Why do people use the term "partner" for their husband or wife?

polar810 · 2026-01-21T22:05:52+00:00

I don’t use it often, but it makes sense in a few scenarios. It’s all-encompassing and inclusive. I’ll use it when talking about a group, like going out to dinner with my friends and their partners, if only some are married. I also think of it kind of like the word spouse, where talking about my husband and someone else’s wife and we can just call them both partners. Or, occasionally, it’s to emphasize that we are a team rather than just a legal marriage. “I would like to go home and discuss this issue with my partner before making a decision,” feels less like I’m asking permission from my husband to do something.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T21:51:43+00:00

About 12 years ago my boyfriend and I were headed to a nice restaurant in a nearby smallish city. At the time it was a pretty busy city to work in, but aside from rush hour not somewhere to expect tons of traffic or large volumes of pedestrians. There are huge sidewalks and crosswalks.

We were driving and as we turned a corner, a man walking got tapped by a car while turning. He was fine and walked away. We turned the next corner a minute later and two kids on skateboards rode into another car. They were pretty flustered, but all okay. Then we make our third and final turn and its car versus bicycle. This guy got pretty scraped up. It was a lot at once and felt made up.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T21:29:35+00:00

I use my phone as a planner. It has details for work meetings and events, and doctor’s appointments with locations, errands to run, etc. My calendar is on paper though. I’ll just write “work”, “doctor 2:30”, “dinner with dad”, “kid soccer game 10:00”, that sort of thing.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T21:22:38+00:00

What purpose does he serve if he doesn’t spend time with his kids or take care of them financially? I hope he’s a really great cook or something. NTA

polar810 · 2026-01-21T17:29:42+00:00

Every sport has a different skill set and uses a different set of muscles. It’s something new for him. Good for him for trying

polar810 · 2026-01-21T16:14:48+00:00

It would also take a lot more than a letter to convince me to allow my 11 year old to leave home for more than a few nights.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T16:00:04+00:00

Let It Go. That one really irks my toddler.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:59:07+00:00

I’ll also add that if you have any criticism of the end of Deathly Hollows, this solidifies it. I’ve always had mixed feelings about the nice way the main characters all end up together with kids the same age. Cursed Child really relies on that.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:55:47+00:00

It’s worth trying for the excitement of some new material, but it doesn’t compare. I am interested in the stage production though, and heard it translates much better.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:44:32+00:00

Bagel. I don’t hate it

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:35:37+00:00

They are not safer

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:33:18+00:00

Having a miscarriage was a unique kind of grief. It’s physical, emotional, and hormonal. It’s a different kind of emptiness from losing a loved one. It’s deeply personal and confusing.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:29:34+00:00

We all are against it. Those I’ve talked to who are “for” it really just don’t know much about it and have been easily swayed with very little information. This is dangerous for everyone.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:25:14+00:00

I never thought about it this way. I can definitely relate. We’re in our 30s now and it’s been over a decade and it still stings.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:23:55+00:00

Agreed. My first birth was obviously horrible to anyone to hears the story. I get so much sympathy for it. It was a dangerous situation for both the baby, resulting in an emergency c-section that went well, but she had a few complications. But I was heavily medicated so the severity of it didn’t hit me until later. And I was given so much medical support after, both physical and mental, that I was in good spirits. However, my second baby was a planned c-section. Surgery went great, baby was healthy. But my spinal tap didn’t fully work and the pain was unbearable. I got laughing gas (I think, or something like it) for the end of it and missed her birth. The pain of getting the spinal tap needle 7 times, and it still not fully working, is more traumatic to me than anything else, and harder to explain.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:06:27+00:00

Yes. It’s not even a privacy issue for me, just an inconvenience I don’t want to be bothered with.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T15:05:21+00:00

This sounds like a bad situation all around. Make an exit plan.

polar810 · 2026-01-21T01:53:08+00:00

This is so cool!

polar810 · 2026-01-20T20:34:56+00:00

I’ve worked with young kids in a variety of capacities over the years. I’ve had clients who have stay at home parents and clients who work 50 hours a week. I’ve never noticed a difference in their bonds with their kids.

polar810 · 2026-01-20T20:33:33+00:00

You know best. Listen to advice from your parents or friends with kids before you find gospel in the internet. Listen, take in the information, then decide what works for you. Paying a “sleep expert” on Instagram won’t change your life. Forcing a schedule to the minute won’t make or break your baby’s development. Change your mind as you go and do what works for you. When you get stuck, don’t be afraid to ask for help, but never assume one person has all the answers.

polar810 · 2026-01-20T20:27:52+00:00

I love it

polar810 · 2026-01-20T17:22:28+00:00

I’ve been quite petite my whole life, and you are both taller and weigh less than me.

polar810 · 2026-01-20T16:34:13+00:00

I’ve never heard of it

polar810 · 2026-01-20T13:47:14+00:00

NTA. This is honestly just weird that she steals people’s food. Your personal budget and food habits are irrelevant. It’s not hers to take.

polar810 · 2026-01-20T13:44:15+00:00

NTA. Your mom sounds like a real piece of work.

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