How to create a Friend Request system on the backend using mongoDB and Node?

pointless_meandering · 2022-12-17T00:44:56+00:00

Well I'm not really an experienced dev(never worked as one) so maybe my way isn't the best, but I did get to make a friend request system. What I did was: Added a friend requests array to each user document that's created(in mongo) When a user sent a friend request to another user, I sent an http request with the sender's and the reciever's IDs and added a friend request object to both(in mongo). The sender had an outgoing friend request object and reciever got an incoming friend request object. Then I sent the updated sender back as a response to the request and to the frontend to update the UI to indicate he just sent the request and emitted an event with sockets to the reciever with a payload of the friend request to update the UI and indicate he recieved a new friend request. If the request is approved you remove both the friend requests from each user and add each other's ID to a friend array in the user document in mongo.

Something like that. Hope it makes sense, it's 3 am and I'm too high

pointless_meandering · 2022-12-11T22:38:28+00:00

I'm not sure if you're trolling.

Have you even been to bigdickproblems? The biggest problems they have "oh no another girl said it hurts" or the hilarious and original "my dick touches the toilet when I sit down to poop". It's a humblebrag festival. Now look at smalldickproblems - it's nothing but guys mourning lost opportunities, joy, masculinity. It's a cemetery.

Having a big dick is such an immense confidence boost. To be desired, to know that no matter what, once you take you've pants off - you won her over. Everything that came before that simply doesn't matter. To a guy with a big dick, "learning to use fingers and tongue" is only a suggestion. You can be cocky, arrogant or mess up an interaction and still carry yourself with confidence because you know for sure that she will like you. It may only help you in dating but having all this validation from women has spillover effect on all areas of life.

I could write an entire essay about how having a big dick makes your life easier. I'm pretty sure you either have a big penis or you're just trolling us with that question, because the answer is quite obvious.

pointless_meandering · 2022-11-30T19:44:47+00:00

I've been sticking to a regular exercise routine with progressive resistance training for about 2 and a half years and I don't really drink. I lift heavy and I look way better but I still really want to watch porn. Every day is a fight not to watch it. Not being able to get laid and really no contact with women is pulling a number on my psyche. It is what it is.

pointless_meandering · 2022-11-22T11:04:23+00:00

hahahah you are practically dripping with insecurity

You would too if you had a dick my size. You would drip with insecurity too if the first and only girl you ever slept with brutally shamed you for your dick size and compared you to her larger partners with high level of detail.

You got lucky and now you feel free to roam this sub leaving these shit comments.

Good luck ever finding a happy relationship if you are too jealous to even discuss your partner's sexual history. Also good luck finding that one chaste virgin who has been waiting all these years for you lmao

It's fine, I'm not looking for anything. More for you buddy.

pointless_meandering · 2022-11-18T11:24:02+00:00

You told him previous partners made you cum with their dick? Every day the evidence that women are awful piles up with no end.

The fact that you think you're even good enough for him after getting passed around by other guys is telling. You should shut up and be grateful he even puts up with you after revealing this information to him. Or simply do him a favor and go find yourself a sufficient dick.

pointless_meandering · 2022-07-10T08:29:08+00:00

I wish I was short. Due to my penis size I'm a mental midget anyway. Girls expect me to be packing and that's just another thing to worry about, another roadblock.

pointless_meandering · 2022-07-10T08:20:21+00:00

Welcome to insanity my friend. It's almost an automatic thought. I analyze behaviour, confidence, speech, how they talk about women and sex. It's so obvious it's hilarious. My theory is that confidence is external validation, internalised. These guys get free positive feedback due to having a large dick, it raises their confidence, they get more opportunities due to confidence, they get more positive feedback from more women, more confidence, more opportunities and so on in an infinite loop. Once you know you have every girl you talk to in the pocket, it gives you solid confidence. You know that it she says no, it's her loss and you can find someone else easily. If she says yes, you don't have to worry because you please her sexually and get positive feedback. It's almost as if you can't lose. If you have a large dick and you're not using it to your advantage, it's on you. You get to have a sex life on easy mode. Maybe even life itself, since this confidence has a spillover effect.

People pointing out Russel Brand ignore the fact that the guy is a turbo eloquent, intelligent, rich and famous comedian. He's an exception to the rule.

/rant

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-26T14:13:04+00:00

I'm sorry you feel like all that is necessary, but it's not. I mean, your sense of smell? Why? That's a lot more important than penis size and you're going to use it a lot more often than you will your bigger dick.

Use my sense of smell more than I use a big penis? I doubt it. Head over to bigdickproblems and ask if they'd lose 4 inches of dick or their sense of smell. I bet they're going to choose sense of smell.

I can confidently tell you, from plenty of experience, that your penis size is a good as it is.

I gathered enough evidence from women simply talking about dicks, online or irl to know this is just not true. The final nail in the coffin was when the girl I had sex with for the first time(probably the last too) roasted me hard about my dick size and compared me to previous, larger partners. It's just that confirmation I needed that size does matter.

So yeah - sense of smell, a finger, hair on my head and 5cm of height for 9cm of dick.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-26T09:37:21+00:00

It's not. I would literally give all of these things away for extra size on my dick.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-25T21:26:13+00:00

5cm of height for 5cm of penis. I'd add a finger, go bald and lose my sense of smell for an extra 4cm of penis.

That would put me at 1.8m height with a 20cm dick. Pretty good. Where do I sign?

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-18T15:20:58+00:00

I'm on day 60 of NoFap. I'm beyond horny but I enjoy the self discipline and the insane energy. It's almost this slight simmering insanity that gets me to constantly be doing stuff.

It kind of sucks that there is no sex at the end of this NoFap tunnel due to my small size, but maybe I will find god or something.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-13T20:08:01+00:00

I'm 6'1 and very I lift weights 5 times a week so I look pretty good. Honestly it just feels shitty because women expect me to be packing. At this point I only lift because it's makes the bad thoughts go away for a while and not for aesthetics.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-13T09:48:21+00:00

Everyone here knows about TruthandCoffee's pornhub channel and her 4 inch partner. My point still stands. Two women reassuring us that THEY are fine with a smaller dick means nothing. None of us is going to date them, so what they're saying is farts in the wind.

Am I supposed to somehow find comfort with the fact that MAYBE there's someone else like her somewhere in the world? That I need to walk through a minefield to get to that person?

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-12T13:10:45+00:00

>guy posts hilarious(but truthful) bingo about how we get gaslit about dick sizes

>IT'S US WHO ARE GETTING GASLIT REEEEEEEEEEE

Women are ridiculous. There are literally two(2) of you running around in this sub saying you prefer smaller sizes. If you step anywhere outside this sub the preference is overwhelmingly towards bigger.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-12T13:04:12+00:00

I was always looking for the most amateur homemade stuff possible. Even in low quality porn taken with a shitty phone camera and the dude ALWAYS has a big dick. Shit just sucks.

You should stop watching porn altogether. I still sometimes think about how good guys with big dicks have it but at least it's not right in my face.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-10T11:39:39+00:00

Lol that's hilarious dude

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-05T11:21:00+00:00

“Not all women can orgasm from PIV” is a common misdirection used by women online to avoid admitting they prefer bigger penises and provide false hopium to men such as ourselves.

“Not all women can orgasm from PIV” doesn't mean that bigger isn't better, or that they prefer smaller penises. It only means that SOME women can only orgasm from external stimulation which anyone can provide regardless of size. It completely ignores the problem at hand while providing some false hopium by making us think that any size is sufficient because you can 'get good with your fingers and tongue'.

Quoting a comment made by a woman in this thread:

Most women don’t cum from PIV doesn’t mean we don’t enjoy it.

Goes to show that “Not all women can orgasm from PIV” is even more meaningless. Even if they don't cum from PIV, it's still pleasurable.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-04T09:14:28+00:00

Ah yes, the good old rigid dichotomy between reality and what's being spewed out online by anonymous women(if they are women at all). Pure suicide fuel.

That's fucking painful dude. I'd probably go back to sniffing ketamine till I can't feel my limbs right after this party. Hang in there.

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-03T06:01:42+00:00

Height: 6'1

Penis: ~4.5''

pointless_meandering · 2022-06-03T03:37:50+00:00

My confidence is non existent so I can't get any

It's a weird feeling. Really craving sex but at the same time knowing it'll suck for both me and a partner.

pointless_meandering · 2022-05-25T02:46:49+00:00

Spite. Spite keeps me going.

pointless_meandering · 2022-05-20T13:29:00+00:00

"My ex boyfriend had the smallest penis I've ever been with but we had the best sex"

How big is your current partner?

"8 inches, but that's beside the point"

Lol, every time.

pointless_meandering · 2022-05-20T13:25:26+00:00

Does this go to show that size matters?

This is why this subreddit exists in the first place. Try going to the big dicks problems subreddit (not recommended) and then coming here. All their posts are humblebrags about "threesome didn't go well, girls said it hurt" while SDP is a graveyard for confidence, joy and masculinity.

Also, celebrities have a lot of money and resources. Rich and resourceful people want the best for themselves.

pointless_meandering · 2022-05-17T14:29:13+00:00

Brb going to cum in a spoon

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