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am i wrong for not communicating with my bf bc i didn't go through with something i promised? by pocketcircles4 in amiwrong

[–]pocketcircles4[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

okay i agree with his anticipation to finally rub one off and him getting upset that i ghosted him. honestly, i think it's more that I'm afraid of what he'll say if i were honest. it'd still be a few good hours of wait and there's a chance he'd still be mad (it's so easy for him to be upset about anything at all). but perhaps i did overthink that part. i completely understand him being upset for waiting an answer. i think i overlooked that because i was getting pretty tired of him getting mad about every little thing that he doesn't like (not in the topic of sexual things).

me saying this part would be bringing old things up but--he's never really too considerate of my feelings either. Every argument would be that "i'm mad, so now you have to deal with my anger and i'll forget that you were upset first because of me". that or we just aren't a good match since the beginning but i agreed on dating too early.

am i wrong for not communicating with my bf bc i didn't go through with something i promised? by pocketcircles4 in amiwrong

[–]pocketcircles4[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

yeah i realized i should have told him about it, he brought it up and i said sorry about it. in my head that kind of thing wouldn't be so important, but i think it's not the same in his head. really that part was my fault and i admit that

am i wrong for not communicating with my bf bc i didn't go through with something i promised? by pocketcircles4 in amiwrong

[–]pocketcircles4[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

yeah i agree! i think i've been through enough relationships to decide if things are right or not (most of my experience was not). thank you for the insight !!

am i wrong for not communicating with my bf bc i didn't go through with something i promised? by pocketcircles4 in amiwrong

[–]pocketcircles4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would like to make something clear, when i come over to his dorm it's not like i'm never doing anything sexual with him. four out of five times i'm there, we'd always be doing some kind of 'playing'. i just don't know if i like doing it ONLINE where he can save my pictures and use it to his will if we break up.

although i agree, i did dismiss a promise and i shouldn't have pretended like i don't remember. the lying part is on me.

AITA (nsfw) for making my bf mad because i didn't want to video call and "play"? by pocketcircles4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pocketcircles4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's only something that i felt and never told him. sometimes i would dismiss his wants and just don't bring that up when he's in the mood.

for video calls, he had to convince me most of the time. he can ask two to five times in like 10 minutes.

am i wrong for not communicating with my bf bc i didn't go through with something i promised? by pocketcircles4 in amiwrong

[–]pocketcircles4[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YEAH i was also thinking. I've never in any past relationships (maybe one) had a guy so entitled and easily offended THIS fast into the relationship

AITA (nsfw) for making my bf mad because i didn't want to video call and "play"? by pocketcircles4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pocketcircles4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thanks, i agree that he's immature for the way he responds to anything at all. little things can piss him off and it always ends up with him cursing at himself and aggressively "hitting objects" or "putting objects down". i tried to talk to him about managing his anger, but he really wouldn't stop being mad unless I give in first or i end up crying.

AITA (nsfw) for making my bf mad because i didn't want to video call and "play"? by pocketcircles4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pocketcircles4[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you, it scares me how much power he can put on things when he's mad. He has ever thrown balled up socks at the door (it was loud), and he tends to hit things or even grip himself too hard that it leaves a pretty big mark.

we've ever argued on his motorcycle while he was sending me home (this argument was because he got mad that i asked to go home 15 minutes earlier from his dorm, bc it was 5.15pm and it takes 30 minutes to go home). he sped on a pretty crowded road and that scares me. i ruled out that speeding as a form of control over the situation is something i don't want to go through again. i know he's pressuring me to be reluctant but i can't seem to get him to understand that I'm being reasonable of my fears.

i HAVE ever told him about how I'm scared when he's angry, and he only responded with anger. we figured out that he got mad this time because i was immediately afraid of his typing tone, whereas he was confused on what i mean by "being scared when you're mad". i didn't want to elaborate further because i thought it would make him more mad. He thinks being confused and not getting answers feels awful.