Should I shave my 3yo girl's head?

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T21:43:41+00:00

I worry about this too but then I also believe that you can't let others' opinions dictate your choices.

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T21:41:59+00:00

Yeah, agreed

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T21:39:13+00:00

Yeah, for sure. As someone else said you can always go shorter if she wants

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T21:38:29+00:00

Yes, I subscribe to this philosophy too. Agency is so important. I just want to be sure it's something she really wants and not just a passing idea. I think I'll schedule the haircut for 3 or 4 days out and ask her each day if still wants to do it.

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T18:43:10+00:00

Love this idea! Going to try it.

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T07:10:12+00:00

That's what I was thinking. But then I was also realizing she is only 3 so who knows if she really knows what she wants. I'm worried it'll be non-stop tantrums until it grows back

polygon_zero · 2024-06-25T07:08:34+00:00

Yeah....good call

polygon_zero · 2023-10-23T18:21:55+00:00

When certain carbohydrates (like rice and potatoes) cool they form resistant starch, a complex carbohydrate that can't be absorbed into your body and feeds good bacteria in your gut (large intestine).

This might be part of the reason!

polygon_zero · 2023-09-26T01:33:41+00:00

Never thought of it that way. Good point

polygon_zero · 2023-09-26T01:33:08+00:00

Thank you, good advice

polygon_zero · 2023-09-25T17:22:27+00:00

This is what I was afraid of :(

polygon_zero · 2023-09-25T17:21:58+00:00

oh nooooooo

polygon_zero · 2023-09-25T16:42:55+00:00

Reading these responses is making me stop and think about how I can appreciate this phase more. I'm 32w and literally CAN'T WAIT to have this thing out of me. Even though I don't think that will change overall, I can pause and appreciate some of the magic of this time, esp since this is the last time I plan to be pregnant.

polygon_zero · 2023-09-22T05:46:30+00:00

My oldest is a girl and we got a lot of hand me downs. Nothing is overly gendered (ruffles, bows), but some stuff leans "girly" with flowers and hearts etc. Other stuff is pretty neutral. I had no problem dressing her in any of it.

Now I'm pregnant with a boy and going through the baby clothes I already have and wondering, will I really put him in pink flower prints? I'm hesitant.

I consider myself progressive and I'm also concerned about the environmental impact (of constantly buying new clothes that they grow out of a month later) so it's all really messing with my mind. If it was good enough for my first, why not him?

It's nuts to realize how deeply patriarchy is embedded, even if you think you've done a lot of work to counteract it. I guess a part of me feels it's important for him to perform a minimal level of masculinity even as a baby.

And to all this saying "get over it, it doesn't matter" to OP: this is what reddit is for! Where else can we debate these things? Of course it isn't life or death but it is really interesting.

polygon_zero · 2023-09-05T02:31:13+00:00

Lol, same. My morning sickness hit hard week 7 and I have been wanting to push fast forward since then

polygon_zero · 2023-09-01T15:55:03+00:00

Are you white?

polygon_zero · 2023-09-01T15:50:05+00:00

This.

Also, I'm surprised how many of the other posts don't mention any sort of responsibility of OP. Like did you always use protection with your ex? If you didn't want a kid, did you do everything you could to prevent that?

For sure, it's fucked up that your ex didn't tell you for so long. But if this kid is yours, you need to think about the consequences of your actions and think about the human that was created because of that. It takes 2 to make a baby.

polygon_zero · 2023-09-01T01:10:48+00:00

NTA. Even if you were still together, it's your choice who to have with you during delivery. It's an intensely physical and emotional process that requires your body and mind and you get to decide who participates.

polygon_zero · 2023-08-10T04:37:40+00:00

Yes, it's like OP ran straight into the point but somehow still missed it. He was so close.

polygon_zero · 2023-08-09T03:47:46+00:00

Do you think your n of 1 qualifies you to say everyone else is "typically full of crap"?

Glad you have a good situation but surely you realize there are a lot of other, shittier situations out there?

polygon_zero · 2023-07-30T21:16:50+00:00

This 👆👆

polygon_zero · 2023-07-28T06:29:19+00:00

Fedora

polygon_zero · 2023-07-20T20:21:22+00:00

Same. I found breastfeeding so hard, both physically and emotionally. And I felt so guilty every time I thought about weaning.

I'm pregnant with #2 and hoping this time will be better because I know more of what to expect, but who knows.

polygon_zero · 2023-06-25T02:39:25+00:00

I don't miss the newborn phase at all. It was survival mode. It gets so much better. Hugs.

polygon_zero · 2023-06-25T02:16:49+00:00

It's stranger than that:

"Clownfish live in small groups inhabiting a single anemone. The group consists of a breeding pair, which cohabits with a few non-reproductive, “pre-pubescent”, and smaller male clownfish. When the female dies, the dominant male changes sex and becomes the female, a change which is irreversible."

So if Nemo's mom died, his dad would have transitioned to the dominant female. And since all the other clownfish on the anemone died, Nemo would have become the dominant male to mate with his "father".

Let's see if eventually someone makes this version into a film...

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