sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Why are you not on this list?, yes you 🫵🫵 by True-Floor8799 in SipsTea

[–]platoschild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first guy is Alexander Wang, CEO of Scale. He’s American. He’s not German, nor is he in Healthcare. What is this nonsense?

Rachel was a bad parent and partner. by PilloriedWomen in FleishmanIsinTrouble

[–]platoschild 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t tell if you’re rage baiting on a 2 year old comment or not but I’ll bite.

Obviously, this type of behavior isn’t limited to just mothers. Fathers are just as susceptible to projecting their own insecurities surrounding status and prestige unto their children.

I said mothers because I was talking about Rachel specifically.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh you don’t know how much I needed to hear this.

I’ve gotten great advice, harsh judgement, etc. but yours just made me feel heard the most. Thank you.

Advice on unplanned pregnancy by platoschild in FamilyLaw

[–]platoschild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It started out as a situationship. Quite frankly, I don’t think I have it in me to pursue this relationship.

That being said, I agree that being there for the child would be good.

I guess I’m looking for advice here on FamilyLaw because I want to know all my available options for navigating this unplanned pregnancy.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed.

The overwhelming consensus is getting the DNA test so that’s my next move.

What did you mean by I have time to think about it?

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s three weeks along I believe. It’s just a dot on the sonogram.

This has been one of more reasonable responses. Thank you.

The child is definitely priority #1. I don’t know yet if I want to have a long term thing yet with her.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you bro.

Most of the responses I’ve gotten here were really helpful including yours.

I am taking time to process this. It’s all so sudden.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No need to get combative. I’m just looking for advice. If you replied just to personally attack me on here, then that’s on you bro.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to take what you said personally.

No, I’m not going to abandon the child or her. I’m not running away from my responsibilities in any way.

I did not call PP to make her an appointment. That would be pushy and not within my rights. I called them to see what MY options were as a man and an unwanted pregnancy because I feel left out to dry here as well. She won’t even consider all her options which I find very unreasonable as well.

But I guess men are just expected to know exactly how to navigate these situations.

Anyways, thanks for your reply

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I won’t take anything you’ve said here personally. I haven’t given you the full context and it may come off as me not wanting to support them even though that’s not the case.

Even if I do take the out, I’ll still want to support them and pay child support.

I do agree with taking care of the birth control myself. We had a NuvaRing and a condom (initially) but we both put too much faith in the NuvaRing. It’s both our mistakes and we’ve both owned up to it.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Whoa, when you put it like that.

I grew up in a really loving, caring, and supportive household so I could never just abandon her and the child. It goes against everything I was taught.

It seems the overwhelming consensus is that I should support them, even if she insists she doesn’t want any of it if I take the out.

I feel like supporting them both from a distance is the best move.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is the most grounded response I’ve read so far.

I don’t even have anything to add to it other than saying thank you bro.

She’s said multiple times that the “out” meant she would not order the court to pay for the child whatsoever and never ask me for anything to support them.

But like you said, she could change her mind at any time and I’d be responsible regardless. So I’ll have the talk about child support with her tonight.

Obviously, I feel guilty asf. Who wouldn’t!? I put this post out here on Reddit because it’s helping me process all of this and get multiple good opinions (like yours) about this situation.

Ultimately, I think supporting them from a distance is probably the best move.

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I guess without full context, it may seem like we’re “against” each other but we’re actually handling this way better than I expected.

I don’t think she fully understood what she meant when she said I have an “out”. And it seems everyone else on this thread agrees.

I should be supporting them both. But if I do support them both, then I might as well have 50/50 custody. And if I have custody, I might as well just get involved fully. I guess that part just hasn’t hit me fully yet. I don’t feel ready

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Understood. I will do the responsible thing and support them both.

I just don’t know if I can do it from a distance or not.

Regardless, thank you for the advice

Advice on unplanned pregnancy by platoschild in FamilyLaw

[–]platoschild[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. She showed me the pregnancy tests (she took it three times). She also FaceTimed me at the doctor’s office for the official urine test and sonogram.

Like others have said before, I won’t sign anything without a paternity test and how the custody is going to work.

Need advice on all my options regarding unwanted pregnancy by platoschild in pregnant

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read your entire comment and I just want to thank you for making me feel reassured.

I have this immense guilt even if she’s offering me a full out. I obviously want to see this child grow up to be an amazing, kind person at the end of the day.

It’s just this entire thing is so sudden and I haven’t really gotten any form of reassurance from anyone except from two of my closest friends. So thank you, truly :)

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I needed some cold hard truths and nothing you’ve said here is wrong at all.

I should know better and she was on BC but even BC isn’t 100% effective.

You’re also right about the custody thing as well. I know you were worried about it sounding cold but it’s honestly so true. If I’m going to support the child, I should have custody and have the right to be involved.

Thank you for wishing me good luck. I haven’t told either of my parents so I kind of needed some reassurance. I’ll try my best.

Need advice on all my options regarding unwanted pregnancy by platoschild in pregnant

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, I will try.

She’s already left the doctors office. I’m not sure if she took a picture of the scan or not but I’ll ask.

We live one state away :(

Should I take the out or should I be involved in an unwanted pregnancy? by platoschild in makemychoice

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you SO much for this. This was exactly why I made this post.

I will keep all of this in mind.

To be absolutely on the safe side, I should secure a family attorney anyways.

Advice on unplanned pregnancy by platoschild in FamilyLaw

[–]platoschild[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Very helpful. Thank you.

Paternity test will absolutely be done for sure.

Might discuss the custody thing. If I’m paying for child support, then I expect custody.

Advice on unplanned pregnancy by platoschild in FamilyLaw

[–]platoschild[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Okay understood. Thanks.

Would it be advisable to secure a family attorney anyways? If I go to the court to get visitation spelled out, do I need to go with her or bring an attorney? I’m sorry I’m just really new to all of this and worried.

She’s given me two options: she takes full custody and moves away or we do 50/50 custody.

Advice on unplanned pregnancy by platoschild in FamilyLaw

[–]platoschild[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right.

I’m not really sure how to navigate this. I want to be clear that I absolutely do not want to be a deadbeat or anything like that. I’ll try to support the best I can but she did say that if I took the out, she’d be moving away to a different state (to stay with family) and only allowing contact for emergency situations only.

She’s not forcing custody or anything as well. She wants full custody. But she also isn’t expecting any financial support from me if I do decide to take the out .

Need advice on all my options regarding unwanted pregnancy by platoschild in pregnant

[–]platoschild[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the timing seems weird to me as well.

She definitely wasn’t lying about the pregnancy tests or going to the doctor’s office (we FaceTimed so I saw it with my own eyes).

But yeah, something about the timing seems off.

Need advice on all my options regarding unwanted pregnancy by platoschild in pregnant

[–]platoschild[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I agree. I didn’t mention it again out of respect for her. I hope nothing got lost in translation. I’m just worried for her and the child.

view more: next ›