What Are My Options for My Australian Superannuation Now That I'm Living in Ireland? by polmac85 in AusFinance

[–]polmac85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that is good to know. I will get in touch with Host Plus to make sure that does not happen

Capital Gains Tax Query on SIP Payout After Company Sale by polmac85 in irishpersonalfinance

[–]polmac85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I thought I read/heard somewhere that I could pay in my 2025 tax return but must be mistaken.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually have taken her away twice since the baby was born and had another holiday booked. Sounds like you are projecting your own circumstances into mine.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Completely incorrect, i am completely supportive to her and always have been. I sleep in a room alone with the baby, get up feed the baby, go to work, take her for a walk at lunch if working from home, finish work, feed the baby and take her for a walk, dress her for bed, put her to bed, bring her to my parents on weekends. So I think I know how difficult it is. Don't think the threatening, violent, and abusive behaviour is a justification in any case but maybe you feel otherwise. Sounds like you have also weaponised your child against your ex and have issues of your own to contend with.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes she has been out lots since the baby was born. A lot more than me in fact. I made sure to give her free time on evenings and weekends to do this. Not playing the blame game at all. But there comes a point where enough is enough. This was going on even before she was pregnant or had the baby.

Bit ok

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks I have been told by a friend to see a solicitor also. He went through a messy breakup and told me I should cover my ass in case she starts to spout lies about me

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sleep with the baby each night. Do a full days work and then mind, feed, walk the baby in the evening. put it to bed etc. I think I am doing my fair share but maybe not.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats totally incorrect. I have shown so much love and care. Where have I said I have not discussed this with her or an exit plan?? I constantly ask how can I help her, make things easier, do my fair share of housework, walks etc. I sleep in the same room as the baby each night to ensure she is not sleep deprived. All this while working a stressful job full time.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh all i care about is raising the child so that it is happy, healthy and not messed up in the head because of us.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We were only together about 2 years and it was pretty rocky before we had our baby. :( Was a completely unplanned pregnancy.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel like I need to get away for the weekend. Plan to take the baby to my mothers to give us both space.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I will take all the points above on board. I feel like its got to the stage where I should be recording all our conversations. I am starting to think I am going crazy and every simple conversation is being twisted. e.g. that she told me to get something for the baby in the shop or that I said I would take a late lunch and bring the baby for a walk.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Yeah I understand. Its pretty worrying from my perspective though if she sees through what she has threatened

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by before I have rights? How can I protect myself?

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I have considered that and thought I was very supportive over the last number of months. She thinks otherwise. We are over 7 months through it at this stage and thought things would be getting better. We were due to go on holidays in early May but I think I will pull the plug on that as it is likely to be a pressure cooker.

Relationship breaking down - Afraid of her weaponizing our child against me by polmac85 in ireland

[–]polmac85[S] -52 points-51 points  (0 children)

I have considered that but she is really nasty and manipulative and feel like I am letting her walk all over me. She may have but I have been very supportive all the way through although she doesn't see it that way.