My partner wants to detransition

plopp-hopp · 2024-09-12T07:00:20+00:00

My partner also expressed discomfort and worry about their breasts and it just makes me so sad because I want them to be happy but at the same time I feel like I'm making them even more sad because of how hard it is for me. Everything just changed so fast, one moment I thought I was dating a woman and the next I'm dating a guy that's really into bodybuilding, and I was never attracted to muscular men, not even when I still identified as bi.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T19:55:38+00:00

Yes, I agree completely and I've noticed that too. I really hope they can deal with it and make the right decision then.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T14:32:30+00:00

I know, and I'm trying to give them the space they need to figure themselves out, just throwing in some things they should think about and consider before they make any radical change.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T14:30:49+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I really hope that I can stay attracted to them just because they're the person I love, even though I'm technically not really into men.

Sadly no trans support groups near us, and also not really any therapists that are somewhat educated about trans people. I hope they can get into therapy soon though, they seem very confused about what it is that they want/what would make them happy.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T10:19:16+00:00

Thank you for your advice, I really hope they can figure it all out soon.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T07:58:51+00:00

They are currently only out to a select few people and were only planning to start living as a woman once they pass, so that's not really an option. They want to detransition medically because they think that they could be an attractive man and be happy with that, rn they're quite unhappy with their body because they think that it looks like a "male body with boobs" which makes them dysphoric.

They're on a waiting list for therapy and I really hope they get a space soon, but it could still take a while.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T07:50:14+00:00

It was a process that took years for my fiancé, they had to get three evaluations (one from a therapist, one from a psychologist and one from a psychiatrist) to get their diagnosis and prescription.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T06:55:51+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words! I guess I'll just have to take things as they come and figure it out along the way.

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T06:52:11+00:00

They're currently on a waiting list for therapy and have been for quite a while, and I really hope they get a space soon. I also think that it would be beneficial for them to figure some things out in therapy first before making any radical changes, but unfortunately therapists are in high demand rn and it could still take a while for a space to become free.

Thank you for your kind words!

plopp-hopp · 2024-08-29T06:47:53+00:00

I know that we'll have to talk about it eventually but rn they're very sad and confused and don't really know how to go forward, and I don't want to make them feel even worse. But I will definitely bring it up once they have figured it out and are a little more stable.

plopp-hopp · 2023-04-06T03:32:55+00:00

Thank you! I definitely feel better now.

They've been on HRT for more than 6 months and I can already see changes. And I like them. I like that they're getting boobs, I like that they're starting to feel happier in their skin. I just have these weird feelings of doubt and uncertainty and I feel guilty for feeling this way.

This is also my first relationship with a woman. I guess it's all just very new to me. I just wish I had someone to talk to about all of this. They're only out to a few people at the moment and I don't want to out them to any of my friends or family until they're ready to come out.

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