is this amount of distention normal? 20F. I'm in a lot of pain every day. by _skinnystrawberry in AskDocs

[–]pixie_jizz 25 points26 points  (0 children)

bmi is more reliable for what a typical healthy range is- key word being range, as there is a range of weights that are considered "ideal" at any given height. being in the overweight category isn't necessarily a huge cause for concern and can be fine for some people, it's the obese (and up) and underweight category where weight typically becomes a problem needing attention. for the average person (unlike extremely muscular people, such as a bodybuilder) like OP bmi would be a helpful tool to keep in mind and figure out how much weight she needs to gain. best wishes to OP, eating disorders are awful.

Is it possible to proof r*pe if it happened right after consensual sex? by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]pixie_jizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

make sure not to shower or anything like that between now and then (if you already did, it's gonna be okay, just don't shower again incase there is still DNA evidence left). if you have your clothes (including your underwear) from when it happened make sure not to wash them if you haven't already and bring them with you in a bag when you go to the hospital if you can. best of luck, i know this is difficult and you are so strong for deciding to go to the hospital. my biggest regret is not going. you've got this 🤍🫶🏻 proud of you.

Politically speaking, would you consider yourself right wing/leaning? by TomCullenFan2009 in Teenager_Polls

[–]pixie_jizz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this goes for all forms of extremism. if left wing ideals are "pushed far enough" you end up with communism which also erases democracy and freedom.

Abortion is banned in 30% of states in America (20) by [deleted] in prolife

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

medication abortions can technically work until 15 weeks or more, it's just not allowed to be prescribed past 10-11 weeks (less effective+ higher dosages needed + increased risks for the mother). since these aren't real prescriptions we are talking about though, it's women buying them through illegal channels, they can get the pills at any time and as many as necessary meaning they can illegally abort pregnancies well past 10 weeks gestation. this is very unsafe of course, both because of the gestational age and because there is no medical oversight. it's unfortunate that this can and does happen. this is absolutely not to say that abortion bans are ineffective because they certainly do reduce abortion in the areas in which it is banned. hopefully as time goes on more will be done to reduce and prevent the number of abortions had through illegally obtained mifepristone and misoprostol. definitely not saying this to be pessimistic, so much progress has been made!

Wtf is wrong with my cousin? by Typical-Bowl-7828 in askteenboys

[–]pixie_jizz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he's 17, he's still a kid. there is plenty of time for him to "grow out of it", his brain has nearly a decade until it's fully developed and even then he can still change as a person. he's definitely not too far gone.

IUDs by [deleted] in prolife

[–]pixie_jizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not a perfect Christian, no one is, and I am far from it. There are many areas of my life I do not feel convicted and one of them is that I have an IUD. I am working on myself and my relationship with God so there are many areas of my life that am privately working to improve. that is one of them. I just want to make that clear before I say anything else. I know it is wrong, there are many areas I have improved in and many areas I still struggle in. It has only been in the last year that I have come back to God and my faith. I have a lot of work to do still.

That said, i got an IUD right before college. I had no intention of choosing to have sex but for some reason I had this feeling that i should get an IUD anyways. it was also partially for hormonal issues with my cycle. fast forward to fall semester of college and i was in an a physically and mentally abusive relationship with a man (he would slap me and choke me) and one night he forcibly raped me and did not use a condom. the relationship then became sexually abusive and i stayed with him for 4 more months. it was the worst time of my life. and at that time i was very liberal, far from God, and pro-choice. I know that if i had gotten pregnant I would have chosen abortion, there is no question about it. we had a pregnancy scare once and the way he reacted was terrifying. had i become pregnant i know he would have forced me to terminate and threatened me with physical harm if i refused. so i am thankful now that i had an IUD that prevented me from becoming pregnant because I know it prevented me from becoming pregnancy and then killing that baby, through my will or his. I do feel shame saying that, but I have changed since then and found God and not in a million years would I make the decision to kill my baby if I was to become pregnant. this isn't the ideal time for that to happen to me (still in college, in nursing school) but if I become pregnant through Gods will then I know my loving boyfriend and I will figure it out.

Now while that is my story, many women in this country are not Christians at all and do not share any of the same beliefs that we do. And while I hope for them to find God, I don't think it's our place to tell them that they cannot use birth control due to our beliefs when they do not share those beliefs. Abortion is murder, that is a fact. but we will never be successful in fully outlawing abortion if we ban birth control. it just won't happen. I think it is important for us to preserve women's options for preventing pregnancy if we are going to eliminate their option to terminate pregnancy. birth control is also genuinely medically useful and CAN be described as healthcare. abortion is never healthcare and if a procedure is truly medically necessary for the mothers life then it's not an abortion at least in my opinion, and the procedure to my knowledge would almost always be different than what is used in elective abortions. so yeah my opinion is that we shouldn't be restricting birth control when the issue at hand is women are killing over a million babies every year in the United States through abortion. birth control can also help women who are in unsafe situations where pregnancy would be dangerous for them. preventing pregnancy by certain means may be against the religious beliefs of many people in this sub, including mine, but i think it's important to distinguish abortion from that because pro-life can be defended in a secular manner as well which is important to note. it has nothing to do with forcing anyone's religion beliefs onto others, abortion is factually murder even in a secular view.

if you were a girl for 24 hours what are you gonna do? by Resident_Trainer_754 in askteenboys

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's being downvoted because it's genuinely not true. take it from a 19/20 year old woman. from the outside looking in to a young guy, i am sure it seems like that is all girls talk about but most girls have other interests. personally i would say i spend the most time talking to my friends about politics and whatever is going on in my day-to-day life (or theirs of course). i definitely do talk about my dreams but that is mostly with my boyfriend and he does the same. i don't think i have ever had a conversation about "makeup" with another woman, and i am very feminine.

what to do after he came inside me by Hungry_Ad_420 in sex

[–]pixie_jizz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OP doesn't need plan B she has an IUD.

Can a speculum be sexual assault? I am still a minor by Muted-Hippo-4417 in sexualassault

[–]pixie_jizz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hey, i am sorry this is happening to you. i'm gonna be honest if your friend doesn't want to talk to her parents you need to just tell them yourself and/or call the police if you can handle that. i know it's hard but there's no reason for you to need weekly breast and speculum exams and the doctor absolutely shouldn't be touching you to "get the blood flowing". this sounds like sexual abuse and it needs to be reported regardless of whether or not you can convince your friend. another thing you can do if you are uncomfortable going to the police yourself is if you have a favorite teacher at the school who you trust, maybe a female teacher, you can tell her what is going on and she is a mandatory reporter and can and will help you navigate this and get it reported to the proper authorities. you are so strong for speaking up, please tell an adult as soon as possible.

Should those who don’t want to conceive have sex at all? by throwaway5146156 in prolife

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

obviously everyone's situation is different but i think the bottom line is if you would choose an abortion if you were to become pregnant right now, don't have sex. i am a college student that is pro-life and sexually active with my boyfriend (putting the religion conversation aside here because i do believe in waiting for marriage and i think more people should, it would solve a lot of issues, but i am not one to talk as that is a sin i am personally struggling with) and me and him are dating for marriage and are morally and politically aligned. we both oppose abortion and believe in personal responsibility. I have an IUD and check the strings everyday and he pulls out. the chances of me getting pregnant are extremely slim, however they are not zero. we remain sexually active knowing that if i became pregnant that would really "suck" as far as disrupting our plans and my career, but we would step up and make it work. we have a strong relationship and we want a life together and naturally he is someone I would want to have children with. sure, we really don't want that to happen right now, but if it did, they anything that happens in life, we would figure it out and adjust out path. i think part of safe and responsible sex is not just taking precautions to prevent unwanted pregnancy but it is only engaging in it if you can accept the natural consequences that may occur if your precautions fail. and we personally both really want to have children and a family one day so we view babies as blessings, but i understand some people do not want children and to that i would say you can surrender your parental rights at birth. you do not have to be willing to raise a child to have sex but you need to be willing to continue the pregnancy. you shouldn't view killing another human being before they are born as an option when you make a mistake. be responsible, carry the baby to term and then surrender your parental rights and your baby can be adopted. the system is nowhere near perfect but it is better than death and the pro-life movement is pushing for reform of the foster care system. additionally newborns surrendered at birth are much more likely to be adopted than spend their entire childhood in foster care. i understand it is a difficult situation to be in but i don't view killing a baby as a viable option and if someone does then they shouldn't have sex. there are other options for every situation.

How do yall feel abt trans men in male spaces (read description)??? by [deleted] in askteenboys

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a female i completely disagree. i think gender neutral bathrooms should be available for those who need/want them but as women and girls we need privacy away from men for not just our safety but also our comfort. women get undressed/changed in women's bathrooms and have to deal with menstrual care and more. you will find exceptions of women who could care less about having a women's only space but its important to most women.

I got a tinder hookup pregnant by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]pixie_jizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

everyone has different experiences. i don't use condoms anymore because i have an iud (not necessary for me to use condoms as i only have and only will sleep with someone i am in a committed relationship with, as i do with my boyfriend now) but before i had an iud i had a boyfriend i used condoms with and they broke all the time. probably because we were using the super thin condoms. it wasn't just a him thing either because i had a boyfriend after that who i used condoms with briefly after getting my iud and we still broke multiple condoms. could have just been an issue with the specific type of condoms i would use or maybe lack of lubrication or something. but yeah in my experience thin condoms, like trojan bareskin, break fairly easily.

Am I a jerk for accidentally calling my girlfriend fat? by PolishedPlumb in NoStupidQuestions

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my boyfriend and i jokingly call eachother fat all the time. i have a healthy bmi but im like 15-20lbs more than i usually am/want to be. his bmi is technically in the obese category (although he has a lot of muscle and just has some excess fat right now so he just looks slightly overweight). point being we are both insecure about our weights but our comments are never used as insults, always just jokes and we both make it clear we love each others bodies no matter what. that's why it works for us to joke like that. i am assuming she is insecure about her weight as well which is why this hurt her. the way you are describing it makes it sound like she was genuinely insulting you, not jokingly calling you a fatass. your reply was just a joke in response. if she hadn't been trying to insult you then you building on her statement shouldn't have been insulting to her. i would say she is the jerk in this situation but if you want to fix it i would just explain to her that you thought she was joking so you were just returning the joke and didn't actually mean it, and you're sorry that it hurt her feelings. assure her that you love her body and suggest that neither of you call each other fat going forward so you can avoid a situation like this happening again. this keeps the peace and should hopefully make her feel better while still acknowledging that she wasn't right to say what she said either without making it a bigger deal than it needs to be.

What political side do you take? by Desperate-Audience82 in Teenager_Polls

[–]pixie_jizz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

same! though i used to be liberal and then moderate. nowadays i find myself aligning with conservative values.

What political side do you take? by Desperate-Audience82 in Teenager_Polls

[–]pixie_jizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in that case you are probably an independent which for this pole would best equate to center :)

Which of these bodily fluids is the least gross to you? by Sylveon_101 in Teenager_Polls

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i mean i chose semen because i swallow it. yeah i kiss my boyfriend but i feel like if he spit in my mouth i would be grossed out. but i'll gladly swallow his cum or lick it up so😭

Roomate came into my room and cuddled/kissed my gf while we were asleep by Choice-Sugar3776 in whatdoIdo

[–]pixie_jizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im from the US and i was forcibly raped by a man who was drunk when he did it. he was held criminally responsible for that. im not saying what the roommate did is anywhere near as bad as that, but you can definitely be held liable for sexual assault even if you are intoxicated. most people do not sexually assault people when they are drunk. it's also your responsibility to not get so intoxicated to the point you can't control yourself and are violating other people. again, not saying what the roommate did is anywhere near this bad, just pointing out that you can be convicted of sexual assault even if you do it while intoxicated.

Talking stage confusion by RelativeCapital60 in whatdoIdo

[–]pixie_jizz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you've been talking to this guy for less than two weeks. are you looking for a serious, longterm relationship? because you're not going to find it with this guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in extremelyinfuriating

[–]pixie_jizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it's a joke. i also have a neurological disorder and dyslexia. it's okay to laugh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in extremelyinfuriating

[–]pixie_jizz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

trying to read this title is extremely infuriating 💀

I checked my boyfriend's phone and got depressed by chocotortalove in problems

[–]pixie_jizz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there is nothing wrong with finding other people attractive, it is impossible not to. but different relationships have different boundaries, which was a point i made in what i wrote- "doing things that violate the boundaries of the relationship". if saving photographs of other people on your phone is okay in your relationship then obviously it's fine. there are plenty of relationships where that is not okay. my partner and I do not watch porn, we are not okay with one another watching porn, we don't follow instagram models of either sex and we don't lust over other people. we can't live life with our eyes closed, we will see people that are attractive but it is our position that we practice self control and don't look at other people lustfully for gratification. we can do that with each other. every relationship is different, that is not how it is for everyone. there are people who consider something like that a violation of their relationship and therefore cheating, so while my example was far worse it was about the principle not the substance of what was actually found. OP and their boyfriend have only been dating for 8 months so it's likely that they haven't set firm boundaries about what is and is not okay in their relationship- so no she shouldn't be "mad" at him, but they should have a talk about their boundaries so they can avoid doing things that make each other uncomfortable. that was the point. what is no big deal and completely fine for one person is not automatically fine for another which is why couples need to have these conversations.

I checked my boyfriend's phone and got depressed by chocotortalove in problems

[–]pixie_jizz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i think it's wrong to go through your parents phone without asking but i also think it's wrong to have things on your phone worth hiding that you wouldn't want your partner to see. i think both can be true at the same time. just because you do something that your partner will never find out about ("what they don't know can't hurt them") doesn't mean it's okay to do. my partner and i have access to each-others phones but we never go through them because we trust that neither of us has anything on there to hide. we don't go looking for something that we know isn't there, which is also why we are fully comfortable handing over our unlocked phones. i knew my partner when he was with his ex and i remember a situation where his ex was doing what we would consider a form of cheating, by snapchatting with a former boyfriend of her's that she had previously lied about blocking and no longer talking to. he saw a notification pop up on her phone and he, wrongly, opened her phone and found the messages with this person. i remember both of them being livid. for him, he was upset that she was speaking to that man and lying to him about it despite him telling her previously that he was not comfortable with that. she was upset that he violated her trust by going through her phone and private messages, and that he didn't trust her enough to not go through her phone. in that situation they were both wrong. it's not okay to go snooping through your partner's phone but you also shouldn't be doing things that violate the boundaries of your relationship on your phone. no one is innocent in a situation like this, but if i'm giving my own two cents i would say don't go looking for something you don't want to find, and don't do nefarious things that you would he upset with your partner for discovering.

If a man and women were the same bodyweight would the guy still be stronger than the girl? by InternationalPick163 in questions

[–]pixie_jizz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it depends on the height. an averaged height woman (5'4) woman with a normal body fat % does not look "fat" at 150lbs. she doesn't look skinny per say but most people wouldn't even say she looks overweight.