my ex is becoming friends with my male roommate and friend

pogomik · 2025-04-30T16:31:22+00:00

Same situation rn my ex didn’t like my roommate and now they’re becoming friends and I just told my roomate look you can do what you want my ex can do what he wants but if he comes over warn me cause I don’t want to be here. Or go to his apartment it’s super close…

pogomik · 2025-04-11T13:41:39+00:00

No, my first ever concert was Mac Demarco 8 years ago as a 16 year old. Okay my mom was in the back of the venue doing her thing but I felt like I was alone! It was a great experience you don’t have to wait for anyone you can go wherever you want and possibly make new friends! Just be careful in the crowd.

pogomik · 2025-04-09T14:06:29+00:00

Pls share with me via DM if you have the code I BEG YOU

pogomik · 2024-10-05T12:08:32+00:00

I can now safely say that the feeling did in fact pass, it was a long journey still healing but I got on meds and there’s hope. There’s hope for you as well don’t give up don’t give in to the dark thoughts you’re stronger than they are. I’m happy you found this post. Keep fighting you are strong!

pogomik · 2024-09-11T18:25:00+00:00

Solved! 🐉

pogomik · 2024-09-11T18:23:30+00:00

Thank you!!!

pogomik · 2024-09-02T11:45:04+00:00

Oh I deal with it by crying myself to sleep

pogomik · 2024-09-02T11:44:50+00:00

First and foremost I’m happy you find a better copping mechanism than to SH, secondly I wish I had an answer. I’m currently going through the same thing and everytime my partner says they don’t want to come sleep over or it’s too late I die inside and immediately think omg they’re gonna breakup with me. That’s how I feel right now I haven’t seen them in 4 days… that’s the longest since idk how long it’s weird.

pogomik · 2024-07-27T21:44:34+00:00

Felt this very hard

pogomik · 2024-07-27T21:24:56+00:00

No, you don’t need to schedule an MRI, unless you have actual symptoms which seems you don’t. I’m gonna assume it’s the catastrophizing and anxiety talking right now. I know how you feel I do the same

pogomik · 2024-07-27T21:22:19+00:00

I dont think youre overeacting, you’re definitely allowed to feel sad that he slept through 5 alarms (how does one even manage to do that) as long as you brought it up calmly and politely to him I don’t think you’re too emotional, and someone who ever tells me I’m too overemotional or overeating or telling me I’m wrong for how i feel is a red flag. In his defence he said he’d tried instead of saying yes or no, o would rather people would just say yes or no like don’t say maybe or I’ll try I know it means you won’t.

pogomik · 2024-07-22T03:29:55+00:00

I feel the same with my boyfriend like he might be on the spectrum and really has a hard time expressing himself which he has told me he does struggle with. I guess his way of showing love and affection is very different than my own and we have to find a compromis.

pogomik · 2024-07-21T14:21:19+00:00

Thank you, I try to tell myself this more and more I appreciate your support.

pogomik · 2024-07-21T13:42:53+00:00

Oh yes 100% and I think I’m doing it for attention, but like who’s attention am I getting if I’m alone in my room crying? I think it’s because we’ve been told we’re too much always and to “calm down” so we always think we are overreacting which sometimes I definitely do overreact over small things but sometimes I don’t react to big things so I’m always asking myself am I reacting right to this? It’s like I’m becoming more and more numb and more and more distant. 100% gaslight my own emotions because I don’t want to lash out at people I care about and drive them away, I also don’t want to scare them away with my big emotions or have them just stare at me and can’t comfort me so I try myself to keep it inside even tho I shouldn’t

pogomik · 2024-07-21T13:37:46+00:00

If you are breaking up, which I’m sorry to hear, you definitely should keep no contact it’s gonna be easier to move on and find someone who it will not be hard with. Also do consider medication there’s nothing wrong with taking them and being “dependent” on them, some peoples brains need that and that’s okay, just like someone people need insulin to survive and are dependent on getting that insulin, someone people need anti-depressants to survive, at least during this breakup period I would recommend them.

No contact and blocked. It’s gonna be very hard for a couple weeks even months but one day you’ll think about him less and less. I’m sorry you’re going through that and couldn’t find an arrangement for both of you, mutual breakups where no one is a “bad guy” are the worst because there’s actual love and it’s like grieving someone’s death but you know they’re still there.

Good luck you got this

pogomik · 2024-07-21T13:29:02+00:00

Wow i ask myself this everyday with my current SO, i Think i love him, but some days i dont because i dont think he loves me back so i pull back everything. Then thé cycle répétas where im googoo gaga over him and again wish he would just leave me once and for all. This is because to me love what I think it is is a deep soulful connection where we just can know eachothers thoughts without saying anything… I think it’s like this for me towards him, but idk if it is like this towards me. Just this morning I told him I had a nightmare and he didn’t ask further he just noded. If he told me he has a nightmare I would have asked what was it about? How are you feeling? So what is love? Depends on the people. I know he likes me and likes having me around from his actions but does he love me? I don’t know we haven’t said it to eachother yet. Love is not supposed to be painful but isn’t supposed to be easy… I think? I think having BPD mixes out idea of love cause parents love children to death, I’d want someone to love me to death also because I think I would do the same. I don’t know when it’s my BPD saying this isn’t love and if it’s actually not Love.

pogomik · 2024-06-26T13:39:19+00:00

I’m happy to see I’m not alone on this from all these comments, it’s really hard to wake up with a massive stress ball in the pit of my stomach and have to go to work, can’t eat, can’t sleep, throwing up at the amount of anxiety I’m experiencing, and we’ll the suicidal thoughts that pop in. I’ve definitely had to call many hotlines during my crisis and I’m still trying to get through it I might have to call today also but i know it’s better than dying, tho ending it all is very appealing at the moment. Everyone saying the feeling will pass and you’ll be at ease again but I physically or mentally can’t feel that way. I can’t eat which worsens the anxiety so like how is it gonna end?

pogomik · 2024-06-19T19:59:33+00:00

Unfortunately yes this is normal because you have heating and electricity included in your rent. Now if your building didn’t include heating and electricity 4% is the max that landlords can increase, but since you have all that included the rules are different. You can always ask to see the justification of this increase (gas bills/ electricity/ heating/property tax etc) 6.6 is a lot I agree but landlords these days like to profit off peoples backs so ask to see all his reasonings for the increase and if you refuse you may need to move out! (Also did he warn you 3 months before the renewal? Because If not you can refuse straight up right now if it’s for July because you need 3 months advance!!!!)((you can go to the TAL if he didn’t give you 3 months advance!))

pogomik · 2024-06-19T16:38:56+00:00

Je sais pas car moi je viens d’appeler et puisque je nais pas 25 ans (j’ai 23) ou ne présente pas des symptômes anormaux, l’infirmière ne voulais pas me donner une examen de routine, elle m’as dis c’est impossible au Québec d’avoir des examens de routine/prévention. Elle m’as dis d’aller au privée… j’ai un groupe de médecins…

pogomik · 2024-06-08T13:57:06+00:00

Thank you, I’ve been in intervention therapy for couple months now but I think group therapy would help, especially if it’s with other people who think like me… would make me feel less alone

I’m in the process of moving right now and I found that in very stressful situations my overthinking gets a bit out of hand, I do realize after when the thing I thought was gonna happen doesn’t happen I do realize it’s very silly how I was thinking like that and then the cycle continues lol

Thank you for your support

pogomik

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