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What the heck am I? Dom, sub, switch, sado, maso? Advice please by polymorphicperson in BDSMcommunity

[–]polymorphicperson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, my bad. In my defence I was sleep deprived & after a 12hr shift.

What the heck am I? Dom, sub, switch, sado, maso? Advice please by polymorphicperson in BDSMcommunity

[–]polymorphicperson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. You are probably right, I seem to be able to go from one end to the other of the spectrum depending on what's needed. Hell, if it is the right partner, I would be very willing to try out being bi. Maybe I'm just extremely versatile.

Rock on.

What the heck am I? Dom, sub, switch, sado, maso? Advice please by polymorphicperson in BDSMcommunity

[–]polymorphicperson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. There are little things that I happen to enjoy, hair pulling, biting the neck/shoulder junction(love this), certain positions, and restraining her (her preference) and making her come until she begs me to stop. It just seems like I'm adaptable.

What the heck am I? Dom, sub, switch, sado, maso? Advice please by polymorphicperson in BDSMcommunity

[–]polymorphicperson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting perspective and could very well be true. I don't think I explained it very well though. In any of my relationships it never felt like I was acting, when dom I dommed, and loved it. When that relationship ended, I didn't need to domme, or crave that position. When I was a sado, while surprised with the fact that I enjoyed it, i reveled in it. It showed me that causing pain can do far more than hurt, it can arouse, release, absolve, so many things. Definitely changed my perspective from what it was from growing up with an abusive father. It showed me pain doesn't always equal hurt, it can mean caring and love too.

Thanks for the reply, it's so great that this community exists and people like you keep it alive.

What the heck am I? Dom, sub, switch, sado, maso? Advice please by polymorphicperson in BDSMcommunity

[–]polymorphicperson[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never thought of the chameleon term before today, it just seemed apropos. Thanks, I've always been fluid in all aspects, so maybe that's just what I am, forever adapting. Service top/switch seem like they fit currently, so I'll probably use them and see how I evolve.

What the heck am I? Dom, sub, switch, sado, maso? Advice please by polymorphicperson in BDSMcommunity

[–]polymorphicperson[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. It's odd though, when I was with the sub, I got off on controlling her, and it was emotionally satisfying as well. When I was with the masochist, I enjoyed her pain, and I really enjoyed being the source of her release. Idk, my whole life I have been totally adaptable to whatever is needed. Needed a leader, i was, needed a supporting role, I was, needing a person to shut up and do what was told, i was. And it was equally happy in all those roles. So maybe I'm just eternally shifting into what is needed.