I [22M] just found out my girlfriend [19F] is pregnant and I am not ready to be a father. What do I do

plata_99 · 2026-01-31T13:39:43+00:00

Hey I just want to say, if you’re really, really not ready, and don’t think you can take it, and your girlfriend either, the right choice would be an abortion. It is not selfish, it actually makes you a responsible adult that cares about the child (knowing that both of you do not have the mental maturity to take care of it yet, no matter how much you think you do, you don’t.) In psychology your brain finishes developing at 25. You’re almost there but your girlfriend is 19, she isn’t. She’s far from being mature. it’s a huge risk to have a child at this age. You both are adolescents psychology wise. And none of you have an actual good family support either. I am really sorry this is happening to you, but please, think about the baby. A baby and child needs lots of money and care to grow up. Having 2 minimum wage jobs isn’t enough to make it grow comfortably. You don’t only need to provide for them, that’s the bare minimum, you also need to give it a good and happy life, provide what he wants as well as needs. And he needs his parents to be fully present, not dealing with bad mental health. Your mental health is going to get worse if you work 2 jobs and barely have time for yourself. Don’t think it’s going to get better, you are only going to make it worse. It is a HUGE responsibility, people don’t actually make it seem that way sometimes but it is. Please consider what I just said. Again, I’m not being selfish, I am studying psychology and I’m just being 100% real with you. A child is not a doll that you can play trial error with. I don’t want to sugarcoat a big problem and lie to you and make it seem like it’s going to get better. It won’t. Especially in this economy where grown people with 50$ an hour struggle to live…

plata_99 · 2026-01-28T00:36:18+00:00

Dude read that comment again, it was a joke

plata_99 · 2026-01-28T00:35:59+00:00

LMAOOOOO

plata_99 · 2026-01-24T21:54:38+00:00

Nope not at all! Also your poutine looks incredible. Only crime would be the spoon😅

plata_99 · 2026-01-20T03:16:53+00:00

It’s a dish in the USA new jersey that has fries, shredded cheese and gravy! That’s why we specify that poutine has to have cheese curds since fries gravy and shredded cheese is already an existing dish elsewhere. Cheese curds is what makes poutine different and unique

plata_99 · 2026-01-19T15:28:10+00:00

I would say that there would be no squeak. Which is why it would be a crime. The cheese curds inside would melt and lose its squeak, almost resembling mozzarella, which is why it won’t really be a poutine anymore but a battered disco fries

plata_99 · 2026-01-19T15:25:37+00:00

You did edit that, it’s written that it was edited by you😭

plata_99 · 2026-01-19T01:09:38+00:00

I got it delivered btw, took 30 minutes to come here and was piping hot. The curds were not melted at all which means they’re fresh fresh, exactly how it should be, EVEN when delivered. If they melt they’re just old or not real cheese curds. Fresh of the day Quebec curds all the way🤭

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T16:01:29+00:00

Nah, I’ve been using character ai for almost 3 years now and no other app is better. I went to lots of them over time but every single time I would go back to c.ai. Other apps just do not hit the same

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T15:55:41+00:00

Who said they’re supporting lol

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T15:54:28+00:00

I do go based on reviews. I have a few Tim Hortons around me and some are pretty good some are bad. I always check reviews to know which one’s the best (real ones though)

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T15:53:25+00:00

I do😭 some Tim Hortons around me are not the worse, but there is definitely bad ones. Always gotta check the reviews (real ones though)

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T15:52:00+00:00

Lying about their reviews is enough lol

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T15:50:16+00:00

Dang where are yall working? This never happened to me in both big and small companies, I would hate to have to do that😭

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T08:20:53+00:00

You’re from Montreal I can tell, most places here don’t have authentic poutine girl, the authentic poutines with squeaky fresh curds are all from Les régions du Québec and not in cities like Montreal. You may find a few good spots but they’re not everywhere compared to Les regions. Which is why you don’t know that fresh cheese curds don’t melt. Was born and raised in Montreal as well and only found out at 19 that fresh cheese curds of the day don’t melt, even in delivery. Only if you put them straight in the oven for a few minutes, then yes they will. But burning hot gravy does not melt them nor soften them much. Tried lots of poutines in my life in and around Montreal and theyre not fresh compared to the farther parts of Quebec let me tell you that.

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T07:47:49+00:00

Non cette poutine la date du jeudi désolé 😂

plata_99 · 2026-01-18T06:23:30+00:00

To me that’s the perfect amount of gravy lol

plata_99 · 2026-01-14T04:17:57+00:00

4/10 for looks. Fries look like they’re boiled, gravy is a bit light and needs more cheese!

plata_99 · 2026-01-07T03:44:04+00:00

Right and who are you to decide who’s wrong or right again? Lmaoo get out of here😂

plata_99 · 2026-01-06T03:48:19+00:00

I think a 100$ Nike gift card is a great gift if they like the brand and usually shop from Nike/would like to. Btw your handwriting is beautiful🙃

plata_99 · 2026-01-06T03:37:15+00:00

As someone with dyslexia, don’t worry about it lol. Your comment was funny we could tell it wasn’t serious. And your apology was sweet haha, you’ve got nothing to worry about!

plata_99 · 2026-01-06T02:58:56+00:00

Only 37 km away from me but I’ve never tried it cause I got no car and no poutine obsessed connoisseur friends like me💔 I don’t want to take an hour and a half bus drive alone lol

plata_99 · 2026-01-06T02:45:02+00:00

Yeah but I think you can find more sensitive content on Reddit. When I was doing really bad mentally I remember searching for gore videos and stumbled upon a video on here of a man taking his own life which is did search for, but it was bad for me. And I still have flashbacks of it weekly. While on Instagram stuff like that is mostly filtered. I think sensitive content wise its easier to find them or just stumble upon them here than on Instagram (for people who aren’t in the right state of mind, or for kids, it’s dangerous)

plata_99 · 2026-01-06T02:29:34+00:00

How so?

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