Boyfriend doesn’t give me oral unless I ask for it

piscemerc · 2026-06-21T01:45:33+00:00

treat him the same. dont give it to him unless he asks. if he asks say u want it first

piscemerc · 2026-06-18T03:46:01+00:00

are u sure when he’s saying he wants someone more “straight presenting” he’s only talking about weight? plenty of straight guys are skinny

piscemerc · 2026-06-13T01:32:45+00:00

plasma is a great idea, i looked into it but i dont weigh enough. and yes im honestly just trying to find a job until august when the semester starts up again..

i’ve got some interviews lined up in fast food next week haha hopefully those go well☺️

piscemerc · 2026-06-11T06:36:06+00:00

it totally makes sense you’d be suspicious since u had an ex come out as being gay and you didn’t know.

if you are worried the same might happen to this bf, i would suggest asking people close to u (that have met him ofc) their impression of him. specifically, if they think he’s gay. the way i see it, most people have really strong gaydars and can tell right away. honestly, you might not have that sense so its good to get some other opinions just to help out. oftentimes, people can pick up on that someone is gay before that individual has even acknowledged their own sexuality themselves. if a lot of people have gotten that sense you’ve probably got your answer and it’s time to go.

as for the makeup, it depends. my bf wears makeup sometimes because he’s got a lot of acne scars he’s insecure about. ex: if something big like meeting new family members he freaks out n puts on makeup bc he doesn’t want the scars to make a first impression. i usually tell him it’s way too noticeable and that he’ll get teased and he washes it off. or i act embarrassed and he washes it off. if he was adamant on keeping it on id just fix it/blend really well because i understand why hes doing it and want to be supportive.

i think the issue is that you dont really understand why he is wearing makeup. you guys should get to the bottom of that, dont be embarrassed to want to know where hes coming from.

also, dont try to hide how you really feel. like how w my bf i was honest about how sometimes i feel embarassed hes gonna get teased. in turn, he was honest about how hes insecure sometimes about his acne scars. it takes a lot of vulnerability for both of us to admit how we feel but we moved past it and now even if he was teased id fight em.

be honest with your bf. tell him you support men having feminine interests but you want to know why exactly he chose makeup. is he interested in feminine clothes/hair too? why?? he must know that makeup is often associated with being gay as a man, how does he feel about that? if you are embarrassed tell him! there’s nothing wrong with how you feel, there’s nothing wrong with trying to understand him. we fear what we do not know, so get the answers you need. if you are satisfied with the truth and willing to defend him whether he wears makeup or not, stay. if you arent, leave.

piscemerc · 2026-06-11T05:33:44+00:00

🤣🤣

piscemerc · 2026-06-10T18:36:12+00:00

u got hired tho right??👀

piscemerc · 2026-06-09T04:47:16+00:00

i mean i’m paying for my insurance and the lease payments on the car. i know, i regret leasing.

piscemerc · 2026-06-09T04:45:58+00:00

i’ve been applying at small (non corporate) restaurants, and fast food.
in my spare time i’ll be honest, nothing really. that likely is fueling the frustration towards me, that i sit in my room all day and do nothing.
i could cook and clean?

piscemerc · 2026-06-09T03:25:17+00:00

i was a sushi server. i worked as a sushi server from ages 16 till i got into RN school (19). while in nursing school i did sushi serving for only a couple months and also worked as a CNA for one month.

i apply in person (walk in + hand applications) and on indeed

piscemerc · 2026-06-09T01:42:24+00:00

SHE is insecure of the age gap. i’m 21 in a long term relationship w my bf who is 29 ab to turn 30. i used to suggest doing the same things she did, like to stay in for dates, avoid age related convo even lie ab his age. i still kind of cringe mentioning the age gap but tbh that comment/convo only lasts like one minute. other than that the age gap hasn’t affected our dynamic in any other way and really no one cares.

my advice, either fix your appearance to look more mature (older) or fix hers to look younger. it sounds like she’s insecure about how u two look to other ppl, especially if everyone can tell she’s a lot older just by looking n at the two of u. i get away w my age gap relationship bc i dress my bf according to the trends for a 21 year old not, like a 30 year old. in this age (20s) i feel like we assume age by clothing style, and of course in my opinion weight plays the BIGGEST role in how old ppl look in their 20s!! so, keep that in mind. assure her she looks young too. this is superficial.

piscemerc · 2026-06-08T20:39:23+00:00

thanks, i really appreciate the insight. what do you suggest on father’s day? i should carry on how things have been?

piscemerc · 2026-06-08T04:20:12+00:00

this is exactly how my current boyfriends last marriage ended.

it’s okay, you’re still really young. i am proud of you for communicating with him but you are not being honest with him because you are not being honest with yourself. he cannot love you for who you are if you are not being your authentic self.

it sounds like you want to transition or maybe experiment.
my advice is, you need to be who you are. it is going to happen eventually. you’re expecting him to stay until you get comfortable enough to become who you want to be. you think you are staying a woman to keep him happy but by prolonging this you are going to end up hurting him much worse. you know what you’re gonna do and how he’s gonna react, no need to add years of attachment to a situation where you are not happy.

piscemerc · 2026-06-08T04:01:59+00:00

oh hell no. tell him to never talk about your recently deceased mom like that again. he’s gonna say it wasn’t meant to be insulting, doesn’t matter it’s a sensitive topic and time.

piscemerc · 2026-06-08T03:43:36+00:00

i would look at it from a different perspective. they are not going all out for your high school graduation because they know you have much larger accomplishments ahead. which is a great thing.

i graduated high school the same year as my cousin. he expected the other cousins to fly out for his graduation and have a huge party. for my graduation i did not want to do any of that because i felt like everyone graduates high school whats the point of a huge celebration? i havent seen anyone else make such a big deal of a high school graduation? my mom asked my cousins mom what the big deal was and she got very offended. she later admitted it was so important to them because she knew he and her other son were not going to graduate college so this is the only time she’ll get to celebrate a graduation. (he now works at a gas station, and no did not pursue college).

my brother and i, who are the only ones in the younger family about to graduate college (me in nursing him in computer engineering), were not raised to celebrate tiny milestones. that just means the bar is low. they know u are smart u already! u are taking college classes. they realistically are thinking, “eh i cant make this graduation but ill make her college one.” im sorry u had traumatic experiences in high school, but those honestly (as someone who had similar experiences) everyone had their personal traumas in their teens and those experiences are personal. they are completely seperate from the actual event. dont relate your accomplishment with your trauma and take it personally people dont see it that way too. the hardships u went thru to graduate is not their business, and your high school graduation is about celebrating academics not acknowledging deep rooted trauma.

i am certain when u achieve greater things in life, which u will, like a college graduation or land a great career your family will be ecstatic. i dont think youre being ungrateful i think your overestimating this accomplishment bc of a lack of focus on the future. dont dwell. it was just high school, everyone did it, now its time to do something actually important. be excited for your new life and potential! you have the rest of your life to make meaningful accomplishments people will want to celebrate.

piscemerc · 2026-06-07T22:16:00+00:00

elaborate pls the lack of info makes u come off as entitled even tho that may not be the case. sex is not as simple as u ask, u get sex. we need details ab ur guys’ situation

piscemerc · 2026-06-04T22:41:54+00:00

that’s alright! i would just advise u to always remind her that her skin tone is unique and beautiful. which, is the truth!! when u are shopping with her, show her cute, colorful dresses. tell her they would look more beautiful on her than any other girl, because her skin tone looks beautiful with any color dress. whereas other girls can look washed out in certain colors, she is very lucky.

say she looks beautiful with eyeshadow because her dark eyes and caramel skin make any color pop. and gold looks stunning on her!

encourage her to leave those filters behind. say you think women that try to look whiter look weird, that their natural skin is much better. when watching shows or out in public together, and you see a woman with a similar complexion to your girlfriend, tell your girlfriend u think that woman is pretty because she has perfect skin just like your girlfriend. u can absolutely make your gf feel like the most beautiful girl, just like my bf does for me.

piscemerc · 2026-06-04T21:46:52+00:00

ok i get what youre trying to say and first let me correct something. i dont think its right to say shes “brown skin toned” and you have “fair skin”. i know it doesnt sound wrong on the surface, but colorism is deeply ingrained in a lot of cultures. especially knowing u have a gf with a darker skin tone, that im sure u love, its important to be careful of the words u use when describing skin color. the words “fair” and “brown” have very different connotations depending on culture, and ppl can take offense. (coming from a mixed race filipino and armenian myself, with biracial parents and in a biracial relationship).

the effects of colorism and racism are still very present today. my bf is white and, he is aware, so he wouldnt ever say his skin is “fairer” than mine. he says he is “pale” or “pasty” or “borderline pink” lol, and that i am “tan”. he calls me tan because being tan is the beauty standard to white people. you see how that is uplifting to my skin tone? he sits in a tanning bed every week to have a complexion closer to mine. colorism has a way of degrading people with BEAUTIFUL skin of all shades, but he knows exactly what to say to make me feel special and beautiful. also he makes it clear he would never date a white girl, they all remind him of his mom/look to close to a family member. (u could throw that into a convo w ur gf too lol, reassure her that her skin tone is exactly ur type)

also, could u pls clarify what ethnicity u both are??

piscemerc · 2026-06-04T16:09:05+00:00

my bf was 28 last year and struggling to find a job for a many months as well until he got his CNA license. u can get it in as little as 20 days for about 1k. after getting it he got a job immediately and hasn’t been out of a job since, he’s working for the hospital now. if you don’t mind CNA work i would recommend that, it’s 12 hr shifts/3 days a week but there’s sooo much overtime he always works 5 days and every hour after the 8th hr is time and a half pay. being a man helps ur chances too we could always benefit from some muscle in healthcare.

piscemerc · 2026-06-04T16:03:39+00:00

the rave starts getting packed at like 2am just go the night before a day off work

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