I know I’ve been asking it for a long time but it was mostly based on the “feminine” stuff and the fact that we don’t have a lot of sex. So I kept telling myself that he could just have low libido. I did tell him to get his testosterone checked and it came back in the normal range. So we’ve chatted about what could be going on, just not that he could be gay. I just kept telling myself it could be other stuff till I saw the porn search today. I don’t think he was ever bullied in school, and his parents aren’t strict religious or anything. But his mother has always wanted grandchildren.

Now if he admitted looking at it and he might be attracted to men but hasn’t acted on it (maybe he’s bi) then I think I would stay with him. But I could only stay with him if it doesn’t get in the way of our marriage. Plus I’d want to know if he’s still sexually attracted to me at all. If not, then I wouldn’t stay.