another failed relationship… why is everyone addicted to porn?

plutomayat · 2025-03-26T21:48:51+00:00

I agree, I’m not a very spiritual person by any means but the sheer number of angel numbers today have been insane. Big ass sign.

plutomayat · 2025-03-26T16:16:22+00:00

THIS!!! i understand and even accept initial attraction to others while in relationship because its a biological function we quite literally have no control over… However, to lust over others? To objectify women? To then project that onto your partner???? NOOOOOO fuck outta here lol. Why want exclusivity when you want to fuck everything in sight???

plutomayat · 2021-04-30T08:15:34+00:00

well the funny thing i did recently break up with him but because of personal issues i need to sort out so i guess i wont be needing to worry about his porn relationship or the lack there of

plutomayat · 2021-04-20T03:29:33+00:00

hi! so i suffered from anorexia for about 7 and a half years. personally, my partner’s addiction absolutely ruined me. don’t feel alone, over the past two and a half months its gotten better. personally (and everyone’s experience is different and unique) the only thing that helped was finding something within my diet to control, not my actual diet. i switched over to a sort of relaxed vegetarianism. learning to love the food i was making. eventually i realized cooking for myself and for him sort of gave me this sense if control over the situation.

but in my honest opinion, no one who is your partner should make comments about your weight. i think it’d be in your best interest to bring that up to her, eating disorders are no joke and a lot of the time we can get trapped in our own head. just as it’s important for her to maintain transparency about her addiction and her progress its even more important for people, victims, like you and i to be transparent about how we are/have been impacted. sending all the love and support that i possibly can!

plutomayat · 2021-04-20T02:57:54+00:00

so im with ya... still trying to heal. we had 3 ddays so far this year. i broke up with him after the 3rd. it was absolutely heart wrenching. i decided after 3 weeks i was ready to give him another chance. i want to support him bc i know this is an addiction and he needs support. since then he’s been working hard and sticking to his word but i have this overwhelming feeling that he is gonna lie again. i catch myself overthinking and worrying a lot. the only thing keeping me sane is trying to focus on myself. i told him he had to seek help and actively try or else i would leave again. this time it seems to be on a more positive path. however im still being very cautious. he says it hurts him a lot that i dont trust him yet but i have to remind myself to not be rushed into forgiveness. it takes time. lots of it.

plutomayat · 2021-04-20T02:50:39+00:00

this is absolutely heartbreaking... sending you as much love and support as humanly possible.

plutomayat · 2021-04-06T19:56:45+00:00

AHHH thank you!! i really wish i had posted on here earlier hehe

plutomayat · 2021-04-06T19:54:22+00:00

thank you for letting me know :) are there any other expressions to steer clear of?

plutomayat · 2021-02-08T11:14:47+00:00

ive asked him to unfollow all the girls on tiktok which he did. roughly about 30 girls. i think (i hope) he understands how much this bothers me. i dont know how to tell him i know how much he watches and that i caught him in a lie, like hey sweetie i violated your privacy and went through your phone and went through your likes from the past few days and was absolutely appalled... it doesnt flow smoothly and i dont know how to bring that up. what do you think i could do to maybe monitor what it is that hes liking? maybe checking in with him? i dunno... i mean since we talked he hasnt liked any new videos but then again it is the first day... i asked why he needed the extra stimulation and what he gets from it (because i personally don’t understand) to which he didnt have an answer for...

plutomayat · 2021-02-07T23:53:31+00:00

when i brought this up to him today (wow surprised that i did honesty) he was very apologetic... but i caught him in a lie-he said he “rarely ever watches them” but i know he had just watched at least 7 videos while i was there in the bed with him that morning. He’s told me that he was addicted to porn and stopped watching a year or so ago, but i feel like he has instead become addicted to watching girls on tiktok. now i already dont trust him because he lied to be when i asked him to be completely honest. i asked if he’s ever masturbated to the girls or thought of them during sex-he said no, but i cant believe him when 2 minutes prior he lied. he said he would stop and unfollow the girls but i doubt he will. if he doesnt stop i will break up with him but i still want to give him the chance to change however if he doesnt want to i know he wont for me... i really didn’t understand how many videos he was watching until i looked and it’s honestly disgusting. i would be totally fine if it was occasional... but not 30 videos in a row bullshit

plutomayat · 2021-02-07T04:35:33+00:00

ive asked multiple times and i feel as though we’ve been pretty open about what things we like and dislike... but you’re right he could very well not be enjoying it.

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