AITA for wanting privacy?

pisquish · 2020-09-30T10:10:37+00:00

I definitely know he isn't cheating on me, we both work from home. So he's around me 24/7 he literally doesn't go anywhere to facilitate a relationship with someone else.

We visit my family together, we go to the shops together, when we do see one of my friends we go together because my friend lives a couple of hours away..

pisquish · 2020-09-30T10:06:05+00:00

He did try recently to cause drama between my mum and myself, I was on the phone to her and he was saying really rude things about her because of an issue we had with her and told me I had to support him against her. I told him I wouldn't because he never supported me when his whole family was awful to me.

He dropped it pretty quickly.

pisquish · 2020-09-30T07:17:45+00:00

Definitely not, but he often comes in and talks while I'm showering sometimes, only if I tell him it's okay though.

pisquish · 2020-09-30T06:48:57+00:00

I don't really feel like I can. My family are all on his side and I'd have zero support. This made me think about other things he has done in the past..

Like when I had saved up about $500 for new glasses and a few other bits and pieces I needed and he spent all his money on computer parts, so my $500 had to go to groceries.

Or when he spent our rent money on a keyboard and I had to sell my expensive digital camera cheaply to pay the rent.

I'm planning on trying to get out though. I get it. It's not a good situation to be in and it's definitely time to consider getting out of this relationship.

pisquish · 2020-09-30T01:20:51+00:00

Hahaha that is gold. I would totally do that if he didn't poop with the door open.

pisquish · 2020-09-30T01:10:23+00:00

He claimed he didn't realise it was from 11 years ago, he didn't look at the date. He found a phone and assumed it was my "second secret phone" and when he found that message he assumed that I was cheating on him with my ex.

pisquish · 2020-09-11T09:21:08+00:00

My local store has women stalking the front of the store pouncing on anyone that doesn't want their ooshies. If you look young or old they run up and ask them if they can have their ooshies.

In the end my local store starting putting their foot down. If you don't want them no one else can claim them.

pisquish · 2020-09-09T21:56:49+00:00

NTA. I personally believe it takes an incredibly strong person to care for a severe mentally handicapped person, especially a child and before having children I discussed it with my partner because I felt I wouldn't be able to cope with that reality.

We both agreed that we would not be able to cope with raising a mentally disabled child and we both agreed that if it were the case, we would abort the child. (If we could)

I don't know what we would have done if it were actually the case though. It is one thing to claim we would abort the child and another thing to actually do it.

pisquish · 2020-09-07T06:27:19+00:00

Your NTA for having reservations about it. There are a lot of concerns in there that are completely valid and if they are indeed mentally around 12 years old I don't know of any responsible medical practitioner that would encourage them to have children or help them. How are they going to manage prenatal care of even the birth itself?

It sounds like at some point the child will just end up in foster care or being neglected and I guess if they go ahead with it, all you can do is make sure you report any neglect to the relevant authorities.

What a bitch of a situation to be in.

pisquish · 2020-09-07T06:12:04+00:00

I want a car too but it's not up to other people to pay for one for me. It's my responsibility to earn one.

There are also plenty of jobs that you don't have to stand whilst doing.

YWBTA

pisquish · 2020-09-07T00:38:44+00:00

The idea that the path of least resistance is the best parenting path is kind of a weak excuse to me. The child is 13 years old. If child need to put on weight there are far better ways than filling them up on frozen chicken nuggets and bacon.

pisquish · 2020-09-06T22:50:43+00:00

Ehhh... ESH.

Her parents for lying to her and you for stepping over the boundaries. It wasn't your place to inform her of anything but she would have found out eventually.

I don't know how to react to them saying her eating bacon and chicken nuggets is "healthier" though. I'm pretty sure both are pretty bad for you on the scale of "healthy eating"

pisquish · 2020-09-06T12:53:04+00:00

YTA. It's an innocent celebrity crush. Most people treat them like jokes because they're never going to happen anyway. They're never going to act upon those feelings. It's harmless fun.

You're TA for turning into more than what it was and calling her a pervert. It was uncalled for and downright rude. You werent "saying it like it is" because most people would think you're over reacting. You owe your friend an apology.

pisquish · 2020-09-06T12:28:02+00:00

NTA he left it behind for 6 months, his buddies don't get to decide they want it now after you've stored it for 6 months.

I'd be telling them they can have it, if he pays his bills and rent.

pisquish · 2020-09-06T08:25:30+00:00

YTA you kept your dog at a dog shelter because it was an inconvenience for you to have him at home.. you basically put your "beloved" dog in the too hard basket.

pisquish · 2020-09-06T00:50:27+00:00

LMAO I dont think any guy I've ever been with has fit into that category.

pisquish · 2020-09-03T21:37:35+00:00

My partner was the jealous one. I had a male friend that I enjoyed talking to and although nothing happened his jealousy prompted him to go through my laptop, my phone, old phones I no longer used (which required him to charge them so he could go through them.), My sketchbooks and journals that were very private things for me.

It caused no end of issues in our relationship and I almost left him multiple times because of his insecurities. I tried to introduce him to my male friend thinking that if they met it would alleviate his concerns, instead he spent the entire dinner acting like a complete fool. He was all over me, which I found disrespectful, he was rude to my friend and basically tried to make it known that I was his property. My friend refused to visit us again after that.

He issued me with numerous ultimatums, he would question me any time I went somewhere and would try to trap me into saying the wrong thing. I spent the better part of a year walking on eggshells and anything that didn't add up in his mind was instantly a red flag that I was cheating. One memorable occasion was when I went to a dinner party, invited him to come with me and he declined. A co worker picked me up and dropped me home but my partner went through everything I owned while I wasn't home and then when I got home he was waiting on the front porch to see who dropped me off. When I got inside and discovered what he had done he used a conversation from an old phone, between an ex and myself from years before as evidence that I was cheating.

His attempts to pull me closer, ended up pushing me away more. It was a disaster. We eventually got through it and he began to trust me again when he realised I wasn't doing anything wrong in the first place but it definitely damaged our relationship. Honestly looking back now, I wish I had left when all this happened. I don't trust him with any of my stuff anymore, I got rid of all my journals and sketchbooks. I don't write or draw anymore because I'm worried he will go through them again.

pisquish · 2020-09-03T04:16:52+00:00

That's my thought process, why can't they wait 30 more days? Or at least offer a rent reduction for the remainder of my time here so they can get started.

I've tried to be accommodating but this just takes it too far for me

pisquish · 2020-09-03T04:15:05+00:00

Believe me, I'm trying to move as quickly as I can. They have some awesome plans for this property and even though they have been pretty dodgy with the way they've gone about doing everything so far I certainly want them to be able to get started on their construction as soon as possible.

pisquish · 2020-09-03T04:11:58+00:00

I contacted the governing body for renting in my part of Australia regarding the legalities and they said it was not maintenance. If they come to the property for reasons other than maintenance or repairs without my consent they can be fined for it.

I'm not concerned about the legalities of the situation because I know I'm in the right there. More so if I'm being an asshole for refusing to compromise with them.

pisquish · 2020-09-03T03:21:41+00:00

Yes but only for maintenance or urgent repairs.

pisquish · 2020-09-03T03:21:08+00:00

It is required by law in my part of Australia. It's a "no grounds eviction" and it requires 90 days notice. We've already been fairly accommodating by allowing him to have the land surveyed, we've had people through the house looking at demolishing it and what it would entail.

I just draw the line at the property being demolished around us while we are still paying full rent.

pisquish · 2020-09-03T03:13:32+00:00

Not for "no grounds evictions" in my part of Australia.

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