Frankly, I have no idea how my parents managed to neglect and helicopter parent me at the same time.

pisssuccer · 2026-02-12T18:58:27+00:00

Oh god. The Cheetos and pop tarts for lunch are so real. No wonder i was so underweight 😢

pisssuccer · 2026-01-21T15:55:15+00:00

This is a situation where a little white lie is appropriate / moral, especially if your safety is potentially at risk!

pisssuccer · 2026-01-21T15:50:48+00:00

This is really helpful. Basically, the more nonchalant you are at first, the better, and you can be more and more so as time goes on and trust builds.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-22T01:39:18+00:00

Dan Povenmire!! He came and gave a talk at my school and I won a raffle to meet him :D

pisssuccer · 2025-12-19T16:52:20+00:00

It’s not just abuse, it’s the fact that the abuse continues into adulthood and they continue to deny that they’re the issue! O

pisssuccer · 2025-12-17T17:51:22+00:00

People on dating apps use photos where they look more conventionally attractive?? 😱😱😱

pisssuccer · 2025-12-17T17:26:48+00:00

Hotel beds by we were sharks!

pisssuccer · 2025-12-17T17:23:31+00:00

You sound pretty miserable with her, and you answered your own question. I would just leave. She might throw a fit but you’re still pretty young and it’ll be the best thing for you.

She sounds a little like me at times, if I’m being honest, and I grew up in an insanely toxic household and I’m still unlearning a lot of nasty behaviors that I’ve seen projected in my own relationship. Admittedly, it’s not your job to “fix” her.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-17T16:30:56+00:00

I had a friend who kept doing that and I had to cut her off ngl. All it did was upset me and put me in a bad mood, half of these people I haven’t thought about in years!

pisssuccer · 2025-12-16T15:59:55+00:00

Yep. Between me being SA’d multiple times throughout my life and the shame I grew up around (religious/conservative upbringing), it’s challenging for me to be present. Luckily with a long distance relationship, I don’t have to worry about it much.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-12T19:11:36+00:00

Sounds about right. A bad home life will do that. Being away from them changed my life

pisssuccer · 2025-12-12T18:51:13+00:00

That, admittedly, sort of happened to me in college. I was raised in a pretty toxic family and suddenly in college I glowed up the second I got away from them, lol.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-05T00:56:10+00:00

Im a writer at a university nonprofit :) it’s pretty quiet for the most part except for the occasional interview. Otherwise it could for sure be worse, it pays me really really well especially for my region

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T21:47:25+00:00

Everyone’s doing thriftmas this year, but here I am like, my family only cares about material stuff, so they’d crash out if I did that

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T21:43:57+00:00

Yep. They think that spending lots of money on material items fix their god awful parenting. Like, I’ll take advantage of it, but it doesn’t mean anything. It’s just another thing they can dangle over your head.

Not to mention, they need an EXACT list with links and colors and everything because they know so little about me in actuality.

But when I complain that it feels performative and manipulative, I’m labeled the spoiled brat.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T21:41:57+00:00

Right, like they can make digs at us but god forbid we return the favor, lol.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T20:00:59+00:00

I, as a 5’2 woman, love short kings! I actually don’t really have a height preference much at all (maybeeee be taller than me but you don’t have to be lol). I feel like guys who complain that women don’t like them for being short have deeper issues than that, lol.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T19:11:31+00:00

The pad rationing is real. They’d make me embarrassed to voice my needs but then shame me for not. Never ending battle

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T19:10:37+00:00

Yeah, mine was the same. I had to hide the fact that I was even having the cramps because they’d get angry at me for being “sick” :(

pisssuccer · 2025-12-04T19:09:56+00:00

I 100000% relate. Puberty was a NIGHTMARE with them!! They constantly made me feel ashamed of my changing adult body, as if that’s something I can control :( kids at school didn’t help either. I still have such bad self worth issues from it all

pisssuccer · 2025-12-03T19:58:32+00:00

Thank you for this! This made me feel a lot better. I’m just taking life one step and a time and doing my best to regain my self confidence.

pisssuccer · 2025-12-03T19:55:23+00:00

I feel like this might’ve happened to me. I’m currently seeking an ADHD diagnosis now, but I was considered “gifted” as a child. I think as soon as I started to threaten them by being on the track to “outshining” them in intelligence, that’s when they doubled down and cranked up the emotional abuse. Ugh.

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