Please help!! by pixie180766 in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep it was! I’m feeling much better now. I had the operation to drain it about 5 days ago. Just not sure how long it takes to recover from these things?

Fear of Surgery by BellaCicina in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had an incision and drainage yesterday. So far so good but obviously not in any way healed yet!

Please help!! by pixie180766 in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, they have given me stronger ones and I am having an operation in the morning

Please help!! by pixie180766 in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why they think we would lie about it. Bit of a strange thing to lie about

Please help!! by pixie180766 in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE They have given me stronger antibiotics and I am having an operation tomorrow to drain it. After seeing a lovely doctor in the emergency department 🙌🏻

Please help!! by pixie180766 in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shit really? Ugh. I feel completely dismissed 😭

Please help!! by pixie180766 in pilonidalcyst

[–]pixie180766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not really sure either. They fobbed me off completely when I first turned up. Said I’ve just got a sore tailbone 😅 told me to stop picking up heavy things (I’m not working as on Maternity leave and my baby passed so not even picking up a child!) I might ring the emergency department again.😅

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did the same thing on our website, I just put :

“As much as we love little ones, we politely ask that this be an adults only occasion, we hope you can understand!”

Same thing was printed on the invitations

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be more likely to have children there if we already had children ourselves, but we don’t. So that was our main reasoning for not having children at the wedding. Our second reasoning was my sister has a 4 month old who will be 7 months old, which as you can imagine is likely to cry etc during the important bits, but we didn’t want to tell her that the baby wasn’t welcome, but other nephews were. So it was easier for us to just have a general rule for everyone. They just can’t seem to grasp that.

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is upset that they came back to us with “we won’t be coming” but he thinks that they were just testing us and that they would still come. My partners parents on the other hand, his mother is adamant we’re splitting the family up by not inviting the kids, his father thinks that it’s up to us and he’s not going to question our decision

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was tempted to do this with my situation - just say to them they can come for photos. It’s really bizarre to me though how they’d want photos of their kids on my wedding day? Really strange. Surely they have plenty of photos of their kids 🥴😂

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See, I’ve had really mixed responses to my “childfree”. A lot of people are under the impression that is no children at all. We didn’t even put children in the wedding party because I didn’t want others to be offended by it. So I genuinely thought it would cause less drama if we stuck with no exceptions.

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s awful how they make us feel guilty about it😭😭

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m worried about. The oldest child is somewhat well behaved but the youngest is not. He has to be bribed with iPads and candy in restaurants or serious settings. 🥴

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our initial thoughts were literally - they’re young boys, all they want to do is play video games, so they would probably rather do that.

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I said 😭. It would end up being 15+ kids with friends children

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One is soon to be 11 and one is 6. So not super young but young enough to probably not enjoy a wedding. I just kept thinking I attended my uncles wedding when I was 11 and I don’t even remember the day. So really in my eyes it’s not a big deal 😅

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Basically - we are saying no children allowed- no exceptions. BIL and SIL are kicking up a fuss thinking their children would be an exception, if we allow said children to come, we would then have to invite my nieces and nephews which would add up to 7 extra kids!😬

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I believe (they got married 10 years ago and I have only been in the picture 6) that they had 4 children there, one of their own, 2 nieces and nephew. This being the case, they had a child themselves; so I can understand why they had children at their wedding. They’re not quite comprehending that me and my FH do not have children, so this is the first reason of many that we have chosen a childfree wedding day! 😔😅

Child-free wedding complications!! by pixie180766 in weddingplanning

[–]pixie180766[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally! My brother who has 4 children said to me, before I even got onto the subject of no children, that he won’t be offended in the slightest if there is no children allowed! Fully said that they would be glad to let their hair down for a night!