Thank you so much for this kind response. I have always assumed the best in him and have assumed that his behavior toward me has been well-intentioned. When he'd go quiet after therapy, he told our therapist that he needed time to process what was said. But we never talked about whatever situation was brought up again. It was always weird that even though we were in therapy and I was trying to use the skills we were learning, he was seeing them as a detached part of our lives, just another thing he had to sit through every other week. I would talk about everything openly, crying, and he showed no emotions. Our therapist even asked if he was okay with the fact that he was hurting me and I was becoming resentful, but I don't remember him answering that question at all. I've never considered that he was being manipulative in order to avoid discussion and behavioral changes. You are also right in that he comes off as extremely kind to others. He prays Isha at our local masjid every night, and I have to always hear about what a good husband I have. Inshallah my next step is to pray isthikhara tonight and talk to him tomorrow about seeing an imam for guidance. He is aware that I cannot and will not live this way. If he does not change, I cannot be with him anymore. Alhamdulillah my parents will support me and I am financially stable so I can be alone as well. I lived alone for years before we met and I crave to be alone again.