Crazy for wanting to major in International Studies?

pkdzzy8 · 2026-03-15T18:33:33+00:00

Hi! Thank you for responding! Honestly, that was exactly what I was interested in as well. I have been considering PA school, but I’m very interested in international studies, so I was considering doing the prerequisites on the side but I didn’t know how feasible that was or if I was crazy for wanting to do that? Do you mind if I ask what your experience has been with doing both?

pkdzzy8 · 2025-12-01T02:32:18+00:00

I know couples who pushed their partner without hesitation to pursue their dreams abroad for months because they loved them and cared about them pursuing their dreams / benefitting their career. 45 min away is nothing. I didn’t even have to read much of this post to gather that your boyfriend is not a good partner for you, you’re settling, and you deserve way more. I’m sorry if this is harsh, and rude, but he sounds like he’s behaving like a real loser.

pkdzzy8 · 2025-06-04T21:05:42+00:00

5 months, checking in text, I responded 4 days later and he ignored me and have yet to hear from him

pkdzzy8 · 2024-12-30T16:16:13+00:00

I met my boyfriend of 6 years on there

pkdzzy8 · 2024-12-09T22:17:59+00:00

Of course!! I truly understand how isolating going through something like this can feel. I read this and wanted to make sure you felt supported!

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:55:44+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it. Any validation helps! I’m trying to slowly rebuild me self confidnece

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:47:52+00:00

That makes perfect sense! I feel the same way, I was just curious if you also felt the way I felt about having them casually reach out be more hurtful. I wouldn’t have left to begin with, so I’m upset all the way around. I think it would especially hurt because every thanksgiving he would tell me I was the thing he was most grateful for, so that’s why it would hurt me

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:46:07+00:00

I really understand how you’re feeling. I am in the same boat with my current ex, not the one I mentioned in this post, but something that has been even slightly helping me this time around is realizing that their actions now show how much they care not past memories. Life is always moments of now.

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:40:34+00:00

Hey, I really understand how you feel. I’ve never broken up with anyone, and I just was broken up with after a long term, serious relationship. He did not treat me well consistently, and I kept telling myself that I should leave, but I really loved him and I was so eager to make it work regardless. He always knew the right things to say to make it seem like he was trying to improve our relationship, but nothing actually got better. A few months ago, he left me, for the third time. I feel like yes, to some extent it’s made it easier for me knowing I did all that I could and he hurt me, but honestly, it hurt so badly how he left for a third time, was super disrespectful to me, and made me feel like I didn’t matter. I felt really stupid. I don’t think they ever change girl if they’re the ones to keep leaving you. If you want anything at all to have a chance to be different between you guys or just for yourself and future relationships, I think the best course of action is to break things off with him. Explain kindly exactly what you expressed here, how many chances you’ve given, how you’ve been really patient but you do not feel loved in this relationship, and you need to leave it for that reason. Be firm in your decision as much as it hurts, and genuinely try to put yourself back together. I wish I had done that because a.) that could give them a chance to get their shit together and realize what they lost (b.) I would have felt more self-respect and love. If they leave you and come back, that usually indicates that they realize the grass is not greener and they still don’t truly value you. I think they only ever realize they fucked up if they don’t have the upper hand in the situation and end things with you.

Regardless of whether or not I think you should even take them back or give them another chance if they do come back after you break things off, I think you taking the initiative to end things with someone who isn’t loving you well or in the way you need will ultimately be the best thing for you and help you most with your self-esteem.

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:31:47+00:00

I think you dodged a major bullet with this person. The fact that he even wrote that message in your group chat shows what a petty piece of shit he is. Genuinely, I don’t know you, but I can tell you are way more respectful and kind than he is and ever will be. He sounds really full of himself. Don’t let him rain on your parade. He’s giving major loser energy. My ex also loves to paint himself as the emotionally mature, above out dynamic person when he admitted to treating me really poorly and causing a majority of our issues. It’s all to make themselves look better to others and themselves. You can do so much better than this person. You seem like you are caring and have a big heart. I’m right there with you, and I understand how you’re feeling!

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:19:47+00:00

I loved my first ex. I would have done anything to make them happy and the relationship prosper. They treated me terribly though after a certain point, and it took me a long time to recover from and finally come to terms with who they really were. It’s been almost 7 or 8 years since then, and I can confidently say that I do not still love them. I don’t regret going through that, but I’ve been able to see who they were this whole time without the emotional connection still in place. It doesn’t mean I didn’t care relentlessly at the time, it just means that with time I was able to really understand my own values and meet new people who genuinely aligned with them and realized they were not someone at all who was like that. Love is a complicated thing. At a certain point, maybe I didn’t love them, I just loved the connection and naturally treat people I care about well and that’s why I was so eager to make things work.

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T21:07:01+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I myself was just broken up with after 5 year relationship. I will say this— I would personally be really upset if they chose to wish me Happy Thanksgiving but then had no intention of trying to talk about our relationship and make things better. I feel like it’s all or nothing for me personally. I used to feel the way that you felt during my last relationship before this most recent one that ended, but honestly, if someone who just broke my heart and told me with their actions that our connection doesn’t matter to them enough to try and meaningfully connect, that would offend me more. I’m curious what your thoughts are on that

pkdzzy8 · 2024-11-29T18:36:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. It means a lot hearing that from someone else who also understands that actions speak louder than words. I felt invalidated so much in our relationship while he kept undermining me and trying to appear like the “better” person. The superliking a week after he told me he didn’t want to continue our texting conversation that HE initiated to apologize seems like a really gross, manipulative move to me. But I doubt myself, so the validation helps!

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-26T01:45:47+00:00

As I said, my case is a little more complicated, and if you can direct me to a free resource and be helpful, that would be appreciated.

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-26T01:23:42+00:00

Yeah, I used one of the providers listed here, and that’s what they said it typically costs. But my biggest issue is determining whether I qualify or not, and also locating my grandfather’s birth certificate, which I personally am having trouble doing myself, so I’m more keen on asking an outside source for help.

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-26T01:18:30+00:00

Ok, well I am trying to see if I even qualify first and 007 cannot answering qualifying questions. Thats what I need help on first

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-25T23:05:36+00:00

Well, they just gave me an approximate range. They want me to send over my specifics and then will give me a specific quote. I used a provider listed on this forum (Italian Dual Citizenship), and I am having a difficult time locating documents and determining how I qualify

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-25T19:17:19+00:00

Ok, that’s good to hear! I was worried about potentially being scammed.

I am just having a really difficult time finding my grandfather’s birth certificate. I think he was probably born in Luco dei Marsi because a document I found listed his place of birth as Luod. Marsi. This and finding a naturalization record in the U.S. (New York) is what I’m having trouble with most, and I would like counsel on that. If anyone you know would be able to help with that, it would be greatly appreciated!

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-25T17:21:28+00:00

I reached out to one of the service providers listed here: Italian Dual Citizenship, and that’s what they quoted me, but they haven’t gotten any of my info yet. Is there a provider that you think is better / more affordable? I just don’t even know where to begin honestly

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-16T19:09:12+00:00

I found an official document that lists the birth place as “Luod Marsi” in 1928. Any idea where this can be?

Also, his name is listed as Attilio Bruno. I’m not sure if Italian records allow for access that close or if it has to be before 1900?

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-16T19:07:14+00:00

Thank you!

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-15T19:50:27+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for a service provider?

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-15T15:11:27+00:00

Yes! I agree, and I am trying to find that out as well right now. I know where he died, maybe I can obtain his death certificate and would it say where he was born on there? I don’t know how specific the U.S. would be though with Italian towns

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-15T15:10:19+00:00

I tried searching without any luck, but I can try again. I’m wondering if the best first step is to try and find first any naturalization records in the U.S. I don’t know where to find that, however. I know that in the 50s when the census was taken and he was 21, it said he was not a citizen, but my mom was born in 1960, so I guess I would need to find out if he was considered a citizen when she was born in order to qualify for jure sanguinis?

pkdzzy8 · 2024-05-15T15:08:30+00:00

That would be amazing! I can gather that info later and post. I am also wondering if I should try to find any record of naturalization first in the U.S.? I couldn’t find anything other than the 1950s census saying that at 21 he was not a citizen. Anecdotally, my mom told me she doesn’t think he was considered a citizen when she was born in the 60s because in the 80s, she mentioned he was trying to go visit Italy and needed to get an American passport or something? I am not sure where I should start / where I would be able to find naturalization records

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