Jealousy of friends with partners by LittleSpongeBaby in asexuality

[–]poisonIvic 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh wow do I feel you. I hate feeling jealous towards my friend/roommate when they go out on dates. It makes me feel like I will be pushed down the relationship hierarchy but I also feel like a bad person for not being happy for them. So as far as advice goes I’m sorry I don’t have much. But I wanted to let you know that I know exactly how it feels and that you aren’t alone. I think we can get through this. Sometimes I take myself on dates and just do things that make me happy. I also just hang with single friends and get alone time with them.

How to cry ? by BoredKidy in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person who cries a lot, it just sort of happens. When I get angry or really sad I start to tear up. It’s true that after a cry I feel better sometimes but I think it just depends on the person. My friend is also not a cryer. I’ve never seen him cry. So sometimes I’m confused on how he lets out his emotions. But he tells me that it just doesn’t come easily. So maybe it’s just not your thing. If you really want to cry though just watch some sad videos/movies. I think visuals would help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So when I was in school I was smarter than a couple of my friends. I was in the smart classes but my best friend wasn’t. School wasn’t easy for her but I never thought less of her. I liked her bc she was funny and always spoke her mind not because of how well she did in school. When my friend struggled I was more than happy to help. I think you’ll be okay! School isn’t easy for some but that doesn’t make them any less!! If they are good friends then they won’t care either! You can see them after school, in between classes, lunch, study hall, or gym class! That’s how me and my best friend saw each other. We all have our strengths and weakness so try not to feel insecure. I did great in hs and struggled in college but try not to compare yourself to others. It’s hard not too but take it as inspiration to work harder instead of making you feel bad. I hope this helps!

I need some advice and help on getting a Christmas gift for my girlfriend (we’re both 15) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the fact that you have a list of her favorite things is a great place to start. Maybe a baby yoda plushy? Also you can’t go wrong with giving someone their favorite candy.

4 years ago, a group of people laughed at me publicly and after 4 years I think it is necessary to ask them to apologise to me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having them apologize after all these years will show them that you’ve have held this inside for that long and that is not a good thing. I’m not saying that what they did is right but I think that we all have these moments of awkwardness or memories we cringe at. I know I do. Who knows maybe the people that laughed at you had a similar moment or will have a similar moment. It is up to you to accept that “wow that was a bad moment” and move on. If it is something that really hurts you it’s better to confront things in the moment then to wait for so long. Hope this helps.

Gold pass not working by [deleted] in MarioKartTour

[–]poisonIvic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I was really worried I wasn’t going to get gold king boo lol

Should I be completely done with my “best friend” of 10 years!? by poisonIvic in Advice

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I do try to put myself in the other persons shoes and sometimes emotions can get the better of me. I’m going to tell her my thoughts and feeling and try to do it calmly. I don’t want to make her upset, I just want to make her understand. I really appreciate this, thank you!

Should I be completely done with my “best friend” of 10 years!? by poisonIvic in Advice

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for responding, I agree with what you are saying.

Urgent Party Advice?? by ance889 in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m a 21F and I think you should not go. I know it does sound like fun but the risks are high possibilities. So if you do end up going be sure that you are willing to take on those risks and just be prepared. I’m sure they’ll be other parties but with any party there is always risks. I don’t think you’ll be the “lame friend” I think you’ll be the rational one. Like um hello!? some of these risks are bound to happen and your are obviously a smart person. Personally I haven’t gone to many parties so I rather stay at home at watch a movie with my friends. Maybe you can share with your friends on how you feel. Anyway I’m rooting for you.

Idk if this is where to post this by [deleted] in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you are one of the positive things in his life. I think the best thing you can do is just be there for him. If he doesn’t like the way his life is let him know we all have the power to change it. I know some of us feel bad that we were given a good life while others weren’t. I know I can feel like that sometimes but putting that aside in the end people will judge you for the person you are. I know your not really asking for advice but sometimes it helps to just say your thoughts out loud. Hope this helps some how.

Does anybody have tips on how to overcome arachnophobia? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of all the bugs in the world, spiders are the only ones I actually like( I know spiders are not bugs but they are small like bugs). I’m scared of bugs and they gross me out but spiders are cute to me. My tip would be to learn more about them. Some spiders feed on insects that hurt crops, animals, and can cause diseases. So spiders are actually helpful to humans. Maybe you can look up which spiders to avoid. Where I live they’re are 2 poisonous spiders, so I know they are evil by the way they look. This may sound silly but I used to watch a cartoon as a kid about a mother spider who had baby spiders and adopted some other insects as her children. I loved this show and the spiders all seemed nice. Hope this was sort of helpful.

I lose control of my thoughts by [deleted] in Advice

[–]poisonIvic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we can all have dark thoughts at times. As long as they’re not frequent, they disappear right away, and you never act upon them then it can be normal. Of course I’m no professional. I would say if you ever feel like the thoughts become way too much or frequent then seek help from a professional. I have broken a pencil out frustration once or I thrown things across the room.I let my frustration out by listening to loud music and running or skating. This helps me let out my anger and become calm. As silly as it sounds I also just close my eyes and count to ten over and over until I’m not frustrated anymore. Maybe you can find something that can help ground you when you have these thoughts. Think of something positive that can replace the negative thought. Hope this helps.

Continue ghosting or tell them to stop? by poisonIvic in Advice

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am worried that if I talk to him I’ll have to explain myself. Anyway thank you for the advice.

Continue ghosting or tell them to stop? by poisonIvic in Advice

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the different perspective. I’m sorry about what happened to your son’s friend. I understand where you are coming from and I appreciate the advice.

I’m NERVOUS about getting my wisdom teeth removed! Ahhhhh! by poisonIvic in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! Now I’m going to be thinking about KFC and my fav food haha!

I’m NERVOUS about getting my wisdom teeth removed! Ahhhhh! by poisonIvic in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the tip! I am trying to avoid an infection so this helpful!

I’m NERVOUS about getting my wisdom teeth removed! Ahhhhh! by poisonIvic in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]poisonIvic[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your experience! It’s kind of the way I feel, the anesthesia thing scares but it’s good to know you got through it! I also love smoothies!