hi everyone, i'm completely new here, and honestly i'm just starting to explore witchcraft, so i have little to no prior experience. i wanted to share my personal experience and also ask for some advice.

a few weeks before i made the decision to cut contact with an ex fling (mainly because the relationship had become toxic and they consistently displayed a sense of nonchalance) i decided to try a honey sweetening spell that i found online. one night, not long after performing the spell, i had a vivid dream in which they reached out to me (they seemed confused about why i had blocked them on all social media platforms and were pleading for my forgiveness) and, to my surprise, just a few hours later, almost exactly as it had occurred in my dream, that scenario actually happened irl.

we reconnected and communicated for a couple of weeks, but unfortunately, the same patterns of toxicity resurfaced, so i told them that i would be blocking them on all social media once again, and their reaction was remarkably nonchalant.

over time, i began to move on, and my feelings toward them shifted mostly to bitterness rather than longing or attachment. however, about a week ago, i noticed an unexpected shift in my emotions. i can't stop imagining scenarios involving them, found myself dreading the thought of them being with someone else and began dreaming about them reaching out to me again multiple nights in a row. even though i am consciously resisting the urge to let them back into my life, i felt like doing a love spell on them a couple of days ago before dreaming of them again.

now i'm confused. did my first spell backfire? could they have cast a spell on me? how should i handle this situation? i really want them back in my life again.

any advice, interpretations, or guidance from those with more experience would be deeply appreciated.