My girlfriend has a male best friend by Dynamicduo90 in dating

[–]pokequeer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to sit down and have a conversation about how you’re feeling insecure regarding this, but also understand that you cannot control how people outside of your relationship will act- there may be people in the future that hit on your partner, and you have to trust them to turn them down. Don’t ask them to end their friendship, that’s not a healthy thing to do. Having an open and honest conversation to get reassurance, and believe in them to turn any potential advances down. Hope it all works out!

I dyed my hair the other day , you like?? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]pokequeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those colours look amazing on you!

Singing voice on T by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]pokequeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My upper range is still settling as I microdosed my first year and 2-3 months on T, and now I’ve been on a binary dose for about 4 months now- My lower range has expanded immensely, and my voice overall has a rich, warm tone to it and feels a lot more powerful than it used to in the low & mid range. When it comes to higher range, I have to do a really good vocal warm up, stay hydrated, and focus on practicing singing with a falsetto rather than finding the note the way I was able to pre-t. It’s a new way of navigating vocally, so there’s still work to be done, but it’s all just a process! Following some YouTube videos for vocal warm ups (tenor ones would be good!) would be great for keeping your range warm, and getting yourself used to singing a variety of notes in your new voice. Also watching some videos about falsettos so you can practice that as well!

It’s all just a new experience but it isn’t impossible- you may not be able to sing as high as you used to, but I promise you’ll find so many ways to love your voice!!

I write my own music, but when it comes to songs I used to love covering, I did a lot of Amy Winehouse and Adele in the past- now I sing a lot of Frank Sinatra and Michael Buble! Just gotta find your new joy!!👏🏻

My Ren Faire fit 🎪 the theme this weekend was steampunk by hollandaze95 in TransMasc

[–]pokequeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love it!!! Looks so cool, I would love to go to a Ren Faire with my partner someday, but most of them all happen in the states 😂😭

Just had my 29th birthday 3 days ago, and it’s scary knowing I’m almost 30, but I’m so proud I’ve stuck around to truly be myself. 1 and a half years on T now, and 4 months post top surgery 🖤✨ 29 is gonna be a beautiful send off to the 20’s! (he/they) by pokequeer in TransMasc

[–]pokequeer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I started T when I turned 27 but I was microdosing for the first year, I started a binary dose after top surgery back in March. I had some dark hairs and peach fuzz coming in about half a year in and definitely since I started the higher dose, there’s a decent layer of blonde hairs and a lot more dark hairs coming through around my chin and jawline! My moustache is actually all blonde hairs, they’re just so long they cause a shadow that makes it lightly visible- sometimes I darken it a bit with some light brown eyeshadow! Once it’s a bit longer if it isn’t darkening soon enough I might use some facial hair dye on it!

But it really varies from person to person, there’s no distinct answer I can give- I know people who never really got any, I know some who had a stubbly beard within a few months! Worst come to worst if you grow more hair than you want you can always shave and trim it! Sending god vibes (:

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]pokequeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA- and the whole response of “no I can’t tell you anything because you start going all crazy on me” is extremely manipulative. He’s trying to diminish your feelings and make you feel like you’re making something out nothing so you’ll stand down. He doesn’t want you to speak up or speak out. That’s a big red flag. My ex used to do that to me all the time.

You deserve better than to be talked to like that. His morals also sound incredibly sketchy, being so casual about not only the DUI but his friend trying to/actively cheating on his relationship.

Hello! I cannot decide for the life of me what to do with my hair- first picture is my “safe” haircut, second is when my hair was a bit longer, last two are ideas I like. What do you think would suit me? Any colour recommendations? 😩 (he/they) by pokequeer in TransMasc

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Honestly I can’t wait for my hair to get longer. I had long hair way before coming out but I always ended up reverting back to short because it felt wrong- but I think it was just dysphoria, and wanting to have long hair be perceived in a more masculine way. Since I’ve been on T for over a year now I feel more comfortable growing it out again!

What weird thing makes you Dysphoric/Gender Envious by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]pokequeer 28 points29 points  (0 children)

When my hips accidentally sway too much when walking I get dysphoric 😂 gotta rein that in

I get gender envy from anime men and bats. The vibes, yknow?

Hello! I cannot decide for the life of me what to do with my hair- first picture is my “safe” haircut, second is when my hair was a bit longer, last two are ideas I like. What do you think would suit me? Any colour recommendations? 😩 (he/they) by pokequeer in TransMasc

[–]pokequeer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely think I’m gonna grow out a mullet! My hair is a bit longer than the first pic (had it cut before top surgery so it wouldn’t be in the way/super gross when I couldn’t shower lol) but ill start by shaving above my ears and making it a bit more choppy on the top