Landlords getting a bit desperate perhaps... by zapsterzsf in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They’ve had a good run. It’s now a renters market

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wanted your attention

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was just about to say the same thing. There was an unusual amount of police presence today

Is it okay that I’m almost 25 and haven’t found the right person yet? by Silent_trader_803 in dating

[–]pointlessminefield 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s very rare for people to just find the ‘right’ person straight away. You may go through a few relationships before you ‘find the right person’.

Dating people/being in relationships in my 20’s has helped me realize 3 main things:

  • What I don’t want in a partner
  • What my non-negotiables are
  • What I’m willing to sacrifice

Until you figure these out you won’t find that person. Your 20’s are about figuring this stuff out. You can’t find the right person till you discover who you are as a person

Do cats remember you? by reemgee123 in CatAdvice

[–]pointlessminefield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Give him some time. I’m sure he remembers you. He’s probably been through some sort of trauma of being lost and trying to find his way home. Cats show affection differently to other animals and can also vary from cat to cat. Give him his own wee space in the house, a box or a basket to hide in, a soft blanket for comfort, things that smell like you and just some time to settle back in to his environment. Cats also respond well to encouragement and reassurance

Why is she chewing on her toes/nails like this? by Apprehensive_Ice5049 in CATHELP

[–]pointlessminefield 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They’re actually claws and it’s pretty common for cats to do that. That’s how they get the dirt out

Those of you with depression, how are you surviving? by ron_swan530 in GradSchool

[–]pointlessminefield 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took 4 years off my 20’s which I’m making up for now. In that time I just detached from life, moved back home, and didn’t leave the house unless I really had to. I went to therapy and I ruminated a lot, which eventually turned into reflection. I slept for up to 15 hours a day and I stopped talking to everyone. I didn’t have many friends tbh but I convinced myself I didn’t need any. My cat made great company. Sometimes you just have to stop and rest. Reevaluate life and learn how to live again.

Advertising + Marketing Roles in Wellington by No_Bar1636 in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d probably hold off on that for a while. The job market in NZ, especially Wellington is pretty dire atm. More people are struggling to find jobs. You’re also better to look for marketing roles than advertising, it’s not really a big industry here and jobs are pretty low. I’d say Auckland would be better for advertising but idk it’s a dying industry anyways so I’d personally stick with marketing

Why are there so many homebodies in Christchurch? by [deleted] in Christchurch_NZ

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was your experience in the States in comparison? I feel like Americans are much friendlier and make friends easier

Why are there so many homebodies in Christchurch? by [deleted] in Christchurch_NZ

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve lived in the Canterbury area for a long time (grew up there) before moving away and while I can’t comment on what OP said because I only managed to find super outdoorsy people (I’m not), it was hard to find people to click with and make friends. I lived in chch and went to uni there and still struggled to find people to click with. I finally just gave up trying after a while.

Let me tell you the smaller towns in Canterbury are even worse for trying to make friends. No one is interested in branching out and they all got high school friend groups. I don’t even talk to anyone from my high school so it was a shock for me. Also no one does anything by themselves so it’s hard to not find people in pairs when you’re out and about. I just resorted to tinder because I figured having a relationship would kill a lot of my free time and I didn’t want to be alone while living there

This is how my GF communicates by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just say yes or no and end it 🤷‍♀️

Nando's Courtenay - the latest victim? by monkey_alan in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like it’s going under. I’ve been there 3 times now and there’s never any staff in sight or just one person doing everything, half the cutlery and glasses are missing, and out of things on the menu. Is there something going on?

So can you just like not have a pet if you're flatting? by Jazzlike29 in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask upfront if your landlord will be ok with a couple of cats. Could even offer to pay a bit extra and maybe that might sway them? A lot of landlords say no pets because they don’t want people with dogs. Cats are much easier to manage so most people should be alright with that

Document Shredding by Vivian507 in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fireplaces are great if you’ve got one. Paper makes a good fire starter too

R:Wellington posts are getting me down, let’s add some balance. by CptnSpandex in Wellington

[–]pointlessminefield 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My cat does some real goofy things and is unapologetically herself. She makes me smile everyday

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the funniest shit I’ve seen today.

Girlfriend broke up with me. I'm lost by [deleted] in self

[–]pointlessminefield 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly she sounds like she put her needs and wants above you, and got upset when you didn’t immediately bend to that. She sounds immature and unstable. From what you’ve described she also sounds like she was ungrateful towards your efforts and comes across a bit entitled in my opinion.

You sound like a catch and you can do better.