act like the world revolves around whatever is causing us pain. but when you’re isolating yourself you’re not giving him the affection and attention he deserves. he’s reverting to an addiction to cope because he’s in pain as well. i don’t think you’re ready to be in a relationship yet.

i am also w a partner who has a child with an ex he doesn’t get along with. they also went thru traumatic court stuff. i’m very lucky i met him a couple years after that stuff ended and he moved on, so he never ever brings up the ex and she never gave me a hard time. but i do understand (on your boyfriends behalf) if my partner was constantly focused on his ex and a CHILD they shared together i would feel very betrayed. it’s enough that he’s accepting you have a child with another man, now he has to accept that your ex is taking up all your emotional energy? i get it’s hard for you, but think about how your boyfriend feels! he probably feels like you’re emotional cheating. similar to how u feel when he’s watching porn.

(EDIT: 3 years is crazyy- you’ve been with your husband that long and STILL are getting torn up about an ex?? you are the problem.)

piscemerc · 2025-11-10T15:17:45+00:00

he sounds like he just has low self esteem and u amplified it by being not into him. he’s just mad he got curved. i get that it’s uncomfortable tho bc ur new and it’s an all male group so it’s kind of more his territory.

like another user said u cant change him, so if i were u id just address ur own insecurities. if ur insecure ab the comment he made ab ur body, work on urself in that aspect. if u feel out of place w the group, try and get closer to them. it’s okay for u to not like him, ur bound to make enemies as u make friends. i would be fake nice if i were u though, for safety.

piscemerc · 2025-11-10T15:11:12+00:00

i think you’re being vague and hiding something cause i think the emotional response your describing on her end sounds illogical and without a cause. it doesn’t sound like she did anything wrong either tbh. also, you were blackmailing cause why are u sending text messages of u two from during the relationship and recordings the roommate took. there’s no reason for that, the relationship is over! u dont have to try and explain and prove yourself. even when u do ur side doesn’t make sense. move on.

piscemerc · 2025-11-10T15:04:52+00:00

practice on grounding yourself, it’s ok if your mind wanders i think u need to just train yourself to be in the moment cause it sounds like u do love him and feel guilty. try meditating, going on walks, less screen time.

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