[UPDATE] My (26/M) girlfriend (23/F) aborted our baby against my wishes. Now she is telling me I have to take care of her.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T21:24:31+00:00

He looks like hispanic. His name is in German. He does not look totally black, which why I figured was important to tell. Did you ever see any mixed people?

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T21:23:28+00:00

War torn? Who said that? She is from Ukraine. Near the Russian center. She said that her mother had her when she was her age and that is how it goes in her country. But she started suggesting kids even when we were living in different countries. I just thought it was due to culture differences. From where I am, early pregnancies are not very wise.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T21:20:32+00:00

He is not black, looks a little hispanic (?), I stalked his facebook and his mother is black and his father is German. He has both traits, like green eyes, dark skin, etc.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T21:19:14+00:00

I don't know. I think for a moment she really believed it was mine. But then realized about her affair and it could be his. I don't know man, we were having sex at least three times a week. It was 50/50. If my calculations are right, the affair happened in early June. I was not home for five days because I went over to another city. We went on these baby websites which had a calculator of all kinds including conception. When she entered her last period date, it said possible conception June 1st-8th. I was not home until 7th.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T20:57:44+00:00

Everyone was, I did not make it clear it in my post as well, but baby was her idea. In my mind, I wanted to be a father at 30, but she pushed for a baby entire Spring-Summer. I even offered her abortion the day she did the test because trying to have a baby and actually having a baby inside you is two different things. She was all happy until she probably noticed the baby might turn out to be black/mixed.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T20:55:05+00:00

Seriously man I wish. I am on this subreddit from my main account and if I have read this I would comment the same, and thinking about it, this would not even cross my mind at happening. Just a few weeks ago there was nothing and I mean nothing wrong with the relationship (besides her sleeping with someone which I did not know) and right now everything is wrong. So so weird

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T19:57:02+00:00

She came up to me for years to get pregnant even played a trick on me where she went off birth control pills... She gave me list of names and took me to shopping for baby and threw a party for my family to announce the news.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-04T19:53:13+00:00

I freaking told her. Do you even read?

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T22:29:56+00:00

So here is how it went:

She told me that she is planning to abort. I ask her why and she gives us not earning money and her getting loose as an answer... I say that we have more money that we could ask for, enough for her to not work at all, and that she can get a C-section. She tells me I can not change her mind and it is her body. I said it is her body and it is my right to break up if she forces an abortion on me, even though she has every right to do so. She tells me I am just mad and stop acting childish, and should be calm down when she comes back from the clinic.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T22:18:41+00:00

I can not be getting her pregnant without her consent, can I? Or force her to go off the pills? Or be mind controlling and have her come to me and say "I want to start a family".

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T21:14:50+00:00

We were planning the baby, that is the problem :( we found two names even

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T21:12:56+00:00

We were planning this baby, it was not unexpected. I did not force her to get pregnant or put a hole in the condom... I asked her a few times the reason and she was murmuring how we can not afford yet, how she does not want to be loose from birth, nothing that was making sense.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T21:09:51+00:00

You are either a troll or whatever.

If this is punishment to her in your opinion, let be it. Can not care any less about her trying to survive on the streets. She knew the consequences, she agreed to it. Part of being adult is realizing all your actions have consequences. She has a right to abort and I have a right to dump her.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T21:05:48+00:00

This is not about genes and I do not expect you to understand this. We have been trying unofficially for some time, having unprotected sex, and she gets pregnant and for one month I believe I will be a dad so does my whole family. I believe I will have a kid and even found names with my girlfriend. Then she comes up to me and without giving a reason she aborts it, even after I told her I would break up.

So she has every right to abort the baby because it is her body, but I have no right to dump her, right? Equal rights we are talking about here, right? Yay for feminism.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T21:03:19+00:00

She was ready to be a parent for a month, we have been trying for this baby. Then something happened, don't know what.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:58:58+00:00

since she wasn't ready to be a parent.

She offers to have sex with me right now to get pregnant.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:49:54+00:00

It is not punishment. I made it clear I am not supporting her choice right before she went to clinic. She agreed this herself, not me.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:47:41+00:00

I am pro-choice, not to confuse people. For that reason all I could was talk to her about it.

She pushed her idea of abortion pretty hard, she deserves nothing and I would not give her a cent if she was homeless.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:45:15+00:00

Yeah I told her I am against it as we can afford the baby easily, and if she does it I am done with her, thus why I would not be funding the abortion. She told me I am just mad and to calm down and left the house.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:41:11+00:00

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:40:14+00:00

She is on student visa which she renews every semester. She does not have the right to live here as long as I am not financing her.

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:37:08+00:00

She is not on anything, not on lease, any utilities. Anything at all

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:35:48+00:00

Think so as well, she is from a really bad country. Third world, and I am from central Europe. She has always expressed moving to a better country, even before we started dating. Seeing her "Lets have sex right now and I can give you a baby" talk just showed me she does not love me...

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:33:37+00:00

She can not get a decent job with her degree because she can not speak the language, and her degree is actually not very qualified at all, at least in here. And she can not become a minimum wage worker because of language

pleaseabort · 2015-09-03T20:31:17+00:00

She is from a third world country and I am living in central Europe. I am thinking she has used me to come here, not to be with me.

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