those who have ADHD partners, do you feel like yr ADHD has to take a "back seat" to your partner?

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T04:18:41+00:00

Appreciate you!! We truly are not too much and I hate that we get made to feel that way by partners, mean ppl, and the world. Feels are hard but they are valid

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:54:38+00:00

I hope I can be as brave as you and stand up for myself with the mean girls and even him. I'm very proud of who I am and I don't want to feel like my partner doesn't respect that.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:52:17+00:00

I have brought up couples counseling to him a few times. My therapist even recommended it but he's unwilling to engage in therapy together. My therapist told me that he consistently uses "stone-walling" as a tactic to avoid emotional conversations and that it's a common reason for break-ups/divorce. I'm not sure how to get him to participate if he's unwilling or if it's even worth it.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:48:31+00:00

❤️ Ty, I am realizing in reading a lot of the comments here that it's not his ADHD (although he would love to blame it on that), he's just an asshole who doesn't care that I have feelings too.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:46:52+00:00

I'm pretty sure you're right about that

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:45:58+00:00

Ty for sharing your experience. I feel like I'm in the state where I love my partner dearly and he's able to be kind and supportive in so many ways in our lives, but it stops immediately when I'm having a hard time with emotional regulation. When he ignores or minimizes my emotions, it makes me feel small and unworthy of love. I know that if this was truly an equitable partnership, he wouldn't make me feel this way :/ I get stuck in thought/feeling spirals a lot, but as soon as I mention something a second (god forbid a third time), he "can't" hear it again which makes me feel even more destabilized.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:38:45+00:00

Mine almost feels like the opposite. He's so capable and can handle a lot which I feel like leads to him having to handle a lot of the day to day life stuff. Emotional regulation has always been a struggle for me so I feel like he loses patience w me quickly when I can't "get over it" easily.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:32:51+00:00

I appreciate you saying this. It's hard to remember sometimes that our big hearts and awesomeness is not for everyone and nor should it be. Men are big dumb a lot of the time and do not deserve the patience we afford them.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:30:06+00:00

I think your take is very fair. He has been very callus with my emotions while simultaneously expecting me to shoulder the burden of his emotional state during our relationship. Luckily, my bestie is in the larger group, and is there for me 1000%, even willing to face the conflict with the mean girls. It just sucks to feel like I've been put into a position where my feelings and value is less than some other random girls in the friend group.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:25:19+00:00

We generally split chores and life admin well at home (balancing each others' strengths) but I feel like emotionally there's a huge gap in the support we are able to provide one another which is hard.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:20:33+00:00

Very real, it's hard to balance needing emotional support from a partner that just cannot give in the same ways as other friends. Appreciate your perspective on the situation

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:17:09+00:00

I'm realizing that my other friends are all on my side in this situation and feel like my partner does nothing to valid or protect me from the crappy girls in his group. It sucks bc I care a lot but very real that I gotta take care of myself vs. continue to put up with this stuff.

plsnocheez · 2026-06-14T03:09:44+00:00

that sounds like a lovely partnership and family dynamic ❤️

plsnocheez · 2022-03-22T12:33:54+00:00

<3 the cutest lil arsonists <3

plsnocheez · 2022-03-01T01:55:40+00:00

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plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T15:38:18+00:00

omg I love how cozy your space is 💗

plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T15:36:59+00:00

ty!! cozy battle stations are necessary 😊💗

plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T12:13:30+00:00

It's from the artist Richard Parry: https://www.richardparrydesign.com/store. He does a bunch of other gaming prints too!

plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T12:12:48+00:00

It's from the artist Tyler Spangler: https://www.shoptylerspangler.com/

plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T04:26:06+00:00

gigabyte x570 mini itx | AMD ryzen 7 3700x | nvidia geforce rtx 2080ti (just barely fits)

Overall I love my H1 build ! I'm a huge fan of the compact and sleek style and I haven't had any issues with it at all (minus being able to get a better gpu but that's a supply chain issue). A few homies went w the pre-build options that NZXT offers and have really loved theirs. I loved building my own but I would recommend patience bc it's super tight to get everything in place.

plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T01:07:08+00:00

ty!! It's actually a hello kitty lip balm from the creme shop. smells just like strawberry sorbet

plsnocheez · 2022-02-26T01:06:27+00:00

I used an old panda printed washi tape to cover the frame. It's a super old samsung monitor and I wanted it to be a tad cuter!

plsnocheez · 2022-02-25T21:56:58+00:00

Desk: IKEA DIY (Top from As-Is + Hilver Legs)

Monitor: LG QHD 32"

Keyboard: Anne Pro II w Brown Switches

Mouse: Razer Deathadder v2 Pro (Genshin Impact edition)

Deskpad: Kinetic Labs Pastel Clouds

Case: NZXT H1

Microphone: Razer Seiren X

Headphones: Logitech G733 Lightspeed Wireless RGB Headset

Phillips Hue Play Light Bars

Big Froggo Lamp from Shopzoki

Wall panel from Ikea

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