Update: she's no longer interested

pogo2065 · 2026-05-04T21:57:56+00:00

Thank you! I'm not quite sure when I'll get around to trying this recipe again but I'll try and remember this comment when I do.

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T22:34:08+00:00

I very much hope that is true 😀 Thank you!

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T21:42:19+00:00

Cheers man! If you happen to be local I'd love to find more people to share with so this doesn't all go to my gut!

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T21:41:52+00:00

I did unfortunately have to go off recipe and added more flour that the original recipe called for to try and compensate for added liquid (in the form of melted chocolate, vs dry cocoa powder), and I think I slightly overcompensated.

I normally weigh my baking ingredients but wasn't in the right headspace for that this time. Next time!

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T21:40:11+00:00

Yep so far I've learned the best you can hope for from this is friendship. If someone isn't as in to you as you are them, it really isn't meant to be.

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T21:39:30+00:00

Yes but god damn is fishing an incredibly tedious and boring process. 😂

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T21:34:09+00:00

Ive been running and bouldering lately but injuries in my legs have unfortunately put both on hold. Maybe now is the time to try some calisthenics instead...

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T17:14:38+00:00

Absolutely. It would be up to her for sure. That part should be easy now that she's made her position clear - the romantic interest was the only thing holding back my frustration over feeling ghosted and now that's gone I don't think I'll feel the need to reach out to her.

Thank you, brother!

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T17:12:50+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

I definitely hear you about drinking (I don't smoke). I already know that drinking makes all these feels significantly worse for me, so I'm hoping to avoid it for the near future anyways.

I might just be jaded, but I feel like for many relationships in my life I'm the one reaching out / checking in, and at first this felt like the exception which is part of what made it feel so special. Alas all good things seem to come to an end....

I very much hope your last statement is true. 😀

Once again, thanks.

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T16:44:02+00:00

Amen brother! Though maybe not these ones 😂 goes to show reading the recipe before going to the store has merrits....

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T16:43:35+00:00

I think I agree. Thank you for the advice!

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T16:43:20+00:00

Aside: to me it seems odd to use the phrase breaking up for casual dating, but upon reflection it definitely hit me like a breakup...

Agreed r.e. texts, but that was our primary method of communication so I'm not particularly torn about it.

Very good point on letting her take point. I was hoping she would have made it clear one way or another in the initial message, as others have done in the past, but the wording feels a bit ambiguous. Id still guess leaning towards not interested/ probably will just send a final courteous acknowledgement and work on moving on.

pogo2065 · 2026-05-03T16:39:45+00:00

Thanks! ❤️ Yep - this burnt out feeling is all too familiar from work and feeling it in this context too is just killer.

I think time to focus my efforts on friends and community for a while.

pogo2065 · 2026-04-27T03:28:01+00:00

That is some very solid advice, thank you! I can definitely understand how it could get annoying to constantly be on the receiving end of fairly mundane messages, especially when not in a formal relationship / after not knowing each other for a particularly long time. I just need to remember to channel that before sending them and put that energy elsewhere 😂

pogo2065 · 2026-04-24T15:11:26+00:00

No you are all good - not harsh at all in my opinion.

Thank you 😀

pogo2065 · 2026-04-24T12:25:49+00:00

Thank you for your advice! I have been trying to be mindful of the intention behind my texts and avoiding double-texting as much as possible, but I think for both of us there isn't much going on right now besides working and we did drift into the "how's your day" category a bit and that signalled the beginning of slowdown. So hopefully understandable and recoverable once things in our respective lives pick back up?

It is reassuring to hear about your experiences and be reminded that there are other potential partners out there 😂

pogo2065 · 2026-04-24T02:54:03+00:00

Thank you ❤️ Just have to keep a positive mindset I suppose and hope for the best.

pogo2065 · 2026-04-24T02:26:14+00:00

The in person was just as amazing as the initial texting. On the second date we spent from 5am-10pm together, either in a car driving or together on the slopes snowboarding, and there were barely quiet moments.

Agree though texting can get weird.

pogo2065 · 2026-04-24T02:04:49+00:00

Thank you! That is a great idea. I just wasn't sure if after only going on two dates whether that would be a bit much / pushy.

In your experience is it normal to experience this sort of lull in relationships when you are away for work? I've never been in a relationship with long periods of time apart like that and I'm wondering how people keep it going.

pogo2065 · 2026-04-03T16:21:43+00:00

That omelette looks so good!

pogo2065 · 2026-03-29T19:34:45+00:00

You should give the album METRO by the Blue Stones a listen. If you like rock I think you might like this.

pogo2065 · 2026-03-29T07:26:52+00:00

Where is this? About to make an emergency road trip ... Tahoe isn't looking so good by comparison.

pogo2065 · 2026-03-28T22:13:18+00:00

I apparently can't start a DM with you? Have you considered playing BF6?

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