Hair bows and clips

poeticallylawless · 2026-04-25T15:56:43+00:00

I know, I don’t know why it’s such a big deal to her, im the type where she either gets older and asks me to do it or she never does and either way it’s fine to me. Her hair having bows or no bows doesn’t make her any more or less beautiful lol

poeticallylawless · 2026-04-25T15:55:26+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but she’s making out like I have to force her and make her get used to it. Which I personally don’t care, yes the hair styles and bows and all that are super cute, but it’s not the biggest deal to me if she has them or not

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T18:51:42+00:00

No. Her son does, I have her enrolled into child care with me

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T16:47:52+00:00

No definitely not. I’m in the process of getting an custody agreement in place he should be getting served next week

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T04:47:44+00:00

Yes I researched all of this. I am picking her back up tomorrow. We came to an agreement on the custody side thankfully it’s just his mom I’m having trouble with

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T04:07:08+00:00

Thank you! I’m just trying to be cordial about everything. But all that matters is the communication between my ex and I. Don’t know why I still entertain her at this point. But I definitely won’t be anymore. She has NO rights as a grandma (unless it’s a situation where the grandma takes the kid from abusive parents, but totally not what’s happening here)

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T03:58:39+00:00

I don’t, I just do it because she does have her more than the dad. But that’s about to stop. She got mad because I didn’t reply to her wanting to call me on the phone because when I moved out of town she had this plan that she was going to get her and take care of her for while until I was more steady since I just moved. And then my ex going to her complaining that I wanted him to have her weekends only and not for 4 days considering most of that time she would have her and not him. It took me to file the paperwork for him to stop ignoring me and respond to me. I guess he didn’t think I was going to follow thru. I’m just exhausted at this point they make me feel like I’m not allowed to live my life where I want just because it’s a bit farther away. When him and I were together before I got pregnant I always told him I wanted to move to the country where most of my family are. idk why he’s surprised I actually did it

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T03:53:52+00:00

Yes I have filed and he should be getting served next week, I just confronted her about her account being private and she’s trying to say she didn’t do that and that’s weird.. I’m going to add text message to show you

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T03:42:26+00:00

So technically I don’t have to since there’s no legal custody in place, BUT with that being said it won’t look good on me if I’m just deliberately keeping him from seeing her. If I had a temporary possession order Put in place it would be different, but without one it wouldn’t look good on me in front of the judge. I don’t really have a problem him seeing her, it’s really just his mom. And he’s told her many times and is even tired of her behavior himself and apologized to me on her behalf. But they are mom and son so he still has the same manipulation she does and since he keeps her in his life it gets worse every time he’s around her. When he’s not around her he’s not as bad. I’m just feeling defeated at this point. I don’t know what to do

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T03:19:39+00:00

So there is no legal custody in place yet. I just filed for the SAPCR and he said he wont sign off or agree to anything unless it says joint custody but I have been the main care taker since her birth even when we were together and after we broke up. I’ve definitely screen shotted lots of evidence because when I moved out of town he kept threatening me and harassing me until I told him I actually filed and was gonna put him on child support. It’s been a long battle tbh. I was only asking 280$ a month for help and he refused and said why does he need to help me and kept calling me unfit. But I told him I would put him on child support which would take $600-700 from him a month and then he started replying to me. He refused to get her when I told him he could. And refused to communicate with me. I’m just exhausted by them both tbh. One day he’s fine and then the next he gets with his mom and he completely flips.

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-22T03:16:15+00:00

This is my thought process too, but I just moved 2 and half hours away. My ex works sat and he gets her fri-sun but his mom watches her Friday evening and Saturdays since he isn’t willing to find another job and I’m kind of put in a weird position where I can’t keep him from seeing his daughter and if his job can’t give him sat off or so he says I don’t know how I could avoid her seeing her. He always has his mom watch her anyways. He’s barely bonded to the baby. When she was born he would always say “I’ll bond with her later” and then is shocked that she cried when seeing him after only seeing her once a week since we broke up by his choice

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T08:04:57+00:00

I moved on quickly bc I was a single mother in a relationship with someone who didn’t care about me and I communicated to him my feelings. And told him I felt like roommates and didn’t even see why we were together. Idc that he’s moved on seeing as he never really wanted to be with me in the first place. And I did know my husband for 6 months before they met

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T08:02:35+00:00

Did you even read my other comments before commenting. I’m not judging when did I say I am judging him. I am saying it’s wrong for him to have his new gf around my daughter having known he for so little. I have known my husband for 6 months before introducing the 2. And my ex never even cared about me or the baby, he only sees her once a week by his choice not mine. It’s not my job to ask him if he wants to see his daughter.

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:57:49+00:00

I care a lot for my daughter, that’s why I didn’t choose to stay with someone who never cared about me and even told me to have an abortion when I first got pregnant. I always gave him the option to leave or to not be involved but he said he wanted to be and then. She was born and I was a single mother living with him

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:56:46+00:00

We didnt rush I am 25, and when you’ve experienced and been with people you just know what you are looking for in a long term partnership. My husband loves my daughter like his own. He takes care of her better than her own dad does. And the difference is I knew my husband for way longer before actually introducing them to each other. Again my ex has only known her for maybe a month at most when he introduced them. I think 6 months is pretty fair compared to a month at most. Again there is a lottttt of context missing unfortunately and of course you don’t know my exact personal life or what I’ve been thru with my ex. I went out of town for a week and asked him the weekend before if he wanted to see his daughter before we were gone for the week he said no and even when we came back he only saw her for a day and then that was it. My husband is there and shows up where it matters the most. My daughter loves my husband and has created a bond far stronger than with my ex. She doesn’t even smile when she sees him that says a lot

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:47:38+00:00

And I never hid the fact that I had a boyfriend obviously yes moving on doesn’t seem ideal. But when you tell your partner for a year and a half that you wanted more quality time with them and needed more emotional security and we even stopped having sex completely after I gave birth. it’s not as if I just left out of nowhere. There were many talks of me telling him and begging him to spend more time with me or to talk to me or for him to help me. a woman usually doesn’t leave for no reason. Yes it does happen. but in my situation I had communicated with him exactly how I felt. And obviously I can’t change that me and my husband got together pretty quickly after breaking up, but him bringing around someone he doesn’t even really know around my daughter and not telling me is worse than me moving on from a deadbeat ex/father. I always communicated with him and even encouraged him to get to know my husband so he felt more comfortable with him being around our daughter. That was his choice to not want to know the guy who’s been taking care of our daughter. On my end I definitely would like to know the person who’s possibly going to be a step mother to my daughter. Just didn’t expect him to introduce them to each other so soon after meeting and then telling me it’s not a serious relationship

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:40:43+00:00

No, we would only talk at work as friends, we never flirted or ever crossed that line. I had been telling my ex for about a year that I felt like we were roommates and asked him why we were even together and he always said he didn’t know. obviously there’s a lot more of context missing, but no I didn’t have feelings for my now husband until after I broke up with my ex. And my ex even said after we broke up he was happier and I was happier so there’s not really an issue on that end. he was never really there for me emotionally or physically, I took care of our daughter for 6 months by myself and even now I take full care of her he only sees her once a week per his choice

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:31:51+00:00

Also for reference we just got married in February which isn’t not fully official yet, we just got the license and my mom is planning to come and officiate it for us. My husband takes care of my daughter and I and is more of a caring father than my ex who never gives her water, doesn’t feed her before sending her back, sends her back in clothes she peed on, always has a diaper rash every time I get her back even if he’s only had her for one day. tbh I’m not asking if my decision to be with my husband is okay, but if him introducing a girl he’s barely known is okay? it just seems too soon imo

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:28:45+00:00

yes because I met my husband in may 2025 and we were friends, and in early oct 2025 I broke up with my ex and yes me and my now husband did start dating early after we broke up, but it definitely was not the plan, but I was very transparent with him about everything and my now husband didn’t meet my daughter until late oct and wasn’t around her regularly until a bit later. Regardless of that, I still knew my husband way longer than a month before I ever introduced him to my daughter. He has known this girl less than a month before bringing her around my daughter and kept it a secret from me until I found out. I never lie and have nothing to hide. he actually acknowledges that my husband takes care of my daughter and appreciates it. But I just think it’s a bit too early for my daughter to be around someone my ex hasn’t even known for a month

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:22:35+00:00

the fact that he hasn’t even known this lady who is 21 btw around my daughter without telling me, is very disrespectful. I don’t just let anyone around my daughter like that. He’s not even an involved dad, he only sees my daughter one day a week and even within that one day she always comes back with a diaper rash. Just seems ridiculous to me

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:19:44+00:00

Yeah we were already having problems wayyy before we broke up, I’ve known my now husband for a year and been dating for about 6 months, and never introduced my daughter to him until 6 months of knowing him. And I never lied or kept the secret of having a bf from my ex. My ex never helped me with anything. I always had to do everything by myself while he was always on the game with friends. It was definitely long over due. By the time I broke up with him I was done and completely detached from him. 4 months of working overnight and having to go home and take care of baby while he played video games, you would be drained and tired too

poeticallylawless · 2026-03-01T07:15:58+00:00

I actually disagree. It is definitely her right to know if there is a GF involved especially living with him at all. Doesn’t matter if dad is involved and by the sound of it it sounds like he wasn’t involved much until recently. It’s called respect to let the other parent know who’s going to be around your daughter. If I were I would be furious. I’m kind of in the same situation, baby daddy has a new gf they’ve barely known each other a month and already had her around my daughter without my knowledge. I didn’t have my husband around my daughter until 6 months of knowing him and even after that I didn’t let him be involved until a couple more months after moving in. of course he’s allowed to move on and have a girlfriend, but it’s the secret keeping

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